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Why Most People Don’t Ask for What They Want (And How It’s Holding Them Back) | Paul Quinn

Why Most People Don’t Ask for What They Want (And How It’s Holding Them Back) | Paul Quinn

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What do you really want—and why is it so hard to ask for it?

In this thought-provoking conversation, Paul Quinn, author of The Big Ask: Unlock the Possibilities in Your Work, Life & Dreams with Courageous Requests, breaks down one of the most overlooked skills in personal and professional growth: the ability to ask clearly, confidently, and courageously.

Paul isn’t a hype coach or a guru. He’s a deeply observant, empathetic communicator who’s spent years studying why people don’t ask for what they want—and what changes when they finally do.

Drawing from:
• 80+ real-life interviews with CEOs, celebrities, students, job seekers, entrepreneurs, and everyday dreamers
• Research-backed insights into human behavior
• His own journey of writing The Big Ask (his biggest request yet)


Paul reveals how invisible rules, fear of rejection, and self-imposed limits quietly sabotage our goals at work, in relationships, and in life.

In this episode, we explore:
🔹 Why most people don’t ask—even when the cost is high
🔹 The hidden “rules” that keep us silent and stuck
🔹 What makes an ask effective (and what guarantees failure)
🔹 Real stories of life-changing requests that worked
🔹 How asking builds confidence, clarity, and momentum
🔹 Practical tips you can use today to make your next ask land

This is not about manipulation or entitlement—it’s about honest communication, self-advocacy, and giving others the chance to say yes.

If you’ve ever:
• Settled for less than you wanted
• Avoided asking for a raise, opportunity, or support
• Talked yourself out of reaching out
• Felt stuck despite working hard


This conversation will challenge you—in the best way.


💬 What’s something you’ve been afraid to ask for?
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