Feeling pulled in a thousand directions, lists multiplying, brain whirring? This honest, no-fluff episode is your permission slip to ditch the perfectionism and choose what actually matters. I share three simple, doable practices to help you enjoy Christmas (and your life) a whole lot more: be present, be the best version of you, and be kind to yourself.

In this episode

• Presence over presents: How to redirect a busy brain back to the moment (again and again) so your people feel you with them.
• The best version of you: Why unconditional love sometimes sounds like “no”, and how to set boundaries without the guilt or drama.
• Self-kindness: Talking to yourself like you talk to your best mate, making choices your future self will thank you for, and dropping the optional extra stress when things aren’t “perfect”.

You’ll learn

• Practical scripts to bring your attention back—gently, without judgement.
• What to do when you’ve said yes but don’t really want to (resentment is not festive).
• How to hold space for tougher emotions at Christmas—sadness, anxiety, disappointment—without piling on shame.
• A kinder way to handle “imperfections” (overcooked spuds, missing items, imperfect tables… no one’s dying; it’s fine).

Try this this week

1. Pick one daily moment to practise presence (meal, film, walk). When your mind wanders: “Thanks, brain—back to here.”
2. Decide one loving boundary in advance and stick to it.
3. Choose one kind thought you’ll say to yourself on repeat.

I’m fully switching off over the holidays—no email, no socials—and I’d love you to try the same. The world will keep turning. I’ll see you on the other side in 2026. Have the calmest, kindest, most present Christmas you can practise. 🎄

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This week I’m joined by my friend and fellow coach, Patrick Fox—men’s life and sober coach— for an honest, practical conversation about emotions, sobriety, and why “feeling it” is the fastest way through.

Patrick shares his journey to eight years alcohol-free, how identity shifts start small (hello, One Year No Beer), and the somatic tools from Compassionate Inquiry that help you let emotions move without buying into the old “I’m not good enough” script.

We dig into urges, shame, and that rinse-repeat cycle, plus how to model healthy emotional processing for our kids and partners. Expect zero fluff, lots of compassion, and plenty you can try today—especially if you’re a busy woman juggling work, family and the constant pressure to keep everyone happy.

You’ll learn:

• A simpler way to process feelings: feel it without believing it
• Quick somatic check-ins to get out of your head and into your body
• How small commitments become lasting identity shifts
• Why curiosity and compassion beat self-judgement every time

🎧 Bonus: I’ll share a recording of my own CI session with Patrick so you can see the process in action. Check it out after this episode.

Links:

Patrick’s website - https://www.patrickjfox.com/about

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/thealcoholrethinkpodcast/

Linked In - https://www.linkedin.com/in/patrickjamesfox/

Search The Alcohol Rethink podcast.

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In this bonus podcast episode, I'm sharing with you the Compassionate Inquiry session I had with Patrick Fox in the hope that it encourages you to try give it a go with your emotions.

This will make more sense if you've listened to interview I did with Patrick in Podcast Episode #94.

You can also watch this episode on YouTube with Captions - https://www.youtube.com/@TheWorkingWomensLifeCoach

If you'd like to have a chat about how I can help you further, please don't hesitate to click here & book a time with me, I'd love to meet you.

You can also follow me on IG @NickyBevan_LifeCoach