He was written off by teachers as "mentally retarded" at age five, but a father’s refusal to accept that label—and a rigorous "ABCs boot camp"—forged a resilience that would carry him from the trenches of the U.S. Army to the pinnacle of clinical psychology. Join us as Dr. Nate Chapman peels back the layers of the male psyche, revealing the invisible "shield" that many men carry—armor that once ensured survival but now imprisons the soul.​In this deep dive, we dissect the architecture of love using the "Sound Relationship House," exposing the silent "Four Horsemen" that can rot a partnership from the inside out. From the crucial difference between "investigating" and "learning" your partner to the one evolutionary reason men fear vulnerability, this conversation goes where few dare. Discover the practical step to drowning out the world’s noise and reclaiming your inner voice... before it’s too late.​Timestamps​[00:00] The Shield Metaphor: Why we protect what’s inside​[01:50] Introduction: Who is Dr. Nathaniel Chapman?​[02:30] From Concrete Work to Clinical Psychology​[04:09] "If You Can Learn Military Stuff...": Overcoming academic doubt​[05:49] The Accidental Psychologist: How a double major changed everything​[07:11] The Breakdown: Difference between a Counselor, Psychologist, and Psychiatrist​[10:02] Psychology as "The Study of the Soul"​[11:48] The Evolutionary Roots of the "Tough It Out" Mentality​[14:15] The "ABCs Boot Camp": A father’s lesson in grit and resilience​[18:26] The Gottman Method & The Sound Relationship House​[20:02] Trust vs. Betrayal: It’s not just about infidelity​[22:22] The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling​[26:40] The L.O.V.E. Acronym: A guide for partners of silent men​[30:00] Muscle Memory of the Mind: Why we keep shields up when the war is over​[35:04] The Final Step: How to tune into your inner voice#MenSufferInSilence #MensMentalHealth #PodcastForMen #Vulnerability #RealTalk #MentalHealthMatters #SafeSpaceForMen #NewPodcast #YouTubePodcast #mensufferinsilencepodcast

E. Nathaniel Chapman, Psy.D.Assistant Teaching ProfessorDepartment of PsychologyUniversity of California, San DiegoLicensed Psychologist, CA #33301Licensed Psychologist, DC# PSY20001362Licensed Clinical Psychologist, VA # 0810007910Licensed Psychologist, WV # 1248Authority to Practice Interjurisdictional Telepsychology (APIT) # 10730

echapman@ucsd.edu