Money problems don’t start with numbers—they start with misalignment.

In this episode, we talk honestly about finances in relationships, beginning with a brief overview of the Dave Ramsey approach and then sharing how we customized it to fit real life. We explain our bucket-style bank account system, how we use a shared budgeting spreadsheet, and why systems—not willpower—reduced stress and conflict in our marriage.

We also unpack common financial pitfalls couples face, including control, avoidance, unequal responsibility, and unclear expectations. To close, we connect money to productivity and purpose by highlighting insights from Financial Peace, Getting Things Done, and Knowing Your Why.

Books:

Crucial Conversations - https://www.amazon.com/Crucial-Conversations-Tools-Talking-Stakes/dp/0071401946

Financial Peace - https://www.amazon.com/Financial-Peace-Revisited-audiobook/dp/B007QSOTY2/

Getting Things Done - https://www.amazon.com/Getting-Things-Done-Stress-Free-Productivity/dp/0142000280/

Knowing your why - https://www.amazon.com/Know-Your-Why-Finding-Fulfilling/dp/0718087712

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Social Media links

@designofmovement

Ashley: instagram.com/howardashley87

Brandon: instagram.com/designofmovement

Brandon and Ashley discuss their church’s “Recipe for Relationships” series and how it applies to marriage, dating, and friendships. They break down two key themes—Priority (keeping God first and ordering your life wisely) and Pursuit (showing up with consistent action, not just words). They challenge listeners to re-evaluate their circle: healthy relationships build you up, require trust and respect, and are marked by growth, boundaries, and real support—not constant draining or one-sided effort.

Bible Verses Mentioned/Referenced

• Genesis 2:24 — leaving and cleaving; covenant alignment
• 1 John 3:18 — love shown through action and truth
• Ephesians 6:12 — spiritual influence behind what we wrestle with
• Galatians 6:2 — bear one another’s burdens
• Luke 9:62 (and Genesis 19:26) — don’t look back; Lot’s wife as a warning

Transformation Church Knoxville

https://www.transformationchurch.us/

Pastor Kim

https://www.instagram.com/realtalkkim/?hl=en

Social Media links

@designofmovement

Ashley: instagram.com/howardashley87

Brandon: instagram.com/designofmovement

This episode we meet Brandon Moore — the man, the myth, the nerd.

Husband. Stepfather. Senior analyst. Bass player.

In this episode, Brandon opens up about the journey of stepfatherhood, what marriage has taught him about identity and growth, how he navigates a demanding career in tech, and the role music plays in keeping him grounded and creative.

It’s honest, thoughtful, and full of real-life perspective on balancing calling, responsibility, and passion — without losing yourself in the process.

Whether you’re building a family, building a career, or building your craft, this conversation is for you.

Social Media links

@designofmovement

Ashley: instagram.com/howardashley87

Brandon: instagram.com/designofmovement