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Thoughtful Planning

Thoughtful Planning

By: Santiago and Honey Bueno
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 Life doesn’t always go as expected. That’s why planning for contingencies is so important. The Thoughtful Planning podcast will help you understand why having these conversations, and making these decisions are so important. Putting a plan in place gives your family peace of mind knowing and understanding your choices. Reduce stress and anxiety about finances, insurance, and your final wishes. Husband and wife hosts Santiago and Honey Bueno share the steps they’ve taken and explain the questions they are still considering. Create a plan now, while you’re able to thoughtfully consider how you’d like things handled. Santiago and Honey share advice with compassion and understanding. They know that hard conversations need to happen, but you don’t have to be alone as you begin your planning Journey.@Legacy Toolkit LLC 2024
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  • The Dementia Deck: Planning with Clarity While You Still Can | S2EP54

    The Dementia Deck: Planning with Clarity While You Still Can | S2EP54
    Nov 4 2025
    Episode Summary: According to Compassion & Choices, one in three older adults will die with dementia. Honey & Santiago introduce The Dementia Deck, a 41-card conversation tool to express your care preferences while clear of mind. They discuss caregiving worries, feeding tubes, late-stage care decisions, and fears about living with dementia. Essential Question: If you were diagnosed with dementia tomorrow, would your loved ones know what kind of care matters most to you? Content Warning: This episode discusses dementia and its challenges. If you or someone you love is dealing with dementia, please take care of yourself. This episode introduces a planning tool, not professional help. Disclaimer: This episode is for educational purposes only. We are not doctors, therapists, or lawyers. Key Takeaways: • 1 in 3 older adults will die with dementia; 14 million Americans by 2050 • Alzheimer's deaths increased 145% while heart disease deaths decreased 9% (last 20 years) • Dementia Deck has 41 cards for exploring care preferences while clear-minded • Younger onset dementia can begin in 30s or 40s • Start with comfort questions (music, hobbies) before heavy care decisions • As of October 2025, Nevada is only state with dementia-specific advance directive forms • Other states: use dementia-directive.org form as addendum • This is a conversation starter, NOT legal documentation Episode Highlights: [0:04] Cold open: Dementia statistics [2:28] Essential question [2:38] Younger onset dementia (30s/40s) [3:00] The Dementia Deck: 41 cards [4:36] Card 1: Caregiver worries [6:05] Accepting help & self-care [7:55] Card 2: Feeding tube decisions [9:25] Card 3: Late stage care [10:42] Open question: Biggest worries [10:55] Santiago: Being a burden [11:38] Honey: Forgetting loved ones [12:20] Caring is loving, not burdensome [13:52] Legal documentation options [15:27] Practical tips [17:00] Where to get the deck [18:01] Closing thoughts Action Steps: ✅ Order The Dementia Deck at thedeathdeck.com ✅ Start with comfort questions (music, hobbies, sources of joy) ✅ Include the right people in the conversation (spouse, adult children, siblings) ✅ Have the conversation more than once as preferences change ✅ Document the answers (record or take detailed notes) ✅ Share your wishes with your power of attorney, adult children, doctor ✅ Get the form at dementia-directive.org ✅ Talk to estate planning attorney about adding as addendum to advance directives Resources: • The Dementia Deck: https://thedeathdeck.com/collections/shop-all-decks • Dementia Directive Form: https://dementia-directive.org • Episode 33 - Psychiatric and Dementia Directives: https://youtu.be/cH9Jc_8LNlE • Compassion & Choices - Dementia and End-of-Life Care: https://compassionandchoices.org/resource/dementia-and-end-of-life-care/ • Death Deck Episode: https://youtu.be/m6w0HpWhU_g • EOL Deck Episode: https://youtu.be/4xvGIQAdizI Connect: Website: https://www.legacytoolkit.com/podcast Email: info@legacytoolkit.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/legacytoolkitwithsantiagoandhoney LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/legacy-toolkit Keywords: Dementia Deck, dementia planning, advance directives, dementia care preferences, Alzheimer's planning, caregiving, end-of-life planning, dementia directive, memory care decisions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    19 mins
  • How The Death Deck Helps Start End-of-Life Conversations S2EP52

    How The Death Deck Helps Start End-of-Life Conversations S2EP52
    Oct 7 2025
    Episode Summary: In our last episode, we talked about how HBO's "The Pitt" could be a conversation starter for families to discuss end-of-life wishes. Today, we're sharing another tool that makes these conversations easier with some fun. Honey and Santiago play The Death Deck, a card game with 112 questions designed to spark lively discussions about death. Watch as they discover just how well they really know each other's end-of-life wishes through multiple choice questions and open-ended prompts. Disclaimer: This episode is for educational purposes only. We are not doctors or lawyers. Please consult with healthcare professionals or estate planning attorneys about your specific situation. Essential Question: How well do you really know your family's thoughts about death and end-of-life wishes? Content Warning: Today we're talking about a card game dealing with end-of-life topics. This card game is designed to spark conversations, not to make light of the topic of death. Please talk to a professional or call a helpline to seek help if you're facing difficulties. Please take care of yourself. You don't have to face anything alone. Key Takeaways: The Death Deck contains 112 cards with multiple choice and open-ended questions about death The game is designed for when you're healthy, not during active end-of-life situations Specialized decks exist for specific situations (EOL Deck, Dementia Deck) Card games are conversation starters but never replace legal documentation Review cards before playing with groups to remove triggering content Episode Highlights: [0:04] Introduction and Connection to The Pitt Episode - How conversation tools help families discuss end-of-life [0:44] Content Warning - Sensitivity notice for listeners [0:59] Welcome and Disclaimer - Meet Honey and Santiago [1:21] Essential Question - How well do you know your family's thoughts about death? [1:29] The Death Deck Introduction - 112 cards designed to spark discussion [1:59] How The Death Deck Works - Multiple choice vs open-ended questions and different ways to play [3:28] Gameplay Segment Begins - Honey and Santiago play three rounds [3:50] Round 1: Space Cremains Question - Would you send cremated remains into space? [5:17] Round 2: Cremation Jewelry Question - Would you wear jewelry containing loved one's remains? [7:11] Round 3: Memorial Video Question - Making a video to be played after death [9:05] Open-Ended Question: "I See Dead People" - Who would you want as your official greeter upon death? [10:44] Other Specialized Decks - EOL Deck and Dementia Deck for specific situations [11:56] Important Reminder - Card games never replace legal documentation [12:43] Call to Action - Get The Death Deck or find another conversation starter [13:15] Essential Question Revisited - Circling back to how well you know your family Action Steps: ✅ Consider getting The Death Deck or finding another way to start these conversations with your family ✅ If making it a party, review cards first and remove any that might be triggering Resources Shared: The Death Deck, EOL Deck, and Dementia Deck: https://thedeathdeck.com/collections/shop-all-decks State advance directive forms for legal documentation of wishes: https://www.aarp.org/caregiving/financial-legal/free-printable-advance-directives/ Connect with Thoughtful Planning: Website: https://www.legacytoolkit.com/contact Email: info@legacytoolkit.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/legacytoolkitwithsantiagoandhoney LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/legacy-toolkit Thank You for Listening! Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who needs to start these important family conversations. Keywords: The Death Deck, death conversations, family planning, end-of-life wishes, advance directives, conversation starters, EOL Deck, Dementia Deck, family communication, end-of-life planning Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    14 mins
  • Before Crisis Hits: A Conversation Every Family Needs S2EP51

    Before Crisis Hits: A Conversation Every Family Needs S2EP51
    Sep 23 2025
    Episode Summary: Picture this: Your child is in the hospital, declared brain dead. The doctor says according to their driver's license, they're an organ donor. But you've never talked about this as a family. In your grief and shock, what would you say? Honey and Santiago share how HBO Max's "The Pitt" opened their eyes to why one difficult conversation could prevent family heartbreak during an already devastating time. Disclaimer: This episode is for educational purposes only. We are not doctors or lawyers. Please consult with healthcare professionals or estate planning attorneys about your specific situation. Essential Question: What are your wishes for organ donation? And have you shared those wishes with your family? Content Warning: This episode discusses graphic medical scenarios and substance overdose. The referenced HBO Max series contains very graphic content and is recommended for adults only. Key Takeaways: The HBO Max wake-up call - How "The Pitt" depicts realistic ER scenarios that families face The legal reality - First-person authorization laws and family decision-making in organ donation Why conversations matter more than paperwork and how families often don't know loved ones' registration status Using media as conversation starters and how they can help families discuss difficult topics Episode Highlights: [0:00] The Hospital Scenario - Picture this opening about family crisis and organ donation decisions [1:13] HBO Max's "The Pitt" Series Discussion - Content warning and realistic ER depictions [2:01] The 19-Year-Old's Story - Fentanyl overdose case and family's organ donation struggle [3:31] Why Family Conversations Matter - The emotional impact when families haven't discussed wishes [4:01] Legal Realities: First-Person Authorization - Uniform Anatomical Gift Act and state laws [5:44] How to Start the Conversation - Using TV shows and driver's license discussions as opportunities [7:43] Previous Organ Donation Episodes - Reference to past guests and their experiences [8:37] Call to Action - Practical steps for having these conversations with family Action Steps: ✅ Have the organ donation conversation with your family ✅ Consider watching "The Pitt" as adults to spark discussion ✅ When teens get their first driver's license, explain all the choices they're making ✅ Document your wishes through DMV registration or advance directives ✅ Ensure family members know your decisions Resources Shared: HBO Max series "The Pitt": https://www.hbomax.com/shows/pitt-2024/e6e7bad9-d48d-4434-b334-7c651ffc4bdf State advance directive forms: https://www.caringinfo.org/planning/advance-directives/ Department of Motor Vehicles donor registration: https://www.organdonor.gov/sign-up Uniform Anatomical Gift Act (UAGA): https://www.organdonationalliance.org/insight/uniform-anatomical-gift-act-uaga/ Connect with Thoughtful Planning: Website: https://www.legacytoolkit.com/podcast Email: info@legacytoolkit.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/legacytoolkitwithsantiagoandhoney LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/legacy-toolkit Thank You for Listening! Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with someone planning important family conversations. Keywords: organ donation, family conversations, advance directives, first-person authorization, end-of-life planning, family planning, medical decisions, HBO Max The Pitt, donor registration Episodes Shared: Episode 9: Rachel Quigley from Texas Organ Sharing Alliance walked us through the entire process: https://youtu.be/Br6EfLJCX7U Episode 10: Kim Perkins, who received a pancreas from a young man and meets with his mother every year to celebrate life: https://youtu.be/XmPIyUE5kyE Episode 41: Dr. Brittany Clayborne and her son Micah, both heart transplant recipients who started Transplant Teenz to help other teens navigate the experience: https://youtu.be/9pWuP1CyWXk?si=tykvwK3X5b6dJlDw Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    10 mins
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