I had to sit with what God showed me today. We are quick to believe the bad in people, quick to repeat it, quick to disqualify them, but when it comes to ourselves, we want grace, mercy, and understanding. That contradiction? God had something to say about it… and it might be the very reason some blessings are delayed.

There’s something God spoke to my spirit today that I can’t shake, and I won’t pretend it was comfortable. He reminded me that He is a God of second chances—and if I truly say I know Him, then my posture toward people has to reflect that truth.

Here’s the problem though. Many of us are excellent at believing the worst about others. If someone messes up, fails publicly, or does something that doesn’t sit right with us, we lock them into that moment forever. We replay it. We define them by it. We cancel them out completely. But then… when it’s our past, our mistake, our weak season, suddenly we want God to “understand,” to “see our heart,” to “remember our growth.”

God showed me how backwards that is.

When we only believe the bad in people, we leave no room for correction, growth, or redemption. And that’s dangerous, because correction is how people learn. Without it, without patience, without someone willing to see potential instead of permanence, how does anyone ever become better?

People do not always remain where they are.

You didn’t.I didn’t.

And God didn’t meet us at our worst just to abandon us there.

What really struck me was this: when we cancel people out completely, we are silently telling God, “I decide who deserves grace.” And that’s not our place. That’s not our authority. Judgment belongs to God alone.

God is not a God of “just a select few.” He is a God of everybody. And in this season, a lot of people are praying for blessings while simultaneously asking God to punish someone else. But mercy doesn’t work like that. You don’t get to demand grace for yourself while denying it to others. That door doesn’t stay open.

This is why some people feel stuck spiritually.This is why prayers feel unanswered.This is why peace feels distant.

It’s not always because of what was done to you—it’s sometimes because of what you refuse to release from you.

God showed me that paying attention only to the bad can blind you to the good. And when you miss the good, you miss what God might be trying to grow. You miss the lesson. You miss the purpose. You even miss the blessing that can come out of an uncomfortable situation.

That doesn’t mean ignoring wrongdoing.That doesn’t mean excusing behavior.That doesn’t mean trusting people blindly.

It means understanding that God specializes in transformation, not permanent labeling.

And here’s the part that really sat heavy with me: many of the same people who were given patience, time, and mercy by God are now the loudest voices saying someone else should get none. That’s not discernment—that’s pride dressed up as righteousness.

God touched my soul with this because He made it clear:If you want mercy, you must walk in mercy.If you want grace, you must extend grace.And if you want God to work in your life, you cannot block Him by trying to do His job.

I go much deeper into this on the podcast—what God showed me, what Scripture confirms, and why this message is critical right now. This post is just the surface. The conversation? That’s where the real revelation is.

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I want to speak to anyone who has been losing sleep, peace, or joy because they’re worried about what someone else might be doing behind closed doors. The whispers, the fear, the thoughts like, “What if someone is working against me?” Let me remind you of something powerful and unshakable: when you belong to Jesus, there is nothing anyone can do to override His authority over your life.

The Bible tells us plainly,“No weapon formed against you shall prosper, and every tongue which rises against you in judgment you shall condemn.” That scripture doesn’t say weapons won’t be formed. It says they won’t prosper. That distinction matters. People may talk. People may wish harm. People may try spiritual manipulation, gossip, intimidation, or control. But none of it has power unless we give it power through fear.

Fear is the real doorway. Not witchcraft. Not curses. Not what someone “might” be doing. Fear is what opens space for anxiety, doubt, and spiritual confusion. And fear is exactly what the enemy wants, because fear shifts our focus off God and onto people. The moment we start worrying about who is doing what, we stop trusting in who God is.

Jesus never told us to monitor our enemies. He told us to trust Him. He didn’t say, “Watch your back.” He said, “Follow Me.” That’s a posture of confidence, not paranoia.

Here’s the truth that sets people free: nothing can touch what God has sealed. If you are covered by the blood of Jesus, you are not spiritually exposed. You are not vulnerable. You are not open to attack the way fear makes it seem. You are protected, guarded, and surrounded. Scripture says God places a hedge around His people. That means access is denied unless He allows it, and God does not hand His children over to destruction.

A lot of people unknowingly give power to the wrong things. They talk more about darkness than light. They study curses instead of promises. They repeat what the enemy might do instead of declaring what God already said. But words matter. Faith matters. Agreement matters.

When we say, “That won’t work,” it still keeps our focus on the weapon. But when we say, “It will not prosper,” we are agreeing with God’s authority. We are declaring an outcome based on His Word, not our fear. That’s why confession is so important. Life and death are in the power of the tongue.

As believers, we don’t need to chase spiritual threats. We don’t need to confront imagined enemies. We don’t need to obsess over protection rituals. Jesus is our protection. His name alone carries authority. When we walk in obedience, humility, and trust, we are already standing in victory.

Every attack that rises against you must fall. Not because you fought it perfectly, but because God promised it. Not because you are flawless, but because He is faithful. The enemy cannot override a covenant sealed by Christ.

So instead of worrying, worship.
Instead of fearing, declare truth.
Instead of watching people, watch God move.

Peace comes when we remember who we belong to. Strength comes when we stop magnifying threats and start magnifying the Lord. And freedom comes when we finally understand this: if God is for us, nothing formed against us has the final word.

Stand firm. Stay covered. Keep believing. And walk boldly, knowing that what rises against you will fall, every single time.

Jesus made it clear when He said that no one comes to the Father except through Him. That statement doesn’t only apply to salvation; it applies to how we live once we claim His name. If we say we believe in God, then we also believe in the One God sent and the Word He left us to follow. Faith is not just belief—it is alignment.

Scripture tells us that our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit. That means our “house” does not belong to us alone. God dwells there. When we understand this, we begin to see why sexual union is not casual in God’s eyes. It is spiritual, not just physical. What we allow into our temple matters.

Marriage, from a biblical standpoint, is not just a legal agreement or a romantic milestone. It is a covenant made before God. A covenant is sacred. When a man and woman stand before God and commit themselves to one another, they are saying, “I give myself fully—spirit, soul, and body—under God’s authority.” God honors covenants because they reflect His own faithful nature.

Outside of that covenant, sexual union becomes a joining without covering. Scripture tells us that when two people come together sexually, they become one flesh. When that happens without covenant, we are spiritually joining ourselves to people without God’s blessing or protection over that union. Over time, this creates confusion, soul ties, emotional damage, and spiritual warfare that many people don’t realize they are experiencing.

A lot of believers struggle not because God has abandoned them, but because they are unintentionally violating the order He established. When we repeatedly join ourselves to others without covenant, we are telling God—often without realizing it—that we do not honor our house the way He does. And God will not bless what He did not ordain.

This is why so many people feel spiritually blocked, restless, or constantly battling confusion in relationships. Disobedience opens doors. Not because God is punishing us, but because stepping outside His protection exposes us to things we were never meant to carry alone.

God sees farther than we can see. He understands outcomes we cannot predict. That is why discernment is so important. We are not meant to rely on our emotions or physical desires to choose our partners. We are meant to seek God and allow Him to reveal whether a person is truly meant to walk with us in covenant.

When God gives His approval—when He confirms a union in the spirit and aligns it with His Word—then marriage becomes a place of blessing, stability, and growth. This divine order is not restrictive; it is protective. It guards hearts, preserves purpose, and prevents the kind of wounds that often lead to broken homes and divorce.

Many divorces don’t begin at the altar—they begin long before, when people form unions without God, ignore red flags, or choose passion over obedience. God’s design for marriage was never meant to trap us; it was meant to keep us whole.

Obedience to God is not about perfection. It is about humility. It is about recognizing that we do not see the full picture and trusting the One who does. When we honor our temple and respect covenant, we position ourselves to receive what God is truly trying to give us—peace, clarity, and lasting fruit.

This conversation is not about condemnation. It is about understanding spiritual order. God’s ways are not arbitrary. They are intentional. And when we choose to walk in them, we don’t lose anything—we gain protection, discernment, and alignment with His will.

Keeping our temple holy is not about denying love; it is about honoring the kind of love God intended—one that is rooted in covenant, covered by Him, and built to last.