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You want to feel connected, but suddenly you’re gone — body present, mind floating near the ceiling tiles. Dissociation during sex can feel confusing, shameful, or even like proof something’s wrong with you. But here’s the truth: dissociation isn’t failure, it’s protection. In this episode, I break down why nervous systems sometimes check out during intimacy, how trauma and shame hijack presence, and what you can do to begin reclaiming safety and real connection. This isn’t about forcing pleasure or performing for your partner — it’s about understanding your body’s brilliance and learning to stay with yourself one breath at a time.

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• (00:00:00) - Introduction: The Unspoken Reality of Dissociation During Sex
• (00:01:25) - Understanding Dissociation: Your Body's Safety Mechanism
• (00:02:41) - The Spectrum of Dissociation: Different Experiences
• (00:03:23) - Why Dissociation Happens: Vulnerability and Trauma
• (00:06:22) - Neurodivergence and Sensory Overload
• (00:07:38) - The Aftereffects: Shame and the Cycle of Dissociation
• (00:09:26) - Strategies for Presence: Micro Check-Ins and Sensory Anchors
• (00:11:11) - Communication and Nonsexual Touch
• (00:12:59) - Healing and Therapy: Rewriting Your Script
• (00:14:35) - Conclusion: Embracing Compassion and Healing