Stepfamilies: Why do we feel so differently about stepkids versus our own?

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, hosts Lori and David get real about the honest, sometimes awkward truths of parenting in blended families.

Tune in for relatable stories and candid conversations about how Lori and David each navigated the differences in parenting their biological kids and stepkids: from fixing breakfast, handling car insurance stress, and reacting to cereal bowls left on the counter. You’ll hear them wrestle with those moments when their feelings and priorities aren’t the same for “yours” and “mine,” and why that’s natural, not shameful. The hosts share personal experiences with their grandkids and step-grandkids, discussing the guilt and expectations that come with loving stepchildren, and reflect on how relationships evolve as the kids grow up.

Listeners will learn:

• Why step and bio parents often react differently—and why that’s normal

• How to approach car insurance, chores, and family events without losing your mind

• Tips for discussing expectations around finances, discipline, and love in a blended family

• The impact of child support, and how family structure changes from one generation to the next

Nacho Kids Testimonial:

"Nachoing gave me peace without guilt. It literally saved my marriage." T.M., Dallas, TX, USA

In this episode, host Lori Sims welcomes returning guest Summer Butler to discuss her newly released resource, "Blended: Navigating Life Between Two Homes." Aimed primarily at preteens but helpful for children as young as seven, this workbook-style guide was born out of Summer's direct experience coaching children in blended families. She shares how the book helps kids navigate loyalty conflicts, big emotions, family transitions, and communication between homes, especially in situations where one parent doesn’t consent to outside help.

Lori and Summer dive into common challenges for children split between homes, including feeling stuck in the middle, hiding their true emotions, and managing shifting boundaries and rules. Summer explains how the workbook includes journaling prompts and activities to help kids process their feelings, build connections with stepparents, and set healthy boundaries. They touch on the lasting impact loyalty binds can have, even into adulthood, and the importance of not putting children in the middle of parental conflict.

Summer also announces her upcoming children’s book for younger kids, "Mallie’s Two Homes and a Deer Named Darla," which will come with a stuffed deer as a comfort object to help little ones transition between homes.

Throughout the episode, Lori and Summer provide real-life examples, discuss communication tips for parents and stepparents, and emphasize the need for compassionate, child-centered approaches in blended families. Check out Summer’s resources for both young children and parents seeking to foster healthier blended family dynamics.

For more information and to pre-order the new book and workbook, visit: blendedbookco.com

In Episode NKP330 of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David Sims dive deep into some common misconceptions about the Nacho Kids philosophy. They clarify the true mantra: "Nacho Kids, Nacho Responsibility," highlighting the crucial difference between a problem and a responsibility in stepfamily dynamics.

The hosts reflect on their personal experiences and how step-parents often unintentionally take on roles that lead to resentment down the road. Lori and David discuss the importance of boundaries, recognizing each partner’s unique parenting style, and not personalizing issues that arise in blended family life. They address the natural shifts in relationships over time, especially as the initial excitement fades, and the value of focusing on positive aspects instead of getting lost in negativity.

The conversation also touches on individual preferences, introvert vs. extrovert dynamics, finding balance in relationships, and appreciating both shared and solo interests as a couple. With their usual humor and honesty, Lori and David encourage listeners to embrace change, communicate openly, and remember that your relationship’s happiness is an inside job.

Key Topics:

• Nacho Kids Mantra: "Nacho Kids, Nacho Responsibility" vs. "Nacho Problem"

• The challenges of step-parenting and managing expectations

• Navigating relationship changes and self-reflection

• Emphasizing individual growth and contentment within a blended family

• The importance of celebrating differences and shared experiences as a couple

Tune in for relatable stories, practical advice, and a reminder to focus on making your relationship just a little bit better each day!