When you’re estranged or out of contact with an aging parent, caregiving and grief take on a very different shape. Kirsten hosts a candid conversation with Jacqueline Hargest to share her experience with estrangement from her parents. Jacqueline openly shares how she’s navigated loss, self-compassion, and the unique challenges that come with distance—both emotional and physical. They explore topics like facing ambiguous grief, getting health updates from afar, and how friends can offer meaningful support. It’s an honest, empathetic look at a rarely discussed experience shared by many.

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Credits: Produced by Aaron Bryce @ https://www.bluogden.com Theme music composed by Greg Fellman @ https://www.windsandproductions.com Graphic design by Jenn Beam @ https://www.jigawattsstudio.com

In this archival essay, Kirsten reflects on another set of mementos from childhood–her collection of glass animals. Once a precious collection shared with her mother, now another collection in storage. What’s the best course of action for an old trend, significantly reduced in monetary value, but not in personal value?

To read the original essay, check out the substack post: https://open.substack.com/pub/whogetsthechina/p/the-glass-animal-collection?r=59cxnp&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=false

Credits: Produced by Aaron Bryce @ https://www.bluogden.com Theme music composed by Greg Fellman @ https://www.windsandproductions.com Graphic design by Jenn Beam @ https://www.jigawattsstudio.com

Kirsten sits down with occupational therapist and driving rehabilitation specialist, Denise Kaplan, for an insightful conversation about driving as we age—when to start talking about giving up the keys, how to assess driving abilities, and ways to safely extend time on the road. Together, they explore the emotional and practical sides of this major life transition, offering guidance for families navigating one of the toughest conversations around aging.

Visit https://adaptivedrivinglittleton.com/ to learn more about Denise's work.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

CarFit: https://car-fit.org/

The Hartford: https://www.thehartford.com/resources/mature-market-excellence/driving-safety

Additional Resources:

AAA's Articles on Vulnerable Road Users: https://aaafoundation.org/category/vulnerable-road-users/

National Highway Traffic Safety Administration's Guide to Assessing and Counseling Older Drivers: https://www.nhtsa.gov/sites/nhtsa.gov/files/812228_cliniciansguidetoolderdrivers.pdf

Follow Who Gets the China? on https://www.whogetsthechina.substack.com If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with someone who might appreciate the conversation. And don’t forget to rate, review, and subscribe wherever you get your podcasts.

Credits: Produced by Aaron Bryce @ https://www.bluogden.com Theme music composed by Greg Fellman @ https://www.windsandproductions.com Graphic design by Jenn Beam @ https://www.jigawattsstudio.com