This month we abandon regular programming as podcast host Tolu Agbelusi takes the hot seat and is interviewed by Diana Onuma who was our guest in November 2025. Tolu is a poet, playwright, editor, artist and former lawyer. She is also the author of Locating Strongwoman. She shares her journey of creative self-expression, exploring themes of authenticity, legacy, and the complexities of mother-daughter relationships. She reflects on the impact of her work, the challenges of unlearning societal and family expectations, and the importance of self-acceptance. Tolu emphasizes the need for open communication in relationships and the value of embracing discomfort for personal growth.

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www.ToluAgbelusi.com

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The music for Unlearning Strongwoman is created by Shade Joseph
Locating Strongwoman, a poetry collection by Tolu Agbelusi can be purchased here.

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In this episode, Tolu Agbelusi engages in a deeply affirming conversation with Diana Onuma, a family mediator, lawyer and life coach. They explore the essence of what it means to be deeply rooted, the importance of vulnerability, the cultural conditioning that shapes women's identities and how to unlearn them. Diana shares her personal journey of self-discovery, the role models that inspired her, and the complexities of mother-daughter relationships. They discuss the challenges of unlearning societal expectations, the impact of shame and guilt, and the significance of sisterhood. Diana also delves into her experiences with perimenopause and the importance of advocating for women's health. The conversation concludes with reflections on legacy, joy, and the power of connection.

Relevant Links

Book - Domestic Violence Rescue Essentials by Diana Onuma

If you are stuck in an abusive relationship and need a coach to plan and walk with you through your exit - reach out to diana on her insta dm @dianaonuma or send an email to hello @ thesoulhealing-boutique.co.uk

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The music for Unlearning Strongwoman is created by Shade Joseph
Locating Strongwoman, a poetry collection by Tolu Agbelusi can be purchased here.

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In this episode of Unlearning Strongwoman, host Tolu Agbelusi engages in a profound conversation with Rachel Afi Quinn, an associate professor and writer, about the evolving definition of strong woman, the importance of adaptability, and the influence of Black feminist thought. The discussion also touches on the emotional toll of grief, the challenges of contemporary feminism, and what it means to navigate whiteness as a mixed race Black girl/now woman raised by white women.

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The music for Unlearning Strongwoman is created by Shade Joseph
Locating Strongwoman, a poetry collection by Tolu Agbelusi can be purchased here.

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#Unlearning
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#StrongBlackWoman
#Conditioning
#WomenEmpowerment