Vanessa Ho, director of Project X Singapore, joins Eva Oh to unpack the legal, medical, and social realities for sex workers in Singapore. They discuss everything from navigating hostile systems and language barriers to launching a powerful anthology written by sex workers themselves. With 14 years on the frontline, Vanessa sheds light on criminalisation, community, and what real progress could look like.

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HIGHLIGHTS:

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(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:21) - Vanessa, Director of Project X Singapore

(01:25) - How Project X Helps Sex Workers - a lot!

(04:30) - Sex Work Legalities in Singapore

(06:40) - Accessing Health Services Awkwardly as a Sex Worker

(08:58) - Their Book Project - A Singaporean Sex Worker Anthology

(12:40) - What We Have Learned in Our 14 Years around the Sex Industry

(14:50) - Who is Project X?

(15:45) - Singapore's Sex Work Landscape, Throwing OF Creators into Jail

(19:50) - Working with Parliament

(21:40) - Multi-multi-lingual Outreach Services and Woes

(28:33) - The Fight for Legitimacy and Hopes for Singapore

(31:45) - Trafficking, Domestic Workers and Singapore's Villainisation of the Other

From tradie to TikTok to top escort—Will Charmer joins Eva Oh to talk about his path into sex work, the emotional and spiritual layers of male escorting, and how being tethered to family, Taoism, and marriage has helped him navigate it all. They talk cult upbringings, male privilege, aging, and what it really takes to make clients feel safe.

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HIGHLIGHTS:

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(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:21) - Will Charmer, Male Escort

(01:30) - Will's First Escorting Job, Kismet!

(04:10) - From Tradie to Tik Tok to Escorting

(04:40) - Coming from a Christian Cult

(09:10) - Empowerment through Escorting

(12:25) - Navigating Marriage as an Escort

(14:15) - The Emotional Work of Male Escorting

(17:25) - Having a Young Family as a Tether

(19:50) - Taoism and Navigating Community Carefully

(24:15) - Male Privilege in Escorting

(25:50) - Becoming Australia's Best Male Escort

(28:25) - The Magic and Downsides of Giving Client's a Safer Space

(32:30) - The First Thing You Need to be a Male Escort

(35:40) - The Advantage of Being Married as an Escort

(39:30) - Friends and Family's Response to the Job

(42:00) - How Stay Open, in Aging and the Everyday

Kink isn't just about getting off—though that's valid too. In this episode, I trace how kink first pulled me in and why it continues to matter. We explore kink as a pathway to self-awareness, transformation, and power dynamics that reflect society itself. From emotional breakthroughs to dangerous patterns, kink can open the floodgates—sometimes beautifully, sometimes brutally. A short but potent reflection on what kink offers, demands, and reveals.

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HIGHLIGHTS:

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(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:21) - What Can Kink Do?

(01:15) - My Inkling on Kink

(02:15) - Why People Come to Kink

(03:05) - Getting Off and Feeling Understood

(04:37) - Build New Pathways, Good and Bad

(05:20) - Teaching Us About the Range of Who We Can Be

(06:12) - Opening the Floodgates

(07:10) - Kink, Power Dynamics and Revealing Societal Truths

(08:20) - A Recap