This week on Why Didn't You, Mia tells her story of surviving rape and exploitation. Mia Döring is a writer and psychotherapist from Dublin, specialising in sexual trauma. She is the author of the brilliant memoir, 'Any Girl', and in this episode, discusses her experiences of rape, grooming and exploitation

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Key facts and stats: episode 4

-One in four Irish women have experienced physical and/or sexual violence

Irish Observatory on Violence Against Women nwci.ie/images/uploads/IOVAW_GREVIOS.pdf

-One In five have been raped and more than half experienced sexual violence. 78% know the perpetrator

Central Statistics Office cso.ie/en/releasesandpublications/ep/p-svsmr/sexualviolencesurvey2022mainresults/

-All the below from Rape Crisis Network Ireland rcni.ie/wp-content/uploads/RCNI-Rape-Crisis-Statistics-2020-FINAL.pdf

33% of those whose abuse began between 13 and 17 said it lasted several years. The vast majority abused by a partner/ex-partner.

65% of survivors didn’t report

-All the below NSPCC nspcc.org.uk/about-us/news-opinion/2023/2023-08-14-82-rise-in-online-grooming-crimes-against-children-in-the-last-5-years/

Almost 34,000 online grooming crimes against children were recorded in the last 6 years. 6,350 Sexual Communication with a Child offences were recorded last year (2022/23). An 82% increase since 2017/18. Where gender was known, 83% were against girls.

-There are approx. 72,800 prostitutes in the UK — 88% are women

Home Affairs Committee publications.parliament.uk/pa/cm201617/cmselect/cmhaff/26/26.pdf

-More than one in ten British men say they have paid for sex Home Office report assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/842920/Prostitution_and_Sex_Work_Report.pdf

-Below from EVE (previously 'exploited voices now educating') prostitutionresearch.com/men-who-buy-sex-london-2009/

24% of 'punters' said 'rape' doesn't apply to women in prostitution.

27% said that the customer is entitled to any act he chooses with the woman he buys.

If you are in need of support or advice:

(Grooming) Call Stop it now! – People in the UK and Ireland can call for free on 0808 1000 900

NSPCC - 0808 800 5000, email help@nspcc.org.uk or fill in our online form.

ruhama.ie/ - if impacted by sexual exploitation, prostitution and human trafficking

Victim Support 0808 1689111 victimsupport.org.uk

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This week on Why Didn't You, something a little different.

After our first two episodes, listeners (you!) have been curious about the personal experiences of creator & host Terri White. So, in this one-off episode, Terri tells her story - including an incident she's speaking about for the first time and the rape myths she's faced and/or that drive her potty. This ep. covers class, mental heath, assault and child abuse.

This is Terri's testimony. Next week, she'll be back to hearing yours.

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Key facts and stats in ep 3 (with sources)

-1 in 6 children have been sexually abused

rapecrisis.org.uk/get-informed/statistics-sexual-violence

-Sexual offences against children breached 100,000 for the first time in 2021-2022

csacentre.org.uk/documents/child-sexual-abuse-in-2021-22-trends-in-official-data/

-5 out of 6 children attending sexual assault referral centres in 2021-2022 were female

csacentre.org.uk/documents/child-sexual-abuse-in-2021-22-trends-in-official-data/

-Over a third of all police-recorded sexual offences are against children

learning.nspcc.org.uk/media/1710/statistics-briefing-child-sexual-abuse.pdf

-90% of child abuse victims knew their abuser

learning.nspcc.org.uk/media/1710/statistics-briefing-child-sexual-abuse.pdf

-Poverty and inequality is accepted as a driver of harm to children

research.hud.ac.uk/media/assets/document/hhs/RelationshipBetweenPovertyChildAbuseandNeglect_Report.pdf

-There are over 4 million kids living in poverty in the UK. 44% of children in lone-parent families are in poverty

cpag.org.uk/child-poverty/child-poverty-facts-and-figures

-1 in 10 women believe they've been spiked. 40% of people don't think police would believe them

yougov.co.uk/society/articles/44863-one-ten-women-say-they-have-had-their-drink-spiked

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If you need support or advice:

NSPCC helpline 0808 800 5000 help@NSPCC.org.uk

ChildLine (under 19) 0800 1111 childline.org.uk

Victim Support 0808 1689111 victimsupport.org.uk

Rape Crisis England & Wales 0808 500 2222 rapecrisis.org.uk

Rape Crisis Scotland 08088 010302 rapecrisisscotland.org.uk

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This week on Why Didn't You, Amber tells her story of surviving sexual assault.

Amber speaks for the very first time about the multiple incidents of sexual violence she's faced in her life. She talks about the difficulties specific to historical offences, what prevents women from reporting and the importance and power of being believed.

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The key facts and stats in episode 2 (with sources)

-1 in 6 children have been sexually abused

rapecrisis.org.uk/get-informed/statistics-sexual-violence

learning.nspcc.org.uk/media/1710/statistics-briefing-child-sexual-abuse.pdf

-Sexual offences against children breached the 100,000 mark for the first time in 2021-2022

csacentre.org.uk/documents/child-sexual-abuse-in-2021-22-trends-in-official-data/

-The majority of adults who experienced sexual abuse as a child did not tell anyone at the time

csacentre.org.uk/resources/blog/improving-our-response-to-child-sexual-abuse/

-5 in 6 women who are raped don’t report

https://rapecrisis.org.uk/get-informed/statistics-sexual-violence

ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/crimeandjustice/bulletins/sexualoffencesinenglandandwalesoverview/march2020

-1 in 2 adult survivors of rape have experienced it more than once

https://rapecrisis.org.uk/get-informed/statistics-sexual-violence

ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/crimeandjustice/articles/natureofsexualassaultbyrapeorpenetrationenglandandwales/yearendingmarch2020

-Less than two in 100 rapes recorded by the police in 2022 ended that year in a charge, or a conviction

https://rapecrisis.org.uk/get-informed/statistics-sexual-violence

gov.uk/government/statistics/crime-outcomes-in-england-and-wales-year-to-december-2022-data-tables

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If you are in need of support or advice:

Victim Support 0808 1689111 victimsupport.org.uk

Rape Crisis England & Wales 0808 500 2222 rapecrisis.org.uk

Rape Crisis Scotland 08088 010302 rapecrisisscotland.org.uk

The NSPCC helpline 0808 800 5000 email help@NSPCC.org.uk

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