In this special two-part episode, I sit down with my husband—who is in long-term recovery from alcoholism—to answer a heartfelt and all-too-relatable question from a listener:

"My husband admits his drinking is a problem, but he's not doing anything about it. If I ask him if he’s looked into AA, Celebrate Recovery, or Regeneration, he says he hasn’t had time and will look into it later. He’s gone to AA meetings before but says he doesn’t think it’s for him. Do I keep bringing this up? I don’t want to nag him, but it’s eating at me inside not to say anything. I feel like we’re in a painful cycle—something happens, we talk about it for a couple days, then we move on until it happens again. I feel like he’s just appeasing me in those moments because he knows I’ll eventually stop asking. He doesn’t communicate his feelings at all, so I have no idea what he’s thinking."

Together, we reflect honestly on what life was like when we were in that same stuck place—and what we wish we had known then. From both sides of the struggle, we share what was helpful, what wasn’t, and what conversations planted real seeds of change.

In Part 1, we explore:

• The mindset of an alcoholic who knows there's a problem but isn’t taking action
• What a first conversation about recovery looked like in our home
• How to approach your husband without nagging—and why timing and tone matter
• The emotional toll of watching someone you love choose not to get help

Whether your husband is just beginning to wrestle with his drinking or you feel trapped in a repeating cycle of hope and disappointment, this episode offers honest insight and encouragement from our story and our victory!

Resources Mentioned:

Joe and Charlie Tapes- 2 Old Timers in AA walking and talking through the Big Book and breaking it down in a way only they can do:) These are available on YouTube and also on the AA app. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLhl3xlE0-GdweI1gG5QoeY9iIRCt2w_aI

If you have a question you'd like answered on a future episode—or just want to connect—you can email me at hello@wifeontherocks.com.

If you’re interested in going deeper into the dynamics of your specific situation, you can book a summer 1:1 session with me here:

https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/1hrcoachingsession

Part 2 continues next week with more discussion, insight, and tackling the repetitive cycle that conversations tend to have in active addiction. (Alcohol or Drugs will elicit the same patterns of the cycle resisting sobriety and recovery.)

Summer is supposed to be a time of fun, family, and freedom — but for Christian wives of alcoholics, events like the 4th of July, barbecues, and neighborhood gatherings can catch you off guard with behavior not anticipated. Expecting Family Time but your husband self sabotages in order to drink and you end up alone or with all the kids without him?

In this heartfelt episode of Wife on the Rocks, we’re talking about the real effects of alcohol in marriage — not just on the alcoholic husband, but on the wife and the family unit as a whole. From grill outs where he’s the only one drinking, to family plans that suddenly unravel into chaos, to fireworks nights you end up attending alone with the kids… we get into all of it.

You’ll hear:

• How summer events often reveal painful patterns in alcoholic behavior

• The emotional toll of being pushed away so he can drink in peace while you carry the family.

• The subtle (and not-so-subtle) sabotage that ruins what should be family time

• Why choosing not to attend certain events can actually be wise

• What it looks like to reclaim peace, even when your heart is breaking

And most importantly, we talk about how you can walk this hard road with strength, with faith, and without losing yourself. Even when it hurts, even when you’re crying on the drive to the fireworks — you are not alone.

💬 Want to share your story or suggest a future episode topic? Email me at hello@wifeontherocks.com

📅 Want to go deeper into your situation? Book a 1-on-1 session here:

https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/1hrcoachingsession

In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we’re talking about what it feels like to live in a world full of uncertainty—when bombs are being dropped overseas and emotional bombs are going off in your own home.

With growing tensions between Israel and Iran and news of U.S. involvement, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by the global instability. But for Christian wives married to alcoholics, the chaos isn’t just out there—it’s also right here, in the home. How do we process fear about the future when we’re already living in a constant state of survival? How do we prepare our families wisely when our husbands aren’t in a position to lead, protect, or even participate in the conversation?

We explore:

• What to do when your alcoholic husband can’t offer the strength and stability your family needs

• How to talk to your kids when they need reassurance

• Why self-sufficiency and emergency planning feel overwhelming when addiction dominates your daily life

• Practical steps to quiet your mind and lead your family in peace, even when the world feels like it’s spinning out of control

• How to reset your spirit with Scripture and walk in God’s wisdom, not fear

We’re anchoring this episode in two powerful verses: Philippians 4:4-7 – “Do not be anxious about anything…” Matthew 6:25-34 – “Do not worry about tomorrow…”

If you're feeling anxious, under-equipped, or just plain tired of holding it all together—you’re not alone. This episode will help you take a deep breath, reset your mind, and find your footing again with God’s peace as your guide.

🕊 Book a private coaching session: https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/1hrcoachingsession More dates are being added soon—watch for the full July calendar to be released next week and this link will update dates automatically.

📩 Have a question you'd like answered on a future episode? Send it to: hello@wifeontherocks.com