• Becoming The Mom They'd Like to Follow for Your Sons & Daughters
    Oct 29 2025

    In this episode of The Unsidelined Life, Eileen Noyes tackles Proverbs 31:3 which warns sons to keep themselves sexually pure and not waste their strength on women who ruin kings. As a mother of seven boys, Eileen shares her heart and practical strategies for raising sons who can see through seduction in a culture that praises women for showing skin and celebrates promiscuity. She breaks down five ways to be the mom your sons want to talk to about difficult topics like pornography, relationships, and sexual purity, starting with transparency about who you were before Christ so they never think you won't understand their struggles. Eileen shares her powerful prayer that love not be awakened in her sons until God brings the right person, and explains how she speaks Proverbs 6 and 7 over them from toddler-hood to help them recognize the characteristics of wayward women. She boldly redefines the term MILF as "Mom I'd Like to Follow," explaining her desire to be the kind of mother her sons' girlfriends and future wives want to emulate rather than compete with. Drawing from Life Skills International principles about unhealthy mother-son bonds, Eileen discusses preparing herself emotionally for the day when her sons' wives become their priority, and shares practical ways she's building relationships with potential future daughters-in-law while her boys are still young.

    Discover how to raise sons who value purity and godly character in women while becoming the kind of mother both your children and their future spouses want to follow.
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  • Four Things You Should Never Say to Your Children
    Oct 22 2025

    In this concluding episode of the Proverbs 31:2 series on The Unsidelined Life, Eileen Noyes shifts focus from what to say to what NOT to say to your children. She shares four critical boundaries every parent needs to maintain: never bash their father in front of them (even in divorce), never speak negativity over them (including seemingly obvious statements like "you're so irresponsible"), never place emotional burdens on them they weren't meant to carry (like making your son your emotional support when your marriage struggles), and never compare them to siblings or use performance-based labels. Eileen vulnerably shares how she speaks healing over sickness instead of claiming illness, explaining her supernatural approach to staying healthy as a busy mom who can't afford to get sick. She addresses the dangerous mother-son bond that develops when women seek emotional connection from their sons instead of their husbands, using NFL examples of grown men who haven't properly left their mothers. Drawing from Life Skills International principles, Eileen explains how to find the positive trait in every seemingly negative characteristic your child displays, teaching parents to speak life by reframing "strong-willed" as "determined" and "annoying" as "detailed and organized."

    Learn the four statements that damage your children's hearts and discover what to say instead that builds them up and protects their identity.

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  • I Spoke Truth to My Baby's Subconscious - Here's What Happened
    Oct 15 2025

    In this continuation episode of The Unsidelined Life, Eileen Noyes shares actual stories from her parenting journey that demonstrate the four principles discussed last week in action. She reveals how being pregnant during her escape from an abusive marriage created a peaceful environment for her unborn son despite external chaos, proving that a mother's spiritual and emotional state directly impacts her child's development even in the womb. Eileen vulnerably shares how she unknowingly told her young son to "fend for himself" when overwhelmed with multiple children, then later had to sit him down at age two to apologize and speak truth into his subconscious mind, witnessing an immediate shift in his demeanor. She opens up about how her ex-husband’s words led their sons to believe they were somehow to blame for the divorce, and how she helped them heal by guiding them back to the truth. Eileen also discusses releasing her oldest son from the false life commandment that he had to be the man of the house after his father left, and shares how she's nurturing each child's unique bent - from the organized son who catalyzed her whole house cleaning journey to the craftsman son who builds furniture to her creative daughter who sees possibility in trash. This episode provides concrete examples that bring the theoretical principles to life, showing parents exactly what speaking truth and breaking life commandments looks like in real family situations.

    Hear real stories that show you exactly how to apply these principles with your own children, regardless of their age or your family circumstances.

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  • Did you Know Kids Blame Themselves for Everything - Here's Why
    Oct 8 2025

    In this continuation episode of The Unsidelined Life, Eileen Noyes shares four life-changing principles from Life Skills International that transformed how she parents her eight children through divorce, trauma, and everyday challenges. Drawing from her seven years as a facilitator, Eileen reveals the single most important truth every parent needs to understand: all kids take responsibility for all losses all the time, meaning children naturally blame themselves for divorce, death, abuse, and family dysfunction even when it has nothing to do with them. She explains how life commandments - statements like "you're stupid" or "eat everything on your plate" - become permanent programming that follows children into adulthood, and shares her own life commandment about appearance that stemmed from overhearing one comment her father made to her mother. Eileen discusses the grammar stage of classical education and why the early years are critical for planting truth in children's subconscious minds through songs, scripture, and repetition. She also addresses the biblical principle of training children in their bent, explaining how parents often squash their children's natural gifting by trying to make them replicate the parent's interests or accomplishments. This episode provides deep psychological and spiritual insights for parents who want to understand what's happening beneath the surface of their children's behaviors and help them process difficult life experiences with truth rather than lies.

    Discover why your children might be carrying guilt and shame for things that aren't their fault and learn how to speak truth into their subconscious minds.

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  • What Do I Say to My Kids - Five Parenting Principles from Proverbs 31:2
    Oct 1 2025

    In this vulnerable solo episode of The Unsidelined Life, Eileen Noyes tackles every parent's most haunting question: "Have you ever said anything to your kids that you regret?" Drawing from Proverbs 31:2 which asks "What my son, what shall I advise you?" Eileen shares five transformative principles that have guided her through raising eight children ranging from age 7 to 22. From navigating difficult conversations about their father's abandonment to handling everyday disputes between siblings, Eileen demonstrates how seeking God's guidance in the moment can prevent the regret that comes from reactive parenting. She addresses the challenge of age-appropriate conversations, the importance of not freaking out when your children make mistakes, and how to create a safe environment where kids feel comfortable being honest about their struggles. Drawing from her experience during her divorce and cult-like situation, Eileen shows how staying anchored in Christ enabled her children to maintain their faith despite devastating circumstances. This episode provides practical tools for Christian parents who want to parent like God parents - with patience, wisdom, and unconditional love that speaks to behaviors rather than attacking character. Eileen also discusses the role of the Holy Spirit as counselor in parenting decisions and shares real-life examples of age-appropriate conversations with her college-aged children about drinking and other challenging topics.

    Learn how to respond to your children from wisdom rather than emotion and create the kind of relationship where they come to you first when facing difficult decisions.
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  • Four Ways to Influence Your Family - Spirit, Soul, Body, and Home
    Sep 24 2025

    In this practical solo episode of The Unsidelined Life, Eileen Noyes breaks down four specific ways every mother and wife can positively influence their family daily through spirit, soul, body, and home environment. Starting with her 4:30 AM morning routine that sets a spiritual tone for her entire household, Eileen shares how worship music, prayer, and seeking God first creates an atmosphere that her children absorb even while sleeping. She addresses the challenge of avoiding the "crank-o-rama" attitude that comes when mothers skip their spiritual connection, explaining how the first words spoken each morning determine the family's entire day. Eileen gets vulnerable about breaking generational cycles of chaos and disorganization, sharing her journey from making cultural excuses to creating a peaceful home environment for her eight children. She discusses the importance of apologizing to your children when you lose your temper, the value of strength training for aging mothers, and practical tips for maintaining an organized home without perfectionism. Throughout the episode, Eileen emphasizes that mothers have the power to influence their families for good or bad, encouraging listeners to choose intentional actions that create environments of peace, health, and spiritual growth. This episode provides actionable steps for busy mothers who want to maximize their positive influence without adding overwhelming pressure to their daily routines.

    Discover practical ways to transform your family's atmosphere through small, intentional changes that reflect your identity as a Proverbs 31 woman.

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  • Your Influence as a Mother - Proverbs 31:1 Breakdown
    Sep 17 2025

    In this solo episode of The Unsidelined Life, Eileen Noyes begins her deep dive into Proverbs 31 by reading the entire passage and focusing on verse one, which reveals the influence of King Lemuel's mother on his wisdom and leadership. Eileen shares her personal journey from underestimating her role as a mother to understanding the tremendous impact she has on her children's future. She breaks down five essential principles every mother needs to understand about their influence, addressing common struggles like the pendulum swing from one extreme to another in parenting styles. Drawing from her own experiences of hitting rock bottom and wanting to give up, Eileen explains how God showed her the honor and privilege of motherhood during her darkest moments. She discusses the importance of setting healthy tones in the home, staying connected to God as the source, and allowing Him to heal wounds that affect how we parent. Eileen also addresses mothers who feel it's too late to change their influence, offering hope that healing and restoration are always possible. This episode launches her verse-by-verse study of Proverbs 31, showing how each principle applies to modern Christian mothers who want to raise children who will one day credit their mother's influence on their success and character.

    Discover why your role as a mother is more significant than you realize and learn practical steps to become the influencing force God created you to be.

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  • Proverbs 31 Woman Explained: Unlocking Your God-Given Purpose with Lady Bellator
    Sep 10 2025

    In this solo episode of The Unsidelined Life, Eileen Noyes reveals the spiritual revelation behind Lady Bellator and why every family-devoted woman is called to embody the Proverbs 31 woman. After legal battles with UFC fighters over her trademark, God showed Eileen that Lady Bellator represents four essential pillars of biblical womanhood that apply to every season of life. She breaks down the paralyzing misconception that the Proverbs 31 woman is an impossible standard and explains how this passage actually provides a framework for living in your God-given authority as daughter, bride, mother, and impact maker. Eileen shares her early morning revelation about structuring this entire podcast season around the 31 verses of Proverbs 31, promising at least 31 episodes diving deep into each verse. She addresses the guilt many Christian women feel about pursuing purposes outside the home and reveals how cleaning house physically mirrors the spiritual work God wants to do in every area of your life. This episode reframes the Proverbs 31 woman as an achievable identity rather than an overwhelming checklist, showing how strength, authority, and kingdom influence look different for each woman while remaining rooted in the same biblical principles.

    Discover why you're already equipped to be the woman of virtue God created you to be and stop feeling intimidated by impossible standards.

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