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In this episode, host, deacon Tim Hopper (Shiloh OPC, Raleigh, NC) is joined by Becky Haney, a member of New Hope OPC in Bridgeton, New Jersey, to share her experience following the sudden passing of her husband Dave Haney—a man well-known and loved by many in the OPC—who died unexpectedly at age 56 in 2019.

Caring for widows lies close to the heart of diaconal work. Scripture is clear that God’s people are to support widows in their time of need. Yet many struggle to know how best to minister to them in their new chapter of life. This important conversation hopes to equip deacons and other church members to care more effectively by listening well, being patient and allowing a "wide berth" following this life-altering experience.

Becky's openness offers valuable insight and practical wisdom to help deacons, pastors, and church members care for widows with greater empathy and understanding.

Referenced in this episode:

• If I Should Die (produced by David Haney)
• What Grieving People Wish You Knew about What Really Helps (and What Really Hurts): (And How to Avoid Being That Person Who Hurts Instead of Helps) by Nancy Guthrie
• How Deacons Can Help: A Widow’s Advice
• Becky's Suggested Reading List

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In this episode, David Nakhla speaks with Dr. Jim Berry, an elder at Reformation OPC in Morgantown, West Virginia, and Professor and Chair of the Department of Behavioral Medicine and Psychiatry at WVU’s Rockefeller Neuroscience Institute. He’s joined by Mr. Rob Guss, an elder at Calvary OPC in Glenside, Pennsylvania, who shares his powerful testimony of God’s grace in delivering him from addiction.

Addiction brings with it deep brokenness. It can consume a family’s resources and, when discovered, often brings added pressure to the household—resulting in broken relationships, sadness, confusion, and other diaconal needs.

This conversation hopes to equip deacons to better understand how to walk alongside those caught in addiction—emphasizing the importance of presence, listening, and long-term counsel. A practical case study at the end offers a real-world scenario, guiding deacons through how to respond when someone confesses a struggle with addiction. The episode reminds listeners that while the path may be long and difficult, deacons are privileged to come alongside those suffering with lasting hope through the love of Christ.

Referenced in this episode:

Flesh and Thorn: Understanding Addiction as Disease Dr. James Berry; Ordained Servant June-July 2018

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In this episode, host David Nakhla speaks with Elder Mark Agarkov of Kharkiv Presbyterian Church and OPC missionary Heero Hacquebord to get an update on the situation in Ukraine, now three years into the war. Mark shares about the ongoing suffering in the eastern region of Kharkiv—just 20 miles from the front lines—the support they've received from generous U.S. donors, and the deep sense of care they've experienced amid hardship. He also reflects on how many are being drawn to Christ through their suffering, the work that the ministry of the church is doing, and the lasting physical and emotional toll the war is taking. Heero provides updates on his family, his church, and the ongoing work of Crates for Ukraine, an initiative of the Presbyterian Church in America that continues to bring aid to those in need.

Referenced in this episode:

Listeners can find more details and make direct donations on the Kharkiv Presbyterian Church website: https://www.kharkivpresbyterianministry.com. There, you can also subscribe to receive their monthly updates. Alternatively, you can email Mark Agarkov, and he will add you to the list: mark.agarkov@gmail.com.

Additionally, here is the link to their WhatsApp group where they regularly post photos: https://chat.whatsapp.com/FhrlLtJWtdB4sjbizl3FaA.

Cratesforukraine.com, Heero's (easy) e-mail address ukraine.europe@me.com, and if you would like to get the Hacquebord's prayer letters and read older issues you can do so with this long link: https://us7.campaign-archive.com/home/?u=49d839383d86ec3614b01b767&id=7be70c1b6a.

Prayer Requests from Mark and Heero

Prayer Requests from Mark Agarkov (Kharkiv Presbyterian Church)

• For stable peace in Ukraine, along with lasting justice, national freedom, and the continued blessing of religious freedom.
• For Ukrainian pastors, elders, and ministry leaders—for courage, endurance, and faithfulness under pressure, as well as for more workers to meet the overwhelming needs of Gospel ministry.
• For prayer for spiritual revival in Ukraine, that the suffering of war would lead many to seek Christ and that the nation would experience a widespread turning to Jesus.
• For prayer for their social ministry, as needs grow while donations have declined. He asks that Ukraine would remain on people's hearts and that God would provide resources to serve both now and in the long recovery ahead.
• For safety, especially for families and children, amid frequent drone attacks and shelling near Kharkiv.
• For their summer trip to the U.S., that doors would open for them to travel legally, that the time would be fruitful, and that th

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In this episode, host Tim Hopper (Shiloh OPC, Raleigh, NC) is joined by fellow seasoned deacons Lynne Hunter (Harvest OPC, Wyoming, MI) and Bob Keys (Grace OPC, Columbus, OH) to wrestle through several thought-provoking real-world scenarios.

Consider what you might do if your church had a budget surplus or a woman visits your church asking for rent money for her motel stay; what the proper process is when a charity approaches your diaconate for support or when a church member asks for tuition help for her last semester of art school.

Tune in to hear how Tim, Lynne, and Bob suggest working through each scenario—and then bring the conversation to your own diaconate! A few of these were submitted by Joel Vander Kooi, a deacon at Redeemer OPC in Airdrie, Alberta—thanks, Joel! (He got a cool The Reformed Deacon t-shirt for his suggestions.)

Referenced in this episode:

Suggested guidelines and questions for a deacon to ask a stranger

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In this episode of The Reformed Deacon, host Rev. Adrian Crum speaks with Rev. John Fikkert, a mental health counselor and Director of the OPC Committee on Ministerial Care, and his wife, Dr. Lindsay Fikkert, a psychologist at Pella Counseling. Together, they offer deep and compassionate insight into how deacons—and entire congregations—can come alongside those facing mental health struggles such as anxiety, depression, and grief. This conversation is rich with practical suggestions and gospel-centered encouragement for caring well within the church. Adrian also shares personally how John, through his role in the Committee on Ministerial Care, supported him during a difficult season.

It’s a longer episode, but well worth the time. Don't forget your notepad—you’ll want to remember the many takeaways.

Referenced in this episode:

• The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness by Jonathan Haidt
• OPC Book of Church Order (chapter 11 on deacons)

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In this episode, host Peter Haines, elder at Concho Valley OPC in Concho Valley, AZ, leads a discussion with Brian Tilton, deacon at Trinity OPC in Hatboro, PA, and co-owner of Millham Companies, a personal and business insurance firm in Pennsylvania. Together, they explore the topic of flood insurance—its importance, how it works, and its role in our responsibility as stewards of what God has entrusted to us. They also discuss how deacons can collaborate with congregants to help them make informed decisions about the relevance of flood insurance for their families. We hope this conversation will serve as a valuable resource, particularly for deacons as they assist church families in evaluating their budgets.

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In this episode, host John Stahl (deacon at Immanuel OPC, Wilmington, DE) leads a discussion with Shiloh OPC, Raleigh, NC Deacon Tim Hopper and Harvest OPC in Wyoming, MI Associate Pastor of Youth and Evangelism Adrian Crum to consider practical ways to help your congregation understand that a deacon's role extends beyond taking the offering and performing building maintenance.

Referenced in this episode:

• The Letters of John Newton (Hardcover Banner of Truth Edition)
• The Deacon: Biblical Foundations for Today's Ministry of Mercy by Cornelis Van Dam
• The Reformed Deacon podcast hosted by the OPC Committee on Diaconal Ministries
• “Finding the Next Deacon” (S4: E 4 Feb. 2025 episode of TRD)
• “The Heart of a Deacon” (S 3: E18 Sept. 2024 episode of TRD)
• “How the Westminster Standards Relate to Deacons” (S3: E 9 April 2024 episode of TRD)
• “A Study of Acts 6 with RHM Charles Biggs” (S 2: E 12 June 2023 episode of TRD)
• “The Deacon is No Small Office” C. Nick Willborn (audio from PSE 2018)
• OPC Book of Church Order (Section 11 on Deacons)
• The OPC Committee on Diaconal Ministries (CDM) website
• OPC Presbytery Diaconal Summit 2025
• OPC National Diaconal Summit 2026

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In this episode, Revs. Chris Cashen and Bill Shishko consider how churches might identify men called to the office of deacon, drawing from 1 Timothy 3:8-13. Many congregations and church plants either lack deacons entirely or may not have enough to meet their needs. How can a church discern and recognize those whom God may be calling to this vital role? Join seasoned pastors Bill and Chris as they offer thoughtful guidance on following the Holy Spirit's leading in identifying future deacons.

Referenced in this episode:
1 Timothy 3:8-13
Acts 6
A Training Program for Deacons

About the guest:
Rev. Bill Shishko bio

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