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The Pretender

The Pretender

By: Jay Siwiti
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 The Pretender is a podcast hosted by Jay and addresses real life experiences by real people for real people. In a world that is filled with masked struggles, failures and mental battles, people are suffering silently and social media is pushing the boundaries. Most don't know where to start to break free; Jay breaks the ice by talking about and calling out his own struggles to show you there's a way to be free of the expectations of society. There's no super human, and there's no need for us to be pretending to be one. If you wanna know its ok to be a normal human being, come listen to me tell you all about my own personal struggles - who knows? Maybe we could cry and laugh about it together.© Jay Siwiti Social Sciences
Episodes
  • "Why do you still love me?" (A father's home school journey.)

    "Why do you still love me?" (A father's home school journey.)
    Nov 28 2025

    Jay shares his experience as a home school Dad and how one very difficult question from his son allowed him to appreciate God's love for humanity. Jay also shares the great response he gave to his son to the question – "Why do you still love me?".

    Resources & Links:


    1. What is Homeschooling?
    2. Accelerated Christian Education (ACE) Curriculum
    3. Romans 5:8 "But God demonstrates his own love towards us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us."

    Quotable: "I suppose you are wondering what my answer or response to my son was when he asked me - "why do you still love me?" I responded - "Because I never stopped loving you!"- Jay

    The Pretender theme music is a beat composed by 2dayPresents and is titled "1000 Feet"

    Note: I don't host a "comments" section, but I'm happy to hear your questions and insights via email, at jacobsiwiti@acquifersolutions.com
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    14 mins
  • "What's on your Playlist?" - Talking life through music with Confidence (Part 1)

    "What's on your Playlist?" - Talking life through music with Confidence (Part 1)
    Nov 14 2025
    Jay and his guest take the approach to discussing the different phases of life through the music we tend to play during the experience. We pick only the top 10 songs on the personal playlist and ask why those songs in that phase and share the lessons and different experiences that influenced that choice. Resources & Links: Koko's Top 10 Playlist1. Sweet Victory - Trip Lee2. Lucky Ones - Lecrae3. Start Over - Flame Feat. NF4. God's Not done with you - Touren Wells5. So many feelings - (Sho Baraka)6. Anything But Country - Andy Mineo7. Trenches - Touren Wells8. IDK - Trip Lee9. Beautiful Life 2 (Mine) - Trip Lee10. Dance with My Father Luther VandrossJay's Top 10 Playlist1. Sweet Victory - Trip Lee2. Above All Else - Vicky Beeching3. I See Gold - Ray Boltz4. He Won't Faile Me - KJ-52 feat. Zauntee5. IDK - Trip Lee6. Pure - Kari Jobe7. Thy Will Be Done - Hillary Scott and the Scott Family8. Whatever you're doing - Sanctus Real9. I Cry For You - Lecrae10. Be King - Thi'slThe Pretender theme music is a beat composed by 2dayPresents and is titled "1000 Feet" Note: I don't host a "comments" section, but I'm happy to hear your questions and insights via email, at jacobsiwiti@acquifersolutions.com
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    1 hr and 42 mins
  • How to say goodbye - Ginger a life story

    How to say goodbye - Ginger a life story
    Nov 20 2024

    Jay shares his recent experience of losing his beloved dog Ginger. In doing so he explains how much saying goodbye to the dog was more about letting go of a part of his life that he hasn't shared and a reminder that death of man or beast will always be a sad consequence of the fall of man until God restores his own order of life.


    Resources & Links:

    From dust to dust - Ecclesiastes 3:18-21


    Pet loss grief; the pain explained - Sarah Hoggan

    Quotable: "I realized I wasn't training my dog; I was training myself. I was learning that life can be messy, but you can still enjoy it, I was learning that you could fail many times at something, but it doesn't mean you are a failure" - Jay

    The Pretender theme music is a beat composed by 2dayPresents and is titled "1000 Feet"

    Note: I don't host a "comments" section, but I'm happy to hear your questions and insights via email, at jacobsiwiti@acquifersolutions.com
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    22 mins
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