This is the first solo episode of 2026.
And it’s not a hype talk.

If you’re setting goals right now
or you’ve already started making changes
this episode is meant to catch you before motivation fades.

Because most people don’t fail at change due to laziness or lack of discipline.
They fail because they misunderstand how change actually works.

In this episode, we go deep into the psychology, behavior, and identity behind real transformation.

We talk about why you don’t add your way to change.
You unbecome your way there.

Why repairing energy leaks matters more than stacking habits.
Why fixing your nervous system matters more than forcing discipline.
Why silence and space are the parts people skip and why that’s where growth actually stabilizes.

We break down survival mode and why so many high-functioning people work their entire lives just to stay alive, never learning how to actually live.

We unpack the lie that growth must always be painful
and walk through the four pillars of real change
physical
emotional
mental
spiritual

and why focusing on only one, especially the physical, leads to burnout, relapse, or identity collapse.

You’ll hear a real example of a common goal like “less screen time”
and why vague goals fail
how to set realistic paths instead of fantasy expectations
and how habits like scrolling are rarely about discipline and almost always about what we’re avoiding or chasing.

This episode is about peace.
About space.
About learning how to sit without urgency.
About knowing who you are without achievement, performance, or noise.

It’s not about quitting ambition.
It’s about removing the chaos that keeps ambition hollow.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re constantly chasing the next version of yourself
if stillness makes you uncomfortable
if success hasn’t brought the calm you expected

this episode will land.

This isn’t about becoming someone new.

It’s about shedding who you no longer are
and learning how to live from choice instead of survival.

This is the final episode of 2025.

After more than 70 episodes, countless conversations, and a year of deep listening, one truth kept surfacing over and over again: most people don’t need more motivation, more goals, or more pressure. They need clarity. They need regulation. They need to stop running.

In this solo episode, I slow everything down.

We talk about why your goals won’t stick unless your nervous system is regulated.
Why a new year won’t magically fix habits you can’t maintain right now.
Why open loops drain your energy and why closure doesn’t have to be comfortable or pretty to be effective.
Why so many people are exhausted not from work, but from unresolved thoughts, emotions, and decisions.

We dig into the myth that suffering equals success, especially for men.
The lie that pain is required to be disciplined.
Why the gym helps but doesn’t cure depression.
Why alcohol numbs trauma instead of healing it.
And why awareness and EQ are the real foundation for change.

This episode is about unbecoming.
Unbecoming what you learned to survive.
Unbecoming identities built on pressure and performance.
Unbecoming habits that numb instead of heal.

It’s a call to close loops, face what you’ve been avoiding, regulate before you chase, and enter 2026 from a grounded place instead of another cycle of force.

This isn’t hype.
It’s not a resolution speech.
It’s a reset.

If you’re ready to stop running and actually change how you live, this one is for you.

In this engaging conversation, Curtis Pelletier speaks with JM Kelly, head coach of Dodge City Community College, about various aspects of baseball coaching, including summer ball experiences, recruiting challenges, and the importance of mental performance. They discuss the unique structure of the Northwoods League, the transition of coaching roles, and the significance of building a quality coaching staff. The conversation also delves into the potential of Canadian players, the role of data in coaching, and the techniques used in training catchers. Overall, the discussion highlights the complexities and rewards of coaching at the junior college level.

Timestamp

2023-10-03T00:00:00Z

Titles

• From Ice Fishing to Coaching: A Baseball Journey
• Navigating the Challenges of Summer Ball

Sound Bites

• "Living the dream, trying to stay warm."
• "We lost a really good hitter last year."
• "The game has become a lot about data."

Chapters

00:00
Introduction and Ice Fishing Plans

02:52
Summer Ball Coaching Experience

05:26
Northwoods League Insights

08:22
Recruiting Challenges and Strategies

11:17
Pitching Coach Transition

14:00
Building a Quality Coaching Staff

17:03
Recruiting in the Portal Era

19:58
Identifying Talent in Canadian Players

22:37
Mental Performance in Baseball

25:31
Catching Techniques and Training

28:18
The Importance of Data in Coaching

31:16
Final Thoughts on Junior College Baseball