Dave Hughes has a complicated relationship with his ego.

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Performing in prestigious venues around the world, Dave Hughes has solidified himself as on of Australia’s comedy icons, but the journey was (and still is) far from easy.

Joining us in the studio today, Dave vulnerably shares how the burden of feeling unworthy affected his ability to give and receive love.

Dave chats to Ryan about how much he has struggled with comparison, both with others, and the success of his past self, and the role that ego plays in never being able to turn down an opportunity.

Hughesy, thank you so much for joining us.

0:00 – Ryan got papped, Hugh got crumpets
7:19 – The failures that lead to success
17:12 – A feeling of general greatness
21:06 – Reckoning with comparison
30:18 – The joy is in the giving
36:03 – Walking the family / work tightrope
41:07 – Humour as a way in
47:56 – You had me at IMAX helmet
56:00 – Ego doesn’t let you enjoy the moment
1:08:10 – Five strategies to let go of ego

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🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode:

• Kate Langbroek - Love Story - https://bit.ly/44OH66q
• Dr Emily - Other People Matter - https://bit.ly/3MqGNZj
• Pat Cummins - Love, Loss & Life - https://bit.ly/3MtSgqX
• Cate Campbell - Even Olympians Have Depression - https://bit.ly/44TRhXp

🎄Other Xmas Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode:

• Santa Claus - A Special Vulnerabilitea House - https://bit.ly/48P0X6V
• Mrs Claus - Santa’s Better Half - https://bit.ly/44g5M7J
• Little Boy Christmas - The Forgotten Son of Mr & Mrs Claus - https://bit.ly/3KHqx5F

📖 Things to read

• A New Earth, by Eckhart Tolle - https://bit.ly/4rPfS9B

💻Things to look up

• Oprah’s series with Eckhart Tolle - https://bit.ly/48vfOo6

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We’re nervous. We’re excited. We’re nervous and excited. Because it’s Mary freaking Fowler day.

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Joining us in the Vulnerabilitea House, all the way from Manchester, Mary answers the question ‘what do you worry about the most?’

With wisdom far beyond her 22 years, Mary explains to Hugh, Ryan and Josh the impossible task of being the ‘perfect’ role model, especially when you are still growing up yourself.

And then, in a conversation that will help many, and maybe even save the life of a few, Mary graciously shares her experiences with self-harm, and why she thinks it is so important to have the heavy conversations, even with the risk of saying the wrong thing.

Mary talks about her journey with pressure and forgiveness that lead her to rediscover ‘Little Mary’, her wall of things that make her feel loved, and how she has been able to reframe her darkest times to find more empathy for others.

Mary, it was an absolute dream come true to speak with you.

0:00 – The 2023 Fairy tale
6:52 – What do you worry about most?
23:00 – Giving and taking power
34:01 – Appreciating the little things
41:01 – Saying the hard thing
56:22 – Beauty after pain
1:04:29 – Am I supposed to be here?
1:09:16 – Looking after Little Mary

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📖Things to read;

• Bloom, by Mary Fowler - https://bit.ly/443cWw3

🚨If you, or someone you know, is thinking about suicide or self-harm, Lifeline on 13 11 14 is a great place to start. In an emergency, please call 000.

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Is your communication style a red flag?

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It’s our favourite time of the month and Dr Emily Musgrove, our resident psychologist, is back in the studio to talk the talk (and walk the walk) about healthy communication.

The impact of our learning history (colloquially known as “baggage”) gets a heavy feature in this episode, as Ryan, Josh and Bridge unpack their communication styles, and how this has impacted their intimate relationships.

Dr Emily talks us through why the real challenge of communicating is not our use of language, but rather regulation of emotion, and gifts us a plethora of acronyms to practice at home the skills of effective communication.

Dr Em, always a pleasure.

Chapters:
0:00 – Communication, conflict, and Hannah Ferguson
10:19 – How do you (mostly?) communicate?
14:57 – The impact of our learning history
22:10 – Interpersonal Effectiveness
27:41 – Practicing getting it wrong to get it right
31:59 – Do opposites attract?
34:44 – Respond rather than react
47:51 – We all love an acronym
1:01:45 – Dealing with unreasonable people
1:15:49 – Breaking patterns

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🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

• Hannah Ferguson - Outspoken But Not Broken - https://bit.ly/4ilr2i2
• Dr Emily - Truth vs Harmony - https://bit.ly/481Xfri

💻Things to do:

• Complete the official Thomas-Kilmann Instrument communication styles quiz - https://bit.ly/4rowC7m
• Complete the free Thomas-Kilmann Instrument inspired communication styles quiz - https://bit.ly/4iygpbR

📺 Things to watch:

• The Rehearsal - https://bit.ly/4ong1hL

📖 Things to read:

• Terry Real’s catalogue - https://bit.ly/4p25w4m
• DBT Training Skills Manual, by Marsha M. Linehan - https://bit.ly/4ioNXcs
• BIFF, by Bill Eddy - https://bit.ly/4ojowdG

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