Nobody loves overthinking sex more than Muslim women in their 20s and 30s trying to make up for a stolen teenhood. This week, Salma sits down with California-born Pakistani-American Aleeyaa for a raw, hilarious, and soul-baring conversation about sex, rejection, and agency. From learning about sex in a USC classroom to carrying the weight of “no sex before marriage” since age 12, Aleeyaa unpacks what it means to navigate desire, boundaries, and shame in Muslim and South Asian households.

Together, Salma and Aleeyaa cover it all:

• Why Muslim women have their “teen years” in their 30s
• The triangle of sexual health: health, rights, and pleasure
• Kissing as the most intimate act (even more than sex)
• Best and worst hookup stories (including a condom fail disaster)
• Why rejection feels existential and how to own your desire anyway
• The pressure of friends’ choices, hookup culture, and consensus-building
• How pleasure isn’t just sex, but a way of living

Salma shares her funniest and most vulnerable stories: from sobbing after casual rejection to her best night of sex that didn’t even involve sex, while Aleeyaa reminds us that figuring it out IS the agency.

Salma and Aleeyaa also talk about the role of friends: the sacredness of attraction, asking your girls to step back from someone you like, and learning how to protect and voice your own desire without shame.

If you’ve ever been friendzoned your whole life, carried shame around desire, or struggled to balance sexual liberation with cultural expectations, this episode is proof that figuring it out IS the agency.

CREDITS:

Host & Creator: Salma Hindy
Executive Producer: Salma Hindy
Cinematographer: Ian Ritter
Studio: 30 Irving Studios
Editor: Salma Hindy
Artwork: Rana Omar

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Doppelgängers Salma Hindy and Sarah Arabic (who share the SAME 9/11 birthday) finally sit down face-to-face to talk about everything sex. Sarah grew up in Baghdad with no sex education and a family that never spoke about periods, pleasure, or intimacy. After moving to Dubai for college, she found freedom in her dorm room, exploring porn as an unexpected form of sex education. At 18, she discovered her first orgasm through Tumblr blogs, teaching herself piece by piece. Later, she earned a master’s degree in finance, only to leave corporate America behind to follow her curiosity into OnlyFans, Fetlife, adult conventions, and eventually the adult film industry. Today, three years in, she has over a million Instagram followers and 53M views on Pornhub.

In this conversation, Sarah gets candid about the self-conversations that helped her shed guilt and shame and the way she’s built a career entirely on her own terms. She shares her philosophy that curiosity - not clout - is her compass, and why “the second prn feels like work is the beginning of my downfall.” We talk consent, boundaries, and risk, with Sarah’s refreshingly practical view: there’s always risk, in life and in sex, but each person gets to decide how much they’re willing to take.

Highlights include:
- How exploring the kink community shaped Sarah’s boundaries in porn
- What happens if you change your mind mid-shoot
- Sarah’s perspective on what makes sex sacred
- Her experiences traveling to shoot
- Why she loves staying single with a wide net of partners
- Why she won’t perform acts that aren’t her kink
- Her aftercare rituals
- Her perspective on Mia Khalifa’s legacy
- Whether the community will ever “take you back” after stepping outside its norms

Plus: Salma admits to watching one of Sarah’s videos, and Sarah shares her wildest DM request. Salma also opens up about her celibacy and the fears she carries around sex. They also dive into the only moral regret in Salma’s career, and her dream of one day directing feminist porn.

Sarah’s wish for other women is that they see her and think, “I can do whatever I want.”

CREDITS:

Host & Creator: Salma Hindy
Executive Producer: Salma Hindy
Cinematographer: Ian Ritter
Studio: 30 Irving Studios
Editor: Salma Hindy
Artwork: Rana Omar

© The Secret Sex Lives of Muslim Women, 2025

Instagram: @thesecretsexlivesofmuslimwomen

YouTube: @thesecretsexlivesofmuslimwomen

HOST'S INSTAGRAM: @salma.hindy

HOST'S TIKTOK: @salma.hindy

What happens when the person you love turns out to be violent, racist, and determined to ruin you? This week, Algerian-American comedian Hedya joins Salma to share her shocking journey of falling for a man who seemed like home after years of family tension and cultural expectations, only to find herself trapped in a cycle of abuse. During the pandemic lockdown, he pushed her, dragged her out of the kitchen, and even locked her on the balcony. Yet two days later, she found herself baking him lasagna and chocolate cake, caught in the grip of trauma bonding. When he later sued her for custody of their dog and won, and began pursuing defamation lawsuits against her, Hedya was left financially drained but still fighting to reclaim her voice.

In this raw conversation, Hedya speaks openly about reparenting herself, navigating the push and pull of being Arab-American, and learning to reconnect with her body and self-worth after years of shame. Salma reflects on her own experiences with domestic violence growing up, as well as the heartbreak and frustration of watching a friend remain in an abusive relationship, and why society still struggles to support survivors unless they fit the mold of a “perfect victim.” Together, they unpack the messy realities of faith, family, abuse, and survival and the courage it takes to finally take your power back.

CREDITS:

Host & Creator: Salma Hindy
Executive Producer: Salma Hindy
Cinematographer: Patrick Samaha
Studio: 30 Irving Studios
Editor: Salma Hindy
Artwork: Rana Omar

© The Secret Sex Lives of Muslim Women, 2025

Instagram: @thesecretsexlivesofmuslimwomen

YouTube: @thesecretsexlivesofmuslimwomen

HOST'S INSTAGRAM: @salma.hindy

HOST'S TIKTOK: @salma.hindy