Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? In this episode of Worthy of Work, we unpack one of the most common character defects: people pleasing. It's often mistaken for kindness but it's actually fear, control, and dishonesty in disguise.

Stephanie breaks down how people pleasing develops (especially for those raised in disrupted homes), how it shows up in adult relationships, and why it's so damaging—even when it looks like generosity. She offers a clear contrast between people pleasing vs kindness, and practical ways to start showing up more honestly in your relationships.

If you’ve ever felt guilty for setting a boundary, unsure whether you were being mean or just real, this episode is for you. You’ll learn how to spot when fear is running the show, how to respond with truth and love, and how healthy connection can’t grow when we’re wearing a mask.

Key Takeaways:

• People pleasing is dishonest, compulsive, and rooted in fear, not love.

• Kindness is not the same as self-abandonment.

• Healthy relationships don’t require pretending, silence, or performance.

• How to speak up with courage, clarity, and care.

• Sample phrases you can use to say no with love.

• What becomes possible when you stop people pleasing.

Recovery Principle Highlighted: Honesty and self-responsibility. Spotting a character defect.
Transformation Focus: From pretending to being real.
Best For: Women in recovery, former people pleasers, helpers and fixers, anyone learning to build healthy s

✨ "You are allowed to be honest. You are allowed to say no. You are allowed to disappoint someone without being wrong."

If this resonates, pause and ask:
Where am I saying yes when I mean no?
Where could I show up more honestly?
What would change if I told the truth with love?

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If someone handed you a moldy sandwich and insisted it was fine, would you eat it?

Sounds ridiculous, right? But we do this all the time in relationships. We take in dismissive comments, gaslighting, and rejection as if they define our worth or rewrite what we know to be true.

In today’s episode, we’re talking about discernment — the vital (and often forgotten) relationship skill of trusting your gut over someone else’s version of reality.

Because if your worth or truth is placed in someone else’s hands, you’ll forever be chasing peace you can’t hold onto. You’ll be stuck second-guessing, defending, people-pleasing, and shrinking yourself to stay accepted.

Let’s change that.

In this episode, we’ll explore:

• A few examples of misplaced worth and the danger of believing what others say more than what your gut says

• The “moldy sandwich test” — a hilariously helpful way to assess what others are offering you

• How to stop needing others to agree with you in order to feel at peace

Whether you’ve been gaslit, passed over, or made to feel small — you are not crazy, and you are not alone. This episode will help you come back to yourself and rebuild your inner compass.

Worthy of Work is the podcast where we unpack the relationship skills no one taught us. Hosted by Stephanie Rivard, each episode offers clear, compassionate guidance to help you heal unhealthy patterns and build a stronger relationship with yourself and others.

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Going through a divorce or separation? You’re not alone — and you’re not broken. In this episode, I walk you through the 7 smartest things to do after a divorce so you can protect your peace, avoid painful patterns, and rebuild a healthier, stronger life.

Whether your relationship ended peacefully or was long and toxic, these steps will help you process what happened and prepare for what’s next — without rushing into rebound relationships, revenge, or regret.

This episode is for those who:
✔️ Feel confused or overwhelmed after divorce
✔️ Want to heal and grow (not repeat the same patterns)
✔️ Might be recovering from codependency or toxic relationships
✔️ Crave clarity, peace, and emotional maturity
✔️ Want to build healthier relationships in the future

You’re not broken. But you may need better tools for the kind of relationship you really want to have.

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✅ Character defect breakdowns
✅ Emotional intelligence skills
✅ Red and yellow flags explained
✅ Clear, compassionate truth (the kind I wish I had when I was stuck)

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The key to healthy conflict isn’t staying calm or keeping your cool — it’s taking responsibility for your part.

In this episode of Worthy of Work, Stephanie Rivard explores the transformative power of self-ownership in conflict. When we drop the defensiveness, stop justifying, and take accountability for our own actions, tone, or inactions — we change the dynamic. Conflict becomes an opportunity for repair, not just reaction.

This isn’t about self-blame or shame — and it’s definitely not manipulation. Stephanie breaks down what true accountability looks like (and what it doesn’t), and how it strengthens relationships over time.

Whether you’re navigating recurring arguments, working on communication skills, or just want to grow into a more grounded and mature version of yourself, this conversation offers powerful clarity and real-life examples to practice.

🎧 Topics covered:

• The difference between owning your part vs. blaming yourself

• Why “I was just being honest” isn’t ownership

• How mature self-responsibility invites connection

• Why repair is more important than perfection

✨ Healthy relationships are built on ownership and repair — not control or perfection. You can grow this skill, no matter where you’re starting from.

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Are you exhausted from doing it all… yet resentful no one notices? Or maybe you feel stuck, helpless, and like life keeps happening to you. Today’s episode of Worthy of Work unpacks two sneaky character defects — martyrdom and victimhood — and the subtle ways they keep us from healthy connection and honest self-responsibility.

We’ll walk through how to spot each pattern, understand what’s really driving it, and what to do instead — because neither over-giving nor powerlessness is an act of love.

• The difference between martyrdom and victimhood (and why they can look confusingly similar)

• The root beliefs that fuel them — from low self-worth to control and avoidance

• How both patterns block intimacy, clarity, and peace

• Healthy replacements: boundaries, communication, and taking responsibility without shame

If you’re realizing that saying “I’ve got it” (when you don’t) or waiting for others to rescue you hasn’t worked — this episode offers clarity, language, and small starting steps. You’ll learn:

• How to stop silently hoping others will read your mind or meet your needs

• Why chronic complaining or helplessness keeps you powerless — even if it’s justified

• The first steps toward being a person who asks clearly, acts wisely, and stops suffering in silence

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We’ll walk through real-life tools for setting boundaries that are clear, kind, and effective.

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Two character defects that block healthy connection and avoid self-responsibility.Listen to Season 1, Episode 13 for the full episode.

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Episode Description:
Have you ever felt like “acceptance” meant staying silent, tolerating dysfunction, or giving up your right to want something different? You’re not alone. In this episode of Worthy of Work, host Stephanie Rivard unpacks one of the most misunderstood ideas in recovery and relationships: the difference between acceptance and tolerance — and how confusing the two can keep us stuck, sick, and silent.

Pulling from her own journey through toxic dynamics, recovery, and spiritual growth, Stephanie shares how this single word caused years of internal conflict… until she redefined it. You'll hear how she once believed “acceptance is the answer to all my problems” meant “tolerate bad behavior” — and why that belief was not only misleading but emotionally harmful.

Instead, Stephanie reclaims the concept of acceptance as facing reality — believing what’s true, not deciding yet what to do about it. Tolerance, she explains, is only one of many responses to reality… and not always the healthiest one.

• Why acceptance doesn’t mean you have to like or endure what’s happening

• The key difference between acceptance and tolerance (and why it matters)

• How misusing the word “acceptance” can keep you trapped in enabling, denial, and powerlessness

• What it really means to live in reality — and how that opens the door to new choices

Whether you’re navigating a relationship that leaves you doubting yourself, working through recovery, or simply trying to understand how to set healthier boundaries, this episode is for you.

Let’s clarify what acceptance actually is — so you can stop tolerating what’s intolerable and start moving toward clarity, choice, and healing.

🌀 Recovery-informed. Spiritually grounded. Straightforward and freeing.

This episode is for you if:

• You’ve struggled to know when to stay, when to go, or when to speak up

• You feel trapped by the idea that a “good” person just puts up with things

• You’ve ever misused spiritual language to justify dysfunction

• You want a clearer framework for dealing with hard realities and unhealthy people

Mentioned Concepts:
✔️ Acceptance as reality-checking
✔️ Tolerance as optional
✔️ Serenity Prayer
✔️ Enabling vs. Empowerment
✔️ Recovery mindset shift

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In this episode of Worthy of Work, I unpack the misunderstood role of worry in relationships—and in our inner lives. For years, I believed worrying was either an act of love or a responsible way to solve problems. But worry didn’t bring solutions; it drained my energy, diminished my presence, and left me less capable of engaging with the people or situations I cared about most.

Together, we explore:

• Why worry is a character defect, not a virtue

• The emotional logic that used to justify worry as love

• How chronic worrying undermines preparedness and peace

• What to do instead—like prayer, surrender, and productive, grounded action

If you've ever believed that worrying about someone shows how much you care, this episode will offer a compassionate challenge and a better way forward.

New here? You’re in the right place if you’ve ever wondered, “Is this normal?” or “What are they doing that I’m not?” I’m so glad you’re here.

Share this with a friend who’s stuck in mental loops of stress and calling it love. There’s a healthier way.

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