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we are NOT the SAME

we are NOT the SAME

By: Heather Gardner and Lacey Joseph
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We Are Not the Same: Join our comedic journey as Bodybuilder Barbie flexes her muscles against Daria’s dry wit! Dive into the hilarity of life’s twists and turns through the eyes of two contrasting besties who prove that different perspectives lead to the best stories. Tune in for laughs, randomness, and a sprinkle of chaos!





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  • If Trauma Had A Delete Button, My Ex Would Be First In Line
    Nov 24 2025

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    What would you trade for peace of mind—a full year of your memory, a single person who did damage, or nothing at all? We crack open a messy, honest thought experiment and chase it through the real costs: identity, relationships, and the lessons that only hard seasons can teach. The premise sounds merciful—wipe the worst twelve months, skip the grief, dodge the chaos—but the ripple effects are ruthless. If those months built your boundaries and instincts, deleting them might also delete the wisdom you use to stay safe now.

    We walk through the edge cases: picking a “boring” year, erasing only one person Eternal Sunshine‑style, and why pattern recognition matters more than clean timelines. The conversation gets personal—sober choices that changed the arc, manipulation that took time to unlearn, and the way self‑awareness can make you cringe before it makes you better. We also let humor breathe the heavy parts: ADHD love languages (object permanence affection is real), time blindness as a dragon you have to slay to show up on time, and the absurdity of the “boy aquarium” at a hockey game. The stories get unhinged and human, but the throughline stays clear: you don’t become stronger by forgetting; you become safer by integrating.

    If you’ve ever wished for a delete button on your past—after a breakup, a loss, or a season that still echoes—this conversation offers a grounded alternative. Keep the memories, mine them for meaning, and level up without repeating the same boss fight. Hit play for honest takes, dark humor, and practical reflections on trauma, resilience, ADHD, sobriety, and friendship that shows up with snacks, rides, and the truth.

    Enjoyed this one? Subscribe, rate five stars, and share with a friend who might be tempted by the “erase” button. Then tell us: if you could erase one year—or one person—would you do it, and why?

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    1 hr
  • My GPS Said “Two Minutes Away” Then “Fourteen” And Honestly Same
    Nov 17 2025

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    Ever been “two minutes away,” then suddenly fourteen, then two again? We start with the comedy of autopilot driving and glitchy GPS, then follow the tangents to where life actually happens: cheer season’s hidden workload, why counting beats matters more than people think, and how left versus right becomes chaos when stage directions flip. It’s the gap between what we assume kids know and what they’re rarely taught—timing, rhythm, body awareness—and why those basics can be the difference between panic and poise when the music cuts.

    We share the ADHD reality of starting six tasks and finishing one, the reward breaks that become detours, and the small systems that help close loops anyway. From there, the conversation sharpens: hypnosis, past-life regression, and the placebo effect get a skeptical but curious look. We acknowledge the mind’s power without surrendering to magical thinking, emphasizing safety and consent when “healing” crosses into performance. Then comes pregnancy honesty—high-risk protocols, bile-soaked mornings, and the myth that enjoying pregnancy is universal. Body autonomy is the anchor, including a frank discussion of continuous birth control when it’s the right medical call.

    The final act is sex without shame. We confront the orgasm gap, normalize the need for direct clitoral stimulation, and call toys what they are: smart tools, not insults. Partners who collaborate make intimacy better for everyone. We also set a hard boundary on substance use and driving—nostalgia isn’t a pass for unsafe choices. Through it all, the throughline is agency: over your focus, your routes, your routines, your body, and your pleasure. If that mix of candor and humor feels like home, press play, subscribe, and tell us the hot take you’re still arguing with. Your stories make this conversation better—drop us a note or a review and keep it going.

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    45 mins
  • Mega Aries, Minor Chaos, Major Healing
    Nov 10 2025

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    What happens when the scary card isn’t scary at all? We pull “death,” talk through what real endings look like, and watch it open a door to rebirth, revival, and a softer self that finally gets to breathe. Along the way we get honest about the weird panic that arrives when life improves—how fight‑or‑flight lingers, how self‑sabotage masquerades as realism, and how steady communication in a new relationship can feel suspicious when you’re used to chaos.

    The spread reaches beyond symbolism. Nurture becomes practical: watering your own grass and letting safety grow slowly. Surrender becomes a permission slip to love again after loss without erasing what came before. The beloved shows up as balance—two people filling each other’s cups, protected by clear words and small daily acts. We share the unglamorous work behind that balance, from resisting old triggers to asking for help before a spiral takes over.

    We also wade into astrology as a language for patterns, not a script for fate: double Aries fire, Cancer sensitivity, Capricorn structure, and why “knowing your chart” can feel like finally getting the why. Mental health is on the table too—bipolar type distinctions, psychosis, medication that keeps the floor steady—and the courage it takes to honor routines that keep a brain safe. There’s laughter in the cracks (hello, Mega Aries), but the throughline is clear: closure, care, and choosing the path that protects your peace.

    If you’re rebuilding after manipulation or bracing when good things happen, this conversation offers tools, language, and a little light. Press play, subscribe for more honest readings and real talk, and share this with a friend who needs proof that joy can be safe again. Then tell us: what cycle are you ready to end?

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    42 mins
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