EP200 – Hotwife Glory Hole Experience & 3 New Swingers Clubs in 3 Weeks

In our 200th episode, Cate and Darrell reflect on a decade in the lifestyle — and ask: can old swingers learn new tricks? From awkward dress-downs and single-guy overloads to sexy vibes, secret blowjobs, and diverse party crowds, this one is packed.

We hit up three different swingers clubs in three weeks, including CitySwingers in Copenhagen (a real let down), Party Players in the Netherlands (a sexy swingers club but not a swingers event), and finally the X Club in Toronto — where a hotwife glory hole scene played out in real-time.

You’ll also hear about:

• What makes a club feel sexy (or not)

• Swingers vs. sex clubs: what’s the difference?

• Party diversity, drug culture at events, and the illusion of no-phone policies

• Cate’s secret hotwife escapade: from business-bitch lingerie to anonymous cock sucking

Plus, we tease what’s ahead for Cap d’Agde, share a major Libertine Events milestone, and celebrate hitting 200 episodes without a single piña colada spilled on the mic. Cheers, you filthy animals.

• Swingers Clubs Reviewed – CitySwingers (Copenhagen), Party Players (NL), and The X Club (Toronto)

• Dress Down Disasters – From mismatched underwear to sensory shutdowns

• Hotwife Glory Hole Fantasy – Cate and a stranger's cock, one hole, zero hesitation

• Diversity Wins – Why inclusive swinger parties feel better

• Behind the Curtain – Real talk on party rules, event polish, and the drug-vibe spectrum

Useful Links from this Episode:

• Support Us + Access Exclusive Content - https://patreon.com/swingingdownunder
• X Club Tour on YouTube - https://youtu.be/YFmlAlm42E0?si=-h1iBPwUTnIVoI63
• X Club Toronto Website - https://www.thexclub.net/
• Party Players Lelystad (Netherlands) - https://partyplayers.nl/
• CitySwingers Copenhagen (Denmark) - https://www.swingeren.dk/
• Libertine Events – Swingers Takeovers & Parties - https://libertineevents.com
• Contact Us - email@wanderlustswingers.com

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EP199 – Spontaneous vs. Responsive Desire in the Swingers Lifestyle

In this episode, Cate and Darrell dive into the psychology and practicality of spontaneous vs. responsive desire — and how this can make or break your experiences in the lifestyle. Whether you're the one who’s ready to go at the first flash of lingerie or someone who needs the right mood, connection, or even lunch before feeling sexy, we explore what it all means for swingers navigating clubs, hotel takeovers, and multi-day events.

We also update you on the notorious dildo from the last episode — yes, Cate used it. Was it sexy? Science-y? Did it cause a UTI? (Spoiler: yes to all of the above). Plus, you’ll hear about Cate’s surprise visit to a Canadian club, her puffed-up chipmunk face courtesy of the Dutch healthcare system, and a viral Facebook video that got her slapped with a ‘bullying’ violation. You can’t make this stuff up.

Finally, we tackle a fantastic listener question: Why are we pickier on dating sites than in real life? Is it about spontaneity, judgment, or just too many filters?

The Dildo Debrief – Cate puts the giant toy to the test (with help) and shares the honest, messy aftermath

Spontaneous vs. Responsive Desire – What it means, how to spot it in yourself or your partner, and how it plays out at lifestyle events

Desire Mismatches – What to do when one partner is ready to pounce and the other needs time to warm up

Listener Q&A – Why are we all trolls online? Cate reflects on being pickier in apps than IRL, and what that says about connection

Be A Better Swinger Tips – Learn your desire style and how to meet each other in the middle (without pressure)

Website: www.wanderlustswingers.com YouTube: Wanderlust Swingers on YouTube Libertine Events – Texas Takeover: https://libertineevents.com/sanantonio Email: email@wanderlustswingers.com Support us & see the uncensored dildo pics: patreon.com/swingingdownunder

Tell us what turns you on, how you navigate mismatched desire with your partner, or what you’ve learned in your own lifestyle journey — we love hearing your stories and insights.

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Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories EP198 – Cap D Agde Desires, What’s in the Box and How to Small Talk

Cate’s fresh back from Miami (just her this time!) and while we only touch on that wild weekend, we’re diving deep into what’s really heating things up: our return to Cap d’Agde in 2025, a brand new sex toy, and Darrell’s spicy fantasy.

In this episode, Darrell receives a mystery box that leaves Cate both suspicious and very curious. Spoiler alert: it’s a new toy — but it’s not one we’ve ever used before. Unboxing it live kicks off a conversation about impulse sexy buys, techy pleasure, and how this toy might play into fantasy fufillment.

We’re also answering a great listener question from a hotwife couple in New Zealand: How do you make small talk in the lifestyle when talking about work and kids feels out of place? From flirting in loud clubs to deep connection at weekend events, we’ve got practical tips, sexy one-liners, and a few hilarious fails to share.

And finally — we’re going back to the Naked City! Cap d’Agde 2025 is on the horizon and we’re already fantasizing about beachside play, group massages, and balcony sex in the hot Mediterranean sun. This isn’t just a trip — it’s a sexual state of mind.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

• Mystery Box Reveal: Darrell’s new toy arrives and Cate’s imagination runs wild

• Lifestyle Small Talk: Flirty questions, fun energy, and how to connect without asking about someone’s 9–5

• Cap d’Agde Desires: Why we’re going back and what (or who) we want to do when we get there

• Darrell’s Fantasy: How we're fulfilling it without putting anyone at risk

• Be A Better Swinger Tips: Mindset matters — whether it’s packing for Cap or chatting up couples at a club

Links:

Website: www.wanderlustswingers.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@WanderlustSwingers Libertine Events – Texas Takeover: https://libertineevents.com/sanantonio Email: email@wanderlustswingers.com

Are you coming to Cap d’Agde in 2025? Do you have a fantasy you’re dying to try? Or want to see what was in the box? Drop us a line — we love hearing from you!

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