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The Functioning Griefster

The Functioning Griefster

By: Alexandra Spencer
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The Functioning Griefster is a podcast about, love, loss and still showing up anyway, with your survival kit on, whilst we bear the unbearable.


Recorded in the back of my son’s van, Dec, who died aged 24 in August 2023, I speak to fellow Griefster, who are, still grieving, still loving and still carrying their loved ones legacy forward.


These stories are real and raw,, no script, just courage, connection and unexpected moment of laughter and light.


Each episode includes a grounding tool to help anyone who is grieving or supporting someone who is.

© 2025 The Functioning Griefster
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Episodes
  • A rising football star. A test drive. A mother’s double heartbreak
    Nov 5 2025

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    In this powerful episode, I sit down with Kerry, a devoted mum whose world changed in an instant when a tragic accident took both her husband, David, and their son, Cameron.

    Cameron wasn’t just any boy, he was a rising football star with a professional contract and a heart that lived for his friends, his family, and the game. Kerry opens up about the day that shattered her world, the shockwaves that followed, and the strength it takes to keep breathing when everything feels impossible.

    Together, we talk about love, loss, survival, and the invisible threads that connect us to those we’ve lost.

    Recorded in Dec’s van — the heart of The Functioning Griefster — this conversation reminds us that grief isn’t something to fix. It’s something to honour, to carry, and to keep finding meaning within.

    Thank you, Kerry, for trusting me with your story, and for reminding us all that connection truly is the medicine grief needs. 🌷

    You can follow Kerry’s journey via her TikTok channel https://www.tiktok.com/@kerrylou711?_r=1&_t=ZN-917HvpUzGIY

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    1 hr and 34 mins
  • A TIKTOK trend. A locked door. A Mothers CPR
    Aug 27 2025

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    He’d done it before and woken up euphoric. This time, he didn’t.”

    “We left the house as four. We came back as three.”

    It was just a normal school day. Isaac rode shotgun, grabbed his favourite Doritos, and ran upstairs like he always did. A few minutes later, Lisa called him for dinner. When he didn’t answer, she assumed he was playing a prank. But when she broke down the locked bathroom door, everything changed.

    Isaac had used his school tie to take part in a dangerous social media challenge — one he’d tried before and survived. This time, he didn’t.

    In this devastating episode, Lisa shares the moment she fought to save her 13 year-old son’s life, performing CPR on her own child while her daughter called 999. She talks about the surreal days in hospital, watching Isaac’s body begin to shut down, and the heartbreaking decision to say goodbye surrounded by family.

    At 3:41pm on the 9th of March 2022, Lisa’s world changed forever.

    Now, alongside other grieving parents, she’s turning her pain into purpose, fighting to educate young people and schools about the risks of online challenges, and preserving Isaac’s legacy through awareness, love and action.

    In this honest and emotional conversation between two grieving mothers, we also talk about what grief really feels like — how the silence fills your house when they’re not in it, how you become transfixed on medical equipment, and how your entire identity shifts when your child dies.

    This episode also pays tribute to the support Lisa received from COSMIC (Children of St Mary’s Intensive Care). https://cosmiccharity.org.uk/

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    1 hr and 5 mins
  • One loyal, vulnerable boy. A knife. Two fatal stabs. Three teenagers who planned it all.
    Aug 20 2025

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    A loyal, vulnerable boy betrayed. They groomed him, they lured him, they stabbed him. A murder planned online, their posts, BECAME PROOF.

    Olly Stephens was just 13 years old, a boy who loved doing wheelies, baking, cooking, making people laugh, and standing up for others. He was a son, a brother, a friend.

    But his loyalty and vulnerability were exploited. Groomed by older boys who glamorised gang culture, and lured to a park by a girl he once called a friend, Olly was ambushed only yards from his home. Two stabs from a teenager’s knife ended his life and triggered a media surge to uncover the truth.

    Social media played a devastating role, used to plan the murder and brag about weapons, but it also became the very evidence that convicted them.

    In this episode, Olly’s mum, Amanda, shares who her son truly was, the painful reality of grooming and knife crime, and the grief of losing a child to violence. She also speaks about the court case that followed, and her determination to raise awareness so no other family has to endure the same loss.

    Help following the topics raised today, can be found at the below websites, all of whom have helped Amanda.

    https://benkinsella.org.uk/

    https://no5.org.uk/

    https://parentingspecialchildren.co.uk/

    https://www.n3wangle.com/

    https://startingpoint.org.uk/contact/


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    1 hr and 22 mins
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