Is it only cheating if it’s physical, or does emotional and digital loyalty count too? In this episode of The 3L’s Podcast, we get brutally honest about what really defines betrayal in modern relationships. From harmless work friendships that blur into “work wife” territory, to sexting, nudes, and emotional affairs that never get physical but still break trust, we unpack it all.

We dive deep into monogamy, the “men will stray” argument, and double standards that excuse male infidelity while condemning women for the same behaviour. We also explore how routine, boredom, and lack of communication can quietly destroy intimacy, and how therapy, honesty, and intentional connection can save a marriage long before cheating ever happens.

Mimi and Eman share real-life examples from their own relationship: rebuilding excitement after kids, setting healthy boundaries with the opposite sex, and protecting your marriage like it’s your first ministry. Because the truth is, most affairs don’t start in the bedroom; they start in the DMs, over “innocent” banter, or through unmet needs that no one talked about.

Whether you’re dating, married, or healing from betrayal, this episode will make you think about what loyalty really means in 2025.

When one partner takes off, does the other get left behind, or can you grow without growing apart? In this 3L’s episode, we get uncomfortably honest about identity and titles (“Eman’s wife,” “cake lady”) and the quiet sting of feeling left out while your spouse levels up. We talk about jealousy versus boundaries and how public perception, DMs, events, and the pressure to “post the family” can bruise a private marriage if you don’t protect the brand at home first. We also unpack the practical stuff no one glamorises: why we delayed certain events until we had truly trustworthy childcare, the safety conversations that shaped our choices, and what changed when we invited a spouse into the business and saw the real work, emails, insurance, decisions, not just the highlights. From therapy to honest check-ins to clearly defined lanes (hello, Co-CEO), we share the steps that helped us move from parallel lives to a genuine partnership where either of us can lead. And then the spicy bit: a listener dilemma where she saved £11,000 in secret over four years because he wasn’t growing. Is that disloyal, or financially wise self-protection? Dive in, weigh up the nuance, and tell us where you land.

We get real about emotional labour, who holds the calendar, the kids’ headspace, and all the invisible jobs, versus financial load. Why our 80/20 split works, how Dubai and house help factor in, and the difference between protecting your kids and preparing them for the real world.

We unpack what “mental load” really looks like in marriage: who schedules, who soothes, who shapes the kids’ minds, and how that balances against paying the bills. We talk skill sets, seasons, redundancy, appreciation, and why “traditional” roles can still be teamwork. And of course… a spicy dilemma: he went to his ex’s baby shower without telling his wife, innocent oversight or emotional neglect?

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