What do you do if a friend tells you something deeply personal? Maybe they're getting divorced, or they’re pregnant but haven’t publicly announced it.

This week, I'm sharing a friendship boundary that Michael and I have held for years, including the kinds of things we don't share with each other, why some of our friends are shocked to learn we've kept their secrets for months (or years), and the role trust plays in building strong friendships, communities, and marriages.

I know this is a hot take. But I think there's a difference between hiding something from your partner and holding something for your friend.

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In this episode you’ll hear about:

• The 3 categories of information I refuse to share, even when friends never ask to keep it private
• Why carrying a friend's secret can sometimes be emotionally heavy, and why it's still worth it
• The surprising way trust spreads through friend groups when people realize you're someone who can keep a secret
• Why "my spouse knows everything" can unintentionally come at the expense of trust in your friendships
• The friendship philosophy that helps build strong individual relationships and a stronger marriage

Episode 2: How To Balance Friendship & Marriage Without Losing Yourself

Episode 12: Digging Into The 3 Kinds of Friendship Roots

Episode 100: How To Use the Wheel of Connection to Strengthen Your Support System

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