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The Value of Disappointment
Pastor Jerrid Fletcher
November 23, 2025

The Value in Dealing with Disappointment” walks us through what happens in the gap between what we expected and what God allowed, and how to meet God honestly in that space. Jerrid shares a raw season of stacked grief—seven family deaths in six months—and the quiet, unspoken disappointment that formed when heaven seemed silent, and God didn’t move the way he’d hoped. From there, the message names different “flavors” of disappointment (circumstantial, from others, from ourselves, and with God) and makes an important distinction between being disappointed with God’s decisions and being disappointed in God’s character. Using Psalm 13 as an anchor, we see David model biblical lament as a healthy way to deal with disappointment: he begins with honest complaint (“How long, Lord?”), moves into petition (“Look on me and answer”), and ends in trust (“But I trust in Your unfailing love”) even though nothing on the outside has changed. The message challenges us to reject myths like “If I ignore it, it’ll go away” or “If I was more spiritual, I wouldn’t feel this,” and instead to name our pain, turn it into conversation with God, and surrender the outcome to Him. Ultimately, it calls us to believe that disappointment is real,
but it doesn’t get to define who God is—that healing begins when we bring our honest hurt to Him and let disappointment become a doorway to deeper faith, not a wall between us and His heart.

Discussion Questions

1. Where have you seen disappointment show up in your own life this year—circumstantially, through others, through yourself, or with God—and how have you tended to handle it (ignore it, control it, stuff it, or bring it to God)?

2. The message distinguished between being disappointed with God (what He allowed) and being disappointed in God (who He is). Which one do you relate to more right now, and what does that reveal about the state of your trust in Him?

3. Psalm 13 shows a clear movement: complaint → petition → trust. Which part of that process is hardest for you and why—being honest about your hurt, asking God specifically for help, or choosing to trust Him before anything changes?

4. One line from the message was, “If it stays vague, it stays powerful.” What specific disappointment might God be inviting you to name clearly so He can begin to heal it, and what would it look like to turn that into a simple, honest prayer this week?