Grief and loss are profound and complex human experiences that often leave us feeling isolated and uncertain of how to cope. We struggle to talk about these deeply personal emotions, and the pressure to "be okay" can compound the pain, leading to self-criticism and shame. This difficulty is worsened by a culture of productivity that systemically discourages taking the time needed for a natural healing process.

This episode offers clarity and care by exploring what grief truly is—beyond just bereavement—and how it affects our mental health. We delve into the power of Compassion-Focused Therapy (CFT) to reframe our emotional struggles and the vital role of self-validation in moving forward while honouring what has been lost.

You will learn practical strategies to cultivate compassion for yourself and others as a powerful guide through times of emotional difficulty.

Elaine McDonald is joined by Dr Sonia Pillai, a Senior Psychologist at St John of God University Hospital and an aspiring somatic coach.

Dr Pillai has a special interest in trauma, ADHD, OCD, and anxiety. Her practice is grounded in humanistic and neuro-affirming philosophies, integrating various therapeutic approaches to support people through complex emotional experiences.

THINGS WE SPOKE ABOUT

Grief is broad, universal process
Societal barriers hinder natural grieving
CFT's three emotional systems model
Grief is an ongoing, non-linear process.
Validate your emotional responses to loss.

GUEST DETAILS

Dr Sonia Pillai is Senior Counselling Psychologist at St John of God University Hospital. She works alongside a multidisciplinary team supporting new inpatients and runs DBT and CFT groups. Dr Pillai practices from a foundation of humanistic and neuro-affirming philosophies. She integrates models like Emotion-Focused Therapy and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Dr Pillai has a special interest in trauma, ADHD, OCD, and anxiety.

MORE INFORMATION

To find out more about the work of the St John of God University Hospital visit stjohnofgodhospital.ie

QUOTES

The grief process... can take years, right? And I think helping people to validate their very natural responses to loss can be really powerful in the therapy space. - Dr Sonia Pillai

As long as there is a loss of something that's meaningful to someone, and it's, you know, maybe indicated that one cannot return to the way one's life was before this loss, then I think it's natural for a grief process to happen then. - Dr Sonia Pillai

You know, the grief will always be there. The waves are always going to be part of your life. Life, but it's about maybe allowing them to feel less intense through the process of minding yourself. - Dr Sonia Pillai

KEYWORDS

#GriefAndLoss #SelfCompassion #MentalHealthSupport #CFTSkills #EmotionalWellbeing