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Narcissistic abuse was originally defined as a specific form of emotional abuse of children by narcissistic parents, but more recently the term has been applied more broadly to refer to any abuse by a narcissist (someone that who admires their own attributes), in particular in adult-to-adult relationships the abuse may be mental, physical, financial, spiritual or sexual. If you have been through an abusive relationship with someone who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder, you will know that no one understands what you are going through unless they have personally experienced it.

I know that you’re the kind of woman who wants to be able to live life on your own terms, but in order to do that, you need to know how to keep yourself and your space safe. The problem is that right now, your safety depends on what the guys around you want, not what you want. It makes you feel vulnerable, sometimes even scared.

Part memoir, part investigation into the taboo topic of male child sexual abuse, You Made Me This Way is a very personal book, driven by Shannon revealing his own experience of having been sexually abused as a young child, and his grappling to understand how this has shaped him. The majority of men sexually abused as children never speak about their past and hide their shame and trauma away, forever carrying an enormous burden on their own, often with terrible consequences.

This book is more than just a book of child abuse stories. The victims of child sexual abuse are one out of four girls and one out of seven boys (World Health Organization). A majority of the offenders are people they know and trust like their family members.

The figures are shocking: 40% of American women and nearly a quarter of American men have been sexually assaulted. While #MeToo stories and the survivors who shared them have helped combat sexual harassment in the workplace, improved police interventions, and resulted in high-profile convictions, the public has only just begun to reckon with the impact sexual assault has on survivors. The ongoing silence points to the still-taboo intersection of two subjects: sexual assault and sexuality. Sex After Sexual Assault explores this crossroads through the lens of survivors' own stories.

"What do you do when it seems as if the God you were taught about is “absent” to you? What if the man you loved and would do anything for, violated you and your trust? What if that man is a family member? What if that family member is your dad? You are broken, your relationships are destroyed, your life appears to be in pieces. Your thought process is destroyed, so you think. You don’t trust men anymore because your “earthly” dad messed that up for you. Not to mention your trust in a Man you were taught to believe in that you’ve never seen before, allowed it to happen.

The Me Too movement, started by Black feminist Tarana Burke in 2006, went viral as a hashtag 11 years later after a tweet by White actor Alyssa Milano. Mainstream movements like #MeToo have often built on and coopted the work of women of color, while refusing to learn from them or center their concerns. Far too often, the message is not "Me, Too" but "Me, Not You". Me, Not You argues that the mainstream movement against sexual violence expresses a political whiteness that both reflects its demographics and limits its revolutionary potential.

Bystander intervention is simply overcoming that “freeze” instinct and getting back to the very human desire to take care of one another. It’s not about being the hero, strapping on spandex, and saving the day. And it certainly isn’t about sacrificing your own safety. From the nonprofit organization Hollaback!, I’ve Got Your Back teaches listeners the ins and outs of bystander intervention using Hollaback!’s methodology: the 5D’s of bystander intervention—distract, delegate, document, delay, and direct.

Cualquier niña o niño es víctima potencial de un abusador. El 80% de los casos de abusos sexuales infantiles se produce dentro de la familia. Si ya es complicado denunciar a un profesor y a veces tienen que pasar años, debe resultar mucho más difícil explicar que quien ha abusado de ti es el padre o el abuelo. Las víctimas de abusos sexuales necesitan hablar porque saben que de este modo pueden ayudar a otros y también ayudarse a sí mismos. Son voces que solo piden una cosa: que les escuchemos.

Shawna Potter, singer for the band War on Women, has tackled sexism and harassment in lyrics and on stage for years. Taking the battle to music venues themselves, she has trained night clubs and community spaces in how to create safer environments for marginalized people. Now she’s turned decades of experience into a clear and concise guide for public spaces of all sorts, from art galleries to bagel shops to concert halls, that want to shut down harassers wherever they show up.

It is an honor and a privilege to be an ally to a survivor of sexual assault. She allows you close to her pain, and you help her heal, with no expectations on her. It’s not a commitment to enter lightly. If Jesus has burdened your heart for a survivor, but you don’t know what to do, start with this audiobook. It will take work, prayer, and patience, but she’s worth it.

From the creators of Molestation Monologues (Voice Arts Awards nominee) and Secrets Unleashed Game: Talk Play Heal, comes a new audiobook on sexual abuse - specifically child sexual abuse - and why some survivors may choose to remain silent. The audiobook jumps around a bit as if one minute they are talking to a fellow survivor, and the next minute they are talking to a caretaker or friend, but one thing is consistent throughout: their deep compassion and care for survivors of abuse.