This week, Dani is joined by Alyson, a listener of the show and valued member of our community, to talk honestly about low libido, zero sex drive, intimacy, and finding pleasure again after cancer.

Has your sex life changed? No libido? Can’t be bothered?

Alyson shares her personal journey — from enjoying a healthy sex life to suddenly being thrown into menopause during chemotherapy, and how her libido “completely left the building.” She opens up about the reality of navigating these changes, what we want, what our partners want, and how complex it can be when everything feels different.

Alyson also shares practical tips for reigniting desire and highlights why a positive mindset matters when it comes to intimacy after cancer.

At the end of the show, Dani makes an unusual offer and shares a bit more from her own experience than usual!

While Dani’s book Navigating Menopause After Cancer doesn’t go into huge detail about libido, it does cover vaginal health and vaginal oestrogen from a worldwide perspective, offering evidence-based insights and practical guidance.

The Kindle e-book is just £1.99 — so go grab your copy here https://amzn.eu/d/a2QTVE6

Episode Highlights:

00:00 Intro

10:23 Seeking Menopause Support & Solutions

16:11 Grieving Sexuality After Cancer

22:39 Balancing Desire in Relationships

27:31 "Schedule Time for Self-Care"

34:23 Negative Focus in Belief Systems

44:20 Exploring Power Dynamics in Sex

52:30 Changing Perspectives on Intimacy

53:51 "Quality Over Quantity in Intimacy"

Find Alyson here: https://www.alysonfilippalcsw.com/

Alyson’s resources:

The book Prerequisites to Ecstasy https://amzn.eu/d/hN6IRtf

Slow Sex https://amzn.eu/d/a1dzSsN

Connect with us:

For more information and resources visit our website: www.menopauseandcancer.org

Or follow us on Instagram @menopause_and_cancer

Join our Facebook group: www.facebook.com/groups/menopauseandcancerchathub

This week, I’m joined by the brilliant Sinéad for an honest conversation about the ongoing reality of menopause after cancer.

We talk about what it’s like to navigate life after treatment — how our bodies and identities change, how frustrating it is to have to work so hard at everything (even when considering a simple supplement!), and why it’s so important for others to understand that this journey doesn’t just stop when the treatment ends.

Sinéad also shares from her personal experience of cancer and trauma, and brings her coaching hat to offer some brilliant, practical tips on resilience.

I have a feeling you’ll be nodding along as you listen.

Sinead is a Transformational Coach and workplace Culture Consultant. For more information or to contact Sinead go to: https://www.abetter-workplace.com/

To find our events and workshops go here: https://menopauseandcancer.org/events/

Get a copy of Dani’s book to fins out about all your evidence-based treatment-options: https://amzn.eu/d/ddeS6AD

Episode Highlights:

00:00 Intro

05:20 Cancer's Impact on Job and Confidence

07:03 Adapting to Personal Change at Work

12:57 Post-Cancer: Struggles Beyond Treatment

14:47 Difficult Decision: Surgery and Miscarriage

19:26 Questioning Resilience Vs. Overexertion

25:47 Practicing Self-Compassion: A Journey

30:30 Workplace Culture and Self-Compassion

34:50 Adapting to Personal Change

37:10 Resilience: Innate Trait or Learned Skill?

Connect with us:

For more information and resources visit our website: www.menopauseandcancer.org

Or follow us on Instagram @menopause_and_cancer

Join our Facebook group: www.facebook.com/groups/menopauseandcancerchathub

October is a busy and often overwhelming month — with Breast Cancer Awareness campaigns everywhere and World Menopause Awareness Day on the calendar. For many in our community, it can be triggering, noisy, and emotionally exhausting.

That’s why this month, I’m handing the microphone over to you — our incredible community. In this special episode, we share the things we wish our friends, families, workplaces, and the wider world really understood about navigating menopause after cancer.

Joining me for this honest (and slightly unpredictable!) chat are Rachel, Anna, and Rebecca — each bringing their unique perspective, warmth, and a few friendly rants along the way.

Episode Highlights:

00:00 Intro

04:50 Community Support and Awareness Initiatives

09:19 Treatment Transition and New Challenges

18:04 Balancing HRT with Healthy Lifestyle

22:10 Balancing Emotions and Motivation

25:50 "A Journey from Isolation to Insight"

26:53 Prioritising Self-Care Amidst Busy Life

31:20 "Realisation of Hidden Depression"

33:50 Coping with Anxiety Post-Cancer

40:23 Upcoming 50km Fundraising Walk

In this episode we talk about:

Join us in London on the 4th October for PAUSE LIVE menopause show. Use code MANDC10 for 10% off your tickets

Support our 50km fundraising challenge and sponsor us https://fundraiseformenopauseandcancer.raiselysite.com/search

Join Anna for an online Community Connect meet-up: https://menopauseandcancer.org/events/

Get a copy of Dani’s book to fins out about all your evidence-based treatment-options: https://amzn.eu/d/ddeS6AD

Connect with us:

For more information and resources visit our website: www.menopauseandcancer.org

Or follow us on Instagram @menopause_and_cancer

Join our Facebook group: www.facebook.com/groups/menopauseandcancerchathub