If your husband is finally getting help for his addiction, you may be wondering: How long should he stay in treatment? 30 days? 60 days? 90 days? Longer? And what does detox have to do with rehab?

Today, we’re breaking down the difference between detox and rehab in a simple, helpful way — and we’ll talk about why staying longer can make a big difference in your husband’s ability to recover well.

Here’s what we cover in this episode:

✅ Detox vs. Rehab — why detox alone isn’t enough.

✅ What actually happens in rehab (it’s not just sitting in a room!).

✅ Why 30 days is often just the beginning of healing.

✅ The brain science behind why staying longer improves recovery outcomes.

✅ How treatment gives wives peace of mind and breathing room.

✅ The tension between missing him at home vs. wanting him to fully heal.

✅ Why this moment is a marathon — not a sprint.

I also share my own experience of what it felt like when my husband was finally in a safe place getting help — the relief, the emotional crash, the grief for my kids — and how I learned to stay focused on the long-term goal, not the quick fix.

Because while it is hard to solo parent and navigate the emotional rollercoaster of treatment… you have prayed for this moment. And now is not the time to rush the healing.

Sobriety isn’t surface-level change. Recovery means going deep enough to face the root. And sometimes… that takes more time.

✨ LAST CALL: Holiday Survival Course

There are 3 live sessions still coming up, and you’ll receive instant access to the first two via recording — plus all the printable resources, homework, and support materials inside the private course hub.

If you want practical support and spiritual strength throughout this holiday season, I’d love to help you stay grounded in God’s peace and protect what matters most.

👉 Join the Holiday Survival Course here: https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/holiday-survival-course.

💌 Have a question for a future episode or want to share what God is doing in your life? Email me anytime at: hello@wifeontherocks.com

Need personal support? 1:1 coaching spots are open now — link in the show notes to schedule! https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/1hrcoachingsession

You’re not alone in this, friend. There is hope — and healing — even here. Take a breath. Let’s walk this together. 💛

Have you ever asked yourself, “If he really loved us, why won’t he stop drinking?”

You’re not alone. So many Christian wives live in this painful confusion—trying to love, pray, and reason their way through addiction, only to feel rejected, unloved and unseen.

In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we unpack the truth about the addicted brain and why love alone can’t undo addiction. You’ll hear:

✅ Why addiction hijacks the brain’s survival system—and why it’s not a matter of willpower or love. ✅ How logic and heartfelt pleas fall short when the brain is controlled by substance dependence. ✅ Why advice from people who don’t understand addiction often hurts more than it helps. ✅ A personal story of the naive stage of early addiction and how we think we can snap them out of it, but realizing that his addiction is stronger than we think. ✅ What it means to pray for your husband’s eyes to be opened by God in His timing.

Understanding this doesn’t make it easier—but it helped me stop taking the pain personally. There is always hope, because God is still working behind the scenes in ways you can’t see.

IT IS NOT TOO LATE! Join the Holiday Survival Course, created for wives of alcoholics who want to identify the options you have in situations, set boundaries with grace, and focus on God’s presence in the midst of the chaos. Special Holiday Course, BUT the tools you learn are applied year-long! 👉 https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/holiday-survival-course

📩 Have a question you’d like answered in a future episode? Want to share anything with me? Email hello@wifeontherocks.com.

Have you ever found yourself drawn into a heated or emotional conversation with your husband after he’s been drinking—only to regret it the next day when he doesn’t remember, denies it happened, or twists your words? In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we’ll talk about why refusing to engage in conversation when alcohol is involved is not cold or controlling—it’s wise, protective, and biblical. Learn about the ONE boundary that I had to set in our home when addiction was taking over everything! Come along on this journey where co-dependency develops boundaries to deal with alcoholism in a way that can protect in the hard moments of gaslighting and conversations that spiral quickly!

You’ll learn:

• Why alcohol changes how people hear and process words.
• The logic behind disengaging (you wouldn’t debate with someone who’s not in their right mind).
• Why engaging feels like betraying yourself—and how to stop.
• What to do instead of arguing or trying to reason.
• How faith and boundaries can coexist without shame or guilt.

If you’ve ever felt stuck between silence and chaos, desiring to have a close relationship rooted in healthy communication, but instead wind up in an argument that goes nowhere, this episode will help you choose peace—and know that walking away doesn’t mean giving up. It is an essential boundary at times to protect your heart.

👉 Join the Holiday Survival Course to learn practical ways to navigate this season.

https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/holiday-survival-course

We are not helpless in this cycle, although it often feels that way, there are many things that we can be doing to walk in peace TODAY. Everything that I talk about on the Podcast and SO MUCH MORE!! The best part is that I am teaching LIVE for these 5 weeks and with interactive components, you can reach out for help and support as we go along! At the end of the 5 weeks you will have worked through the common traps this time of year and have built a plan specific for your family that you can rely on any day of the year!

It is like having the podcast (and me) in your pocket. Encouragement for 5 weeks straight!! Wrapped in beautiful paper and tied with a bow. A GIFT for YOU this Christmas!!

1) Guarding your mind from Gaslighting and walking in Truth

2) Recognize unhealthy patterns and how to break them

3) Parenting Challenges, A Child’s Perspective, Traditions and Scheduling

4) Boundaries that WORK for YOUR family

5) Protecting your mind from the mental spiral on the hard days

Don’t walk this path alone again! Find support, connection, and hope as we navigate the unpredicatability together, build a road map that works for your family, and have a plan designed especially for YOU in the moments that are too painful for words. Get your Hot Cocoa and snuggly blanket and let’s talk about how this year could look different!

Course begins in ONE Week on October 21st. Click here for full details and to grab your seat!!

https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/holiday-survival-course

👉 Need personalized support? Book a 1:1 coaching session or send your questions to hello@wifeontherocks.com. There are a few spots left before Thanksgiving!