Uncovering the Hidden Wound: Understanding Shame After Sexual Betrayal (Season 1: Episode 5)
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Uncovering the Hidden Wound: Understanding Shame After Sexual Betrayal (Season 1: Episode 5)
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About this listen
In this powerful episode of Rise: Hope and Healing from Sexual Betrayal, Dr. Kevin Skinner and Marianne Michaelis, LCSW, bring attention to an often overlooked wound—the betrayed partner’s shame. They unpack how shame takes root after discovery, transforming natural questions like “Why did this happen?” into painful self-blame—“I must not be enough.” Drawing from research showing that more than 70–80% of betrayed partners feel unlovable or stupid after betrayal, Dr. Skinner and Marianne explain how shame becomes internalized, influencing thoughts, relationships, and even the body’s physiology.
Using insights from Brené Brown and Treating Chronic Shame, they reveal that shame is relational—it thrives in silence, secrecy, and judgment, and begins to heal through connection, voice, and support. The hosts explore practical ways to interrupt the “shame virus,” including naming shame’s physical signals, separating your worth from your partner’s choices, and finding safe, trained support to share your story. They remind listeners that shame cannot survive empathy and that every individual—regardless of betrayal, history, or mistakes—is born with infinite worth that cannot be lost.
Listeners are invited to reflect, connect, and take the first step toward reclaiming their true identity beyond the betrayal story.
Resources Available-
Rise: Hope and Healing from Sexual Betrayal Course A guided 12-session journey offering tools to understand trauma, process emotions, and rebuild identity after betrayal. 👉 https://www.humanintimacy.com/course/hope-and-healing-from-sexual-betrayal
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Human Intimacy Online Educational Support Group Join Dr. Skinner and Marianne Michaelis in an upcoming online group offering teaching, Q&A, and community support. Learn how to apply these concepts in real time with others walking the same path.
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Additional Resources
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Treating Trauma from Sexual Betrayal — Dr. Kevin Skinner’s book exploring the trauma response and pathways to healing.
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The Other Side of Infidelity — Dr. Skinner’s TEDx Talk explaining betrayal trauma and its impact.
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Treating Chronic Shame by Patricia DeYoung — referenced in this episode for understanding shame’s relational nature.
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Articles, podcasts, and free tools available at HumanIntimacy.com
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