Dr. Rob and Tami talk about compulsive liars in this week’s episode and the reasoning behind someone who can’t seem to tell the truth. If you are a betrayed spouse to someone who regularly lies and deceives, it can be hard to understand why lying can be the go-to safety mechanism for protection. Dr. Rob explains further in this episode why some addicts just can’t stop lying.

TAKEAWAYS:

[:30] Why is sex addiction not about sex?

[3:35] I had a relapse and my partner is fed up. I want to build trust again, but she just doesn’t believe me. What can I do?

[9:20] You have to want recovery because you’ll be doing it for a long time.

[12:10] Does it make sense to have a marital absence if my partner has a porn addiction?

[15:30] If you don’t feel safe with someone and if you don’t trust them, don’t have sex with them!

[17:10] My husband lies about his recovery. He’s not doing the work!

[22:45] Is your partner a lost cause? Dr. Rob can help.

[23:00] I think he’s a compulsive liar. Is this connected to his addiction?

RESOURCES:

Seekingintegrity.com

Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com

Sexandrelationshiphealing.com

Intherooms.com

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Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss