Men who only want sex.

Men who run from commitment.

Men who don’t care about getting to know you.

Men who only want casual.

❌ This isn’t "just how dating is" in 2026.

There are still plenty of women in their 30s and 40s who are meeting genuine, kind, loyal men and ending up in committed, loving relationships.

If that not your experience and you’re stuck attracting the men who only want one thing…

There’s a simple reason for this that typical dating advice rarely mentions.

It’s the reason that it feels like all men are the same.

No one’s looking for commitment.

You find it hard to cut men off who tell you they don’t want “anything serious.”

Once you understand what’s happening under the surface, then you get what you need to break out of this pattern.

And finally attract the kind, genuine men who want the loving relationship you do.

Inside this episode, I walk you through:

• The unconscious mistake that keeps you stuck attracting the men that only want sex
• The subtle ways you reinforcing this pattern without realising
• Why expecting the wrong men to become the right one is draining your chances of finding love
• And what actually needs to shift so you can start attracting men who want love

This episode will stop you feeling like dating is something happening to you, as though there’s nothing you can do but just hope for the better.

You can change the men you attract.

🎧 Hit play, so I can walk you through how!

🧲 Other episodes in the “Why You Attract…” series:

Why You Attract Emotionally Unavailable, Avoidant Men (And How To Break The Pattern)

Why You Feel Invisible To Men (And How To Break The Pattern)

Why You Attract The Boring Men You're Not Attracted To (And How To Break The Pattern)

Why You Attract Men Who Pull Away (And How To Break The Pattern)

Why You Attract The Men That Only Want One Thing (And How To Break The Pattern)

Why You Attract Bare Minimum Men Who Breadcrumb You (And How To Break The Pattern)

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