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The One Inside: An Internal Family Systems (IFS) podcast

The One Inside: An Internal Family Systems (IFS) podcast

By: Tammy Sollenberger
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 The One Inside: An Internal Family Systems podcast is for anyone looking to find balance and harmony. IFS can help you understand the tug-of-war within your mind and rediscover your natural calm, creativity, and clarity. IFS can also heal the parts of you who hold pain. Hosted by certified IFS therapist, Tammy Sollenberger, this show aims to educate, support, and encourage those who are curious about IFS model of psychotherapy. Join Tammy each episode for a fun, warm, engaging conversation with various members of the IFS community.Tammy Sollenberger 2025 Hygiene & Healthy Living Personal Development Personal Success Psychology Psychology & Mental Health
Episodes
  • A Self-Led Approach to Numbiing Parts with Tammy Sollenberger and Jeff Schrum

    A Self-Led Approach to Numbiing Parts with Tammy Sollenberger and Jeff Schrum
    Sep 30 2025

    We all feel numb sometimes. Our numbing parts protect us from stress, pain, and overwhelm. But what happens when numbness lingers?

    As we kick off The One Inside's seventh season, Jeff and I share what we’ve learned about working with numbing parts. We led a workshop at the recent 2025 IFS Annual Conference called Why Check In When You Can Check Out: A Self-Led Approach to Numbing Parts.

    In this episode we walk you through the highlights of our workshop and share a few of the insights we brought home from the conference.

    We discuss:

    • What I discovered about numbness, embodiment, and grief this past year

    • Numb parts are “invisible protectors” and why simply naming the numb matters

    • The compounding opportunity costs of numbing and what we miss when we spend too much time checked out

    • The grief of emerging from numbness

    • How numbness shows up across generations and cultures

    • The NUMB framework we created for reconnecting with Self

    I keep returning to this slide from our deck: Our protectors think they’re saving our lives, but sometimes they’re quietly stealing our vitality.

    I share a lot about my numb season, and how naming the "nothing" became a game-changer. I hope as you listen you’ll notice your own ways of checking in and checking out and name the places where numbness shows up for you.

    Episode Sponsors

    This week’s episode is sponsored by:

    Pisgah Coaching Institute: Founded by IFS-trained master coach Brian Jaudon, a pioneer in the integration of IFS and coaching for more than two decades. Brian and his faculty teach a blended methodology for clarifying and living into a vision of any kind. pisgahcoaching.com

    Pause With Laura: Restore Your Self Retreat for IFS Therapists & Practitioners at Kripalu, October 19-22, 2025. Download FREE IFS Resources from Laura (PDF & guided meditations). Join our Pause with Laura community for monthly Parts Reflections and deals on upcoming offerings.

    About The One Inside

    I started this podcast to help spread IFS out into the world and make the model more accessible to everyone. Seven years later, that’s still at the heart of all we do.

    • Join The One Inside Substack community for bonus conversations, live events, meditations, and extended interviews.

    • Find merch at The One Inside store.

    • Listen to episodes and watch select clips on YouTube.

    • Follow me on Instagram @ifstammy or on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger.

    I create The One Inside with my friend, Jeff Schrum, a Level 2 IFS practitioner who loves helping helpers create with confidence and clarity.

    Resources

    • New to IFS? My book, The One Inside: Thirty Days to Your Authentic Self, is a great place to start.

    • Want a free meditation? Sign up for my email list and get “Get to Know a Should Part” right away.

    Sponsorship

    Want to sponsor an episode of The One Inside? Email Tammy.

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    38 mins
  • The Safety to Come Alive: IFS and the Nervous System with Steve Chee

    The Safety to Come Alive: IFS and the Nervous System with Steve Chee
    Aug 30 2025

    In today's episode, I talk with Dr. Steve Chee, an integrative East-West physician and certified IFS therapist. Steve is offering an IFS continuity program through the IFS Institute this fall called "The Sacred Nervous System," which brings together neuroscience, mysticism, and relational medicine to help people who have been told they are "too much" or "too sensitive".

    In our conversation Steve shares his personal story of being a sensitive child who felt he had to hide what he loved, and the journey of finding relational safety to heal this dynamic. We discuss the importance of love as the source of healing, and how therapeutic models and theories are simply tools to help us get there.

    Key takeaways:

    • The connection between our nervous system and protective parts

    • How a relational safety is needed for healing and for parts to come forward

    • The difference between "co-regulation" and "co-revelation" and the role of love in healing

    • Why the therapeutic relationship, not the model, is what truly heals

    • The importance of explicitly naming love and reclaiming the sacredness of every individual

    Episode Sponsor: IFS Institute

    This fall, join IFS thought leader Dr. Steve Chee for a powerful journey into The Sacred Nervous System in the IFS Continuity program through the IFS Institute. Designed for those who've completed the Online Circle or an IFS Level 1 Training, this program blends somatic awareness, spiritual insight, and IFS wisdom to help you stay grounded in Self energy—no matter what life brings.

    With monthly teaching videos and live sessions September - December this is your space to deepen your healing and your capacity to support others.

    Enrollment is open now at ifs-institute.com. Come as you are, stay as you grow with the IFS Continuity program.

    About The One Inside:

    Check out The One Inside Substack community to access episodes, exclusive extended interviews, meditations and exercises, and more.

    Find The One Inside Self-Led merch at The One Inside store

    Watch video clips from select episodes on The One Inside on YouTube

    Follow Tammy on Instagram @ifstammy and on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger.

    Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside. He’s a writer and IFS Level 2 practitioner who specializes in helping therapists create with clarity and confidence.

    Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start.

    Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website

    Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast.

    To learn more about sponsorship opportunties on The One Inside Podcast, email Tammy

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    49 mins
  • Resolving Conflict Using IFS with David Hoffman

    Resolving Conflict Using IFS with David Hoffman
    Aug 17 2025
    In today's episode, I chat with David Hoffman, a lawyer, mediator, and a founding member of Boston Law Collaborative. David was named "Lawyer of the Year" in Boston, and he even teaches at Harvard! I love how he's using IFS to help people with conflict. We talk about how IFS has shifted his focus from getting people to settle, to helping them make Self-led choices. We discuss: How does a lawyer and mediator bring the language of parts into a legal setting?What is the "reasonable reason" behind "unreasonable behavior" in conflict?How can we make decisions from a place of "Self-led" wisdom rather than from our "gladiator parts?"How can simply naming a part change the dynamic of a conversation? David shares an example of how saying "there's a greedy part" shifted a negotiation for the better.How does the IFS model help us understand ambivalence and the "negotiation within" that happens before we even enter a conflict? "There's something we can do here to enable people to manage their conflicts more successfully and to be less fearful and less hateful in the world." —David Hoffman I absolutely loved getting to know David and I'm so glad he's bringing the IFS model to a new audience. He's also offering a new six-week IFS training for lawyers and mediators this fall through the IFS Institute with guest appearances by Dick Schwartz, Mke Elkin, and Fatimah Finney. Episode Sponsor: This episode is sponsored by the Internal Family Systems institute. Join renowned attorney and mediator David Hoffman for a six-week live workshop starting this October. Explore how the IFS model can support lawyers, mediators, and conflict professionals to lead with more clarity, compassion, and Self — with special guest appearances by Dick Schwartz, Mike Elkin, and Fatimah Finney, this program offers practical tools for navigating client engagement, negotiation, and ethical decision-making. Space is limited and live attendance is required. Learn more and register now at ifs-institute.com. About David Hoffman David Hoffman, a mediator, arbitrator, and founding member of Boston Law Collaborative, has been a leading voice in bringing the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model to the legal community since 2010. He holds Level One IFS training and has co-presented with IFS founder Dr. Richard Schwartz. A plenary speaker at the 2022 IFSI Conference, his work has been featured in the Harvard Negotiation Law Review, where he authored a seminal article on "Mediation, Multiple Minds, and Managing the Negotiation Within." In addition to his private practice, he serves as the John H. Watson, Jr. Lecturer on Law at Harvard Law School, where he integrates the IFS model into his courses. About The One Inside: Check out The One Inside Substack community to access all episodes, exclusive extended interviews, replays of live events, meditations, and more. Find The One Inside Self-Led merch at The One Inside store Watch video clips from select episodes on The One Inside on YouTube Follow Tammy on Instagram @ifstammy and on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger. Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside. He’s a writer and IFS Level 2 practitioner who helps therapists create with clarity and confidence. Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. To learn more about sponsorship opportunties on The One Inside Podcast, email Tammy
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    46 mins
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