In this episode of Untapped Stories, we sit down with someone who sees youth sports through a lens every parent needs to hear: Cari, the longtime soccer mom behind https://www.instagram.com/soccermomsunfiltered/ — a voice known for honesty, humor, and a refreshingly grounded perspective on what kids actually need from us.
Because if you’ve been around youth sports long enough, you’ve seen it…the pressure, the comparison, the scoreboard parenting. The subtle ways parents turn their goals into their kid’s burden. Most of it comes from love — wanting the best, wanting them to succeed, wanting to give them every opportunity.
But Cari shared the reminder that stops you in your tracks: it’s your child’s dream, not yours. And how you show up as a parent can either protect that dream… or unintentionally crush it.
Cari has been through the travel teams, the tryouts, the wins, the heartbreaks, the sideline dynamics, and the rollercoaster of raising a young athlete in a world that never seems to slow down. And what she’s learned is simple but powerful: youth sports should be a place where kids feel supported, not steered. Lifted, not pushed. A place where they can fall in love with the game on their own terms.
But this conversation goes far deeper than “don’t be a pushy parent.”
Cari breaks down what young athletes desperately need from the people in the stands:
- Encouragement that feels unconditional.
- Positivity that doesn’t depend on performance.
- A home environment where mistakes aren’t met with analysis, but support.
- A car ride home that doesn’t feel like an evaluation meeting.
She opens up about the real challenges parents face today — the comparison culture, the rise of social media, the myth that specializing earlier guarantees success, and the silent fear many parents share: “Am I doing enough for my kid… or am I doing too much?”
And she reminds us why youth sports matter in the first place. Not for scholarships. Not for rankings. Not for highlight reels. But for the moments that shape who a child becomes:
- Learning how to lose with grace.
- Learning how to win with gratitude.
- Learning how to fail, adjust, and try again.
- Learning to love something deeply — even when it’s hard.
Cari has seen firsthand that the athletes who thrive are the ones who feel ownership of their journey. The ones who play because they want to, not because they’re afraid to disappoint someone. The ones who grow up believing the field is a place of joy… not judgment.
This episode covers:
- The silent pressure parents put on kids without realizing it
- Why “it’s your kid’s dream, not yours” might be the most important rule in youth sports
- How to support performance without controlling it
- The difference between pushing and encouraging
- Why positivity — especially during struggle — is a parent’s superpower
- How to help kids stay in love with the game long-term
- What to say (and what not to say) on the car ride home
- Why resentment builds when parents try to drive the journey
- The role of autonomy in kids’ confidence, joy, and development
- How social media and modern competition have changed the parenting experience
Cari’s perspective is a breath of fresh air in a sports world that often feels too loud, too fast, and too heavy. Her message is a reminder that youth sports aren’t just a pathway to performance — they’re a pathway to character.
And the greatest gift a parent can give is not pressure…but presence!
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