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The Silent Why: finding hope in grief and loss

The Silent Why: finding hope in grief and loss

By: Claire Sandys
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Claire Sandys is on a mission to see if it's possible to find hope in 101 different types of loss and grief (often joined by husband Chris). New ad-free episodes every other Tuesday. With childless (not by choice) hosts, this podcast is packed with deep, honest experiences of grief and hope from inspiring guests. You also get: tips on how to navigate and prepare for loss, blogs, experts, exploring how loss is handled on TV, and plenty of Hermans. For more visit: www.thesilentwhy.com.

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Episodes
  • Chris & Claire's Chatty Christmas Catch-Up 2025
    Dec 23 2025

    #141. Struggling with the festive season? You're not alone. It's not an easy time of year, and it’s been a season of both highs and lows for us too over the years.

    This is The Silent Why, a podcast on a mission to open up conversations around grief, to see if hope can be found in 101 different types of loss, and we're Chris & Claire Sandys, your childless hosts.

    Each year, we share a Christmas episode where we check in with how we’re really feeling about the festive season, childlessness, and everything that comes with it. Some years, we’re coping well. Other years, not so much. So where are we in 2025?

    You'll have to tune in to find out, but a sneak peek would tell you that we chat about; what it's like being back in a cold, wintery, Christmasy UK (after 8 weeks in Australia), how we're both feeling about being childless, what a visit to our local cathedral was like, and, of course, the vital importance of Christmas food.

    If you’d like to explore our previous Christmas episodes and blogs (as mentioned in the episode, plus more), you’ll find them all here: https://www.thesilentwhy.com/christmas

    Our past Christmas episodes range from 'Chris' Loss of Christmas Spirit' (2021), to feeling hopeful and joyful (2024) and everything in between, plus, there's bucket loads of tips for gently rebuilding hope if the season feels a bit heavy this year.

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    How to talk to the grieving: thesilentwhy.com/post/howtotalktothegrieving

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    58 mins
  • Australia Update 2: Time flies. And more flies.
    Dec 2 2025

    #140. How's our big trip 'Down Under' going? This is where you find out. Again.

    Welcome to The Silent Why - usually a podcast with a mission to open-up honest conversations around grief and explore whether hope can be found in 101 different types of permanent loss. But right now, things are a little different!

    Take a listen to the previous episode to get a better idea what this one is going to be all about.

    We (Chris & Claire, your hosts) are on an adventure halfway around the world, spending some time in Singapore and Australia. In this episode, we update you on our trip up the coast of Western Australia.

    This episode includes what's surprised, shocked and delighted us about the Aussie people, what wildlife we've seen (and held! 😉), what it's like to visit some of the most beautiful beaches in the world, and... flies!!

    Plus, you know we love to share the deep stuff too, so we also chat about how our expectations of this holiday have had to change, how being childless has affected us while away, and thoughts about the podcast in general and who it's really for.

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    Support the show: buymeacoffee.com/thesilentwhy

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    How to talk to the grieving: thesilentwhy.com/post/howtotalktothegrieving

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    1 hr and 24 mins
  • Australia Update 1: Distracted by kookaburras
    Nov 10 2025

    #139. How's our big trip going so far? This is where you find out.

    Welcome to The Silent Why - usually a podcast on a mission to open up honest conversations around grief and explore whether hope can be found in 101 different types of permanent loss - but right now, things are a little different!

    If you've heard the previous episode, you'll have a good idea what this one is going to be all about.

    We (Chris & Claire, your hosts) are on an adventure halfway around the world, spending some time down under. In this episode, we update you on our trip so far via Singapore to Western Australia.

    And since recording (just a few hours ago), we've already remembered plenty of things we forgot to mention; like how warm the sea was in Singapore, the unexpectedly delicious ice cream sandwiches (thanks Mel!), the luge rides, the different Maltesers, and the glorious abundance of Earl Grey tea over here.

    No doubt those stories, and many more, will make their way into a future episode.

    So far we've seen and experienced some amazing things, but we've also had some disappointments, and you know us - we love to share it all with you, so tune in, and join us.

    Plus, for videos of the kookaburra and bobtail lizard we mention, find us on social media.

    Send us a text

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    What's a Herman? / Buy a Herman - thehermancompany.com

    Support the show: buymeacoffee.com/thesilentwhy

    Sign-up to my mailing list (only used for sharing news occasionally!): thesilentwhy.com/newsletter

    How to talk to the grieving: thesilentwhy.com/post/howtotalktothegrieving

    Review the show: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Goodpods

    Episode transcripts: thesilentwhy.buzzsprout.com

    Thank you for listening.

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    49 mins
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