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When Winners Lose

When Winners Lose

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Ever been in a room where it feels like everyone's judging you, even when you're just being yourself? In this episode, I open up about the emotional turbulence that hit me after attending a leather contest over Labor Day weekend. While I've worn many titles—from Miss San Francisco Leather to International Miss Leather—I've always strived to remain authentic. But what happens when our authenticity is met with superficiality? Dive in as I, along with my Spouse Meister, navigate the stormy seas of a community we once called home.

In This Episode:

  • My emotional unease after a month-long hiatus and the backstory behind it.
  • The glitz and glam of leather contests and the weight of the titles.
  • My Spouse Meister's inspiration to dive into the Master Slave contest.
  • Unpacking a past feud with Taino and how it cast a shadow over the recent event.
  • Reliving past grievances: the unpaid airfare and a social media debacle.
  • Navigating negative energies and feeling like outsiders in a community we love.
  • The significance of "dressage" and why a genuine Master-Slave relationship goes beyond mere display.
  • Reflecting on self-worth, authenticity, and the lessons from my leather mom, Vi.
  • A rejuvenating retreat in upstate New York with Barbara Carellas.
  • A shoutout to the Carter Johnson leather library and the need to document our histories.


Thank you so much to my loyal Patrons who make this show possible! 💜 Join them here to support my work.

🤩 SUPERSTAR MOFOS:

Liz Scott Terri Lahmon

💜 PATRONS:

J Starr Anna T Biddle Christopher Brown Amy Willaert James R Potyraj Marshall Flax Haddayr Copley-Woods Scott J Marty Wilder Meg Baca JP Robichaud aeric meredith-goujon KillerB1973 Sara Leiste Esther The Adipositivity Project Kathleen Melch Andrea DK Green (aka DK Leather) Stephanie Shernicoff

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