Content Warning: This episode contains open discussion of suicide, grief, trauma, and psychological injury. Please take care of yourself first.

What happens when you don't deal with pain and how it eventually forces you to.

Todd "Donny" Maguire is a former Queensland undercover police officer who spent two years embedded in the state's criminal underworld as Donny Wilson, living under constant pressure, surrounded by violent criminals, and on more than one occasion genuinely believing he was about to die.

What his colleagues didn't know was that behind the operation, Todd was carrying the unprocessed grief of losing his partner to suicide. Instead of stopping to deal with it, he went deeper into high-risk work. What followed was a period of self-destruction, declining mental health, and a death wish that wasn't about wanting to die by his own hand, but about wanting someone else to end the pain for him.

In this raw and important conversation, Todd shares how that path unravelled, the moment that forced him to see what he'd been avoiding, and why he believes psychological injury deserves the same urgency and openness as physical injury.

📖 Donny – An Undercover Cop with a Death Wish by Todd Maguire

Available now:

🔗 Todd's website: https://toddmaguire.com.au/

🔗 Amazon Australia: https://www.amazon.com.au/Donny-undercover-deathwish-Todd-Maguire/dp/1764384407

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Hosted by Donna Moulds, the podcast features in-depth conversations with leaders, psychologists, educators, and professionals whose work sits at the intersection of resilience, leadership, identity, and human performance.

Drawing on Donna’s background in leadership, workforce development, and lived experience of navigating major life transitions, the show examines:

• Psychological readiness and emotional regulation
• Identity, responsibility, and role transition
• Leadership behaviour and cultural impact
• Sustained performance without burnout
• What it actually takes to adapt and rebuild when life changes

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Boundaries are often talked about as if they are simple.

But in real life, boundaries can change the trajectory of your relationships, your self-respect, and the way you move through the world.

In this episode of The Resilience Movement, Donna Moulds explores the reality of setting boundaries not the social media version, but the version that sometimes costs you something.

Donna shares a deeply personal story about the moment she realised that continuing to tolerate certain behaviours was no longer aligned with the person she had become. What followed was a decision that changed the dynamics of several relationships and ultimately brought a level of peace she had not experienced before.

This episode explores:

• Why boundaries are so difficult to create when you weren’t raised with them
• How patterns of behaviour slowly reveal where boundaries are needed
• Why the people who benefited from your lack of boundaries often resist your new ones
• The emotional cost that sometimes comes with protecting your self-respect
• The unexpected peace that can follow when you stop tolerating behaviour that diminishes you

Donna also shares 10 practical steps for setting boundaries and reflection questions to help you examine where boundaries may be needed in your own life.

If you have ever struggled with feeling responsible for other people’s comfort while ignoring your own wellbeing, this conversation will resonate deeply.

Sometimes the most powerful act of resilience is simply deciding what behaviour you will no longer accept.

Reflection Questions from the Episode

• Who in your life leaves you feeling respected, supported, and valued?
• Where are you currently tolerating behaviour that doesn’t sit right with you?
• What might change in your life if you had the courage to create a boundary there?

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The Resilience Movement explores resilience not as motivation or mindset, but as capacity the psychological, emotional, and identity foundations that allow people to perform, adapt, and sustain effectiveness through pressure, change, and adversity.

Hosted by Donna Moulds, the podcast features in-depth conversations with leaders, psychologists, educators, and professionals whose work sits at the intersection of resilience, leadership, identity, and human performance.

Drawing on Donna’s background in leadership, workforce development, and lived experience of navigating major life transitions, the show examines:

• Psychological readiness and emotional regulation
• Identity, responsibility, and role transition
• Leadership behaviour and cultural impact
• Sustained performance without burnout
• What it actually takes to adapt and rebuild when life changes

This is a considered, evidence-informed podcast for people who want to think clearly, lead responsibly, and navigate challenge without losing themselves in the process.

The conversations also explore how people can develop the psychological skills required to adapt, recalibrate, and grow through change, rather than being defined or diminished by it.

New episodes released regularly.Follow & Connect

🌐 Website: https://theresiliencemovement.com.au

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Before we begin, a gentle note for listeners:
This episode includes discussion of grief, loss, trauma, and sudden life-changing events. Please take care of yourself as you listen. You are always welcome to pause, come back later, or skip this episode entirely. Your well-being comes first.

Today on The Resilience Movement, Donna Moulds is joined by Sheri Lux - speaker, author, creative entrepreneur, and advocate whose work sits at the intersection of grief, resilience, leadership, and healing.

Following the sudden loss of her husband, Sheri’s life changed forever. In the midst of profound grief, she made a courageous decision: to keep choosing life, even when everything she knew had fallen away.

This conversation is not about fixing grief or rushing healing. It is about presence. It is about courage. And it is about learning how resilience is built quietly, imperfectly, and one day at a time.

Together, Donna and Sheri explore:

• What “choosing to live” actually looks like in the early days after devastating loss
• How grief reshapes identity and what can emerge when old versions fall away
• Why trauma continues to live in families, particularly within first-responder communities
• The role creativity plays in regulation, healing, and rebuilding meaning
• Leading, serving, and advocating from lived experience rather than theory
• What it truly means to “find your fire” after everything has changed

Sheri also reflects on her book Finding My Fire, written as an invitation for readers to walk alongside her journey rather than observe it from a distance.

If you are navigating grief, loss, or a life you didn’t choose this episode offers gentle truth, grounded wisdom, and permission to move at your own pace.

As always, thank you for listening to The Resilience Movement. Please take care of yourself.

🔗 Connect with Sheri Lux:

Website: https://www.karyslayne.ca/

Website: https://www.karyslayne.ca/📘 Find Sheri’s book:
Finding My Fire — available on Amazon

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The Resilience Movement explores resilience not as motivation or mindset, but as capacity the psychological, emotional, and identity foundations that allow people to perform, adapt, and sustain effectiveness through pressure, change, and adversity.

Hosted by Donna Moulds, the podcast features in-depth conversations with leaders, psychologists, educators, and professionals whose work sits at the intersection of resilience, leadership, identity, and human performance.

Drawing on Donna’s background in leadership, workforce development, and lived experience of navigating major life transitions, the show examines:

• Psychological readiness and emotional regulation
• Identity, responsibility, and role transition
• Leadership behaviour and cultural impact
• Sustained performance without burnout
• What it actually takes to adapt and rebuild when life changes

This is a considered, evidence-informed podcast for people who want to think clearly, lead responsibly, and navigate challenge without losing themselves in the process.

The conversations also explore how people can develop the psychological skills required to adapt, recalibrate, and grow through change, rather than being defined or diminished by it.

New episodes released regularly.Follow & Connect

🌐 Website: https://theresiliencemovement.com.au

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