In this episode of The Meaningful Shit Show, Vincent unpacks the stories we inherit about masculinity — and the quiet damage they cause. From the “man box” that teaches boys to numb their hearts, to the p*rn scripts that confuse conquest with connection, to the loneliness men rarely admit out loud.Through honesty, psychology, and DBT tools, we’ll explore: • How culture wires disconnection into male identity • The link between p*rn, ego, and emotional avoidance • Why Red Pill ideology sells fear, not strength • How to trade performance for presence — in work, s*x, and loveThis isn’t about shaming men. It’s about undefining masculinity — loosening the armor, and walking a path where connection replaces control.💭 Reflection prompt:What story did you inherit about being a man — and what story are you actually living?🧠 Distilled truths: • The man box sells safety, but it costs your soul. • Performance without presence is hollow. • What we call strength is often just untreated pain.⸻🎧 Listen everywhere: Spotify | Apple Podcasts | YouTube📸 Follow @TheMeaningfulShitShow#Masculinity #ToxicMasculinity #MenHealing #DBT #Mindfulness #TheMeaningfulShitShow⸻

🧠 “I said the right thing — so why did it still go wrong?”

Sometimes you do everything “right.” You’re clear. You’re calm. You use the skill.

And the conversation still goes off the rails.

This episode dives into two core DBT tools — DEAR MAN and GIVE — and dissects what they really look like in real relationships. Not just in theory, but through raw, personal stories and scene-by-scene analysis of emotional breakdowns in film.

We go deep into:

• The devastating café scene from Beautiful Boy — and how it shows a DEAR MAN collapse

• GIVE failures in The Break-Up — where both characters lose the connection, the objective, and their self-respect

• Real-life examples from a running group confrontation and a co-working space standoff

• Why even “perfect” communication can backfire if it’s ungrounded, mistimed, or driven by fear

This isn’t about technique. It’s about survival, honesty, and learning how to walk out of a conversation without abandoning yourself.

🎧 Bring your overthinking brain and a pen. And maybe tissues. This one hits close to home.

Sink first, then rise.

In this solo episode, I unpack a haunting metaphor about drowning and survival, and connect it to how we experience emotional rock bottom.

With insight from Kierkegaard, Nietzsche, and DBT, we explore how sometimes — the fall is the path.

This isn’t about glorifying suffering. It’s about recognizing that when everything falls away, we get to decide what truly matters.

⚠️ Includes a note on addiction and the myth of ‘needing’ rock bottom to change.