What really happens inside a swingers hotel takeover?

In this episode, Cate sits down with multiple attendees from our recent Libertine Events takeover to share raw, funny, and deeply honest stories from inside a lifestyle weekend.

You’ll hear from brand-new swingers, long-term lifestyle couples, empty nesters, solo explorers, and couples still finding their dynamic — all discussing their playroom experiences, nerves, sexy wins, confidence breakthroughs, and what they wish they’d known before their first event.

Expect heartfelt conversations, hilarious confessions (including an accidental cock-block and a 12-hand massage), and genuinely useful advice for navigating hotel takeovers with confidence, clarity, and connection.

• Real-life swinger stories from a full hotel takeover
• Relationship dynamics & long-term lifestyle journeys
• Playrooms vs private rooms
• Lingerie catwalk moments
• Introverts in the lifestyle
• Handling mismatched attraction & veto moments
• Host vibes, accidental interruptions & how to speak up
• Open-door hotel rooms

• Libertine Events – swingers hotel takeovers & parties: https://libertineevents.com/
• Wanderlust Swingers Website: https://wanderlustswingers.com/
• Patreon – Event photos, behind-the-scenes & lingerie content: https://www.patreon.com/SwingingDownunder
• Join SDC – Find swingers near you & explore events: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=32122
• Rob and Linz https://www.instagram.com/anything.but.vani11a/
• Hot Couple Chronicles Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/0egGy8ukwpdUVfUAndCV2V

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Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories EP209 – Londons Hottest Halloween Swingers Party – Le Boudoir Swingers Club London

What really happens inside a Halloween swingers party in central London? In this episode we share our two-night Halloween weekend at Le Boudoir Swingers Club. From Friday’s single-male night to Saturday’s couples-heavy chaos, plus a very hot dungeon “wine cellar” soft swap.

We talk club vibes, playroom etiquette, and the not-so-sexy realities (hello BV) that can kill the mood, along with practical tips for getting more out of your swinger club nights.

In this episode:

- Our Halloween weekend at Le Boudoir Swingers Club London, logistics, location, and first impressions.

- Friday single-male night vs Saturday’s more couples-heavy energy.

- Dungeon play: a sensual, soft-swap session in the catacombs and how we navigated boundaries.

- Why dress down rules and playroom etiquette matter more than most people think.

- Dealing with vibe-killers (like BV and fully clothed spectators) without shaming anyone.

- Swinger success tips: dressing down, mingling beyond your friend group, and following up on missed connections.

Watch the Le Boudoir YouTube Club Tour https://youtu.be/2aRB5d64lPg?si=mtw9QtXS8k4m02x7

Useful Links from this Episode Libertine Events – Lifestyle takeovers & events: https://libertineevents.com/ Patreon – See the Dress Down Lingerie Cate wore: https://www.patreon.com/SwingingDownunder Wanderlust Swingers Website: https://wanderlustswingers.com/ Join SDC – Meet other swingers in your area: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=32122

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Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories EP208 – Are Dirty Vanillas a Swingers Lifestyle Epidemic? (Sexy Parties vs Swinger Parties) Bonus Episode: HotTakes with Wanderlust Swingers

Are “dirty vanillas” ruining swinger parties… or are we just old and grumpy? In this HotTakes bonus episode, we unpack the rise of sexy parties vs swinger parties — couples who love the lingerie, lights, drugs and dance floor, but have zero intention of swapping or playing. From empty playrooms at Dutch “takeovers” to US events that feel more MDMA than moaning, we ask: is this evolution, dilution, or just a different lane of fun?

• Dirty Vanilla 101: what the term actually means (monogamous couples who love the vibe, flirting, lingerie, but don’t play) and why it’s often used as a slur in the lifestyle.
• Marketing or Epidemic? Swinger events advertised as “dance parties” on TikTok/IG and “swinger parties” on dating sites – who’s actually to blame: the crowd, or the promoters?
• Sexy Parties vs Swinger Parties: Dutch club takeovers, 1200-person Amsterdam “swinger” events with no licensed playrooms, and the fetish / dirty vanilla / swinger mash-up that pleases no one.
• Are we the problem? Cate & Darrell realise their expectations were stuck in “old school swinger” mode while the culture has shifted under their feet.
• Listener Q – Tim: “We’re exclusive. Can we go to a swingers club just for the vibe?” Cate’s nuanced yes, Darrell’s “please do!” and why intention + contribution matters more than labels.

We wrap by asking the big question: are dirty vanillas a lifestyle epidemic… or is this just what evolution looks like in a more fluid, less-stigmatized, sex-positive world?

Coming Up Next EP209 - Halloween weekend in London, MFMs, costumes, and chaos: stories from the playroom and beyond.

Useful Links from this Episode Libertine Events – 2026 takeovers (Miami, Scottsdale, France): https://libertineevents.com/ Patreon – BTS outfits, bonus audio & polls: https://www.patreon.com/SwingingDownunder Wanderlust Swingers Website: https://wanderlustswingers.com/ Join SDC – Meet other swingers in your area: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=32122

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