Four months after losing Mike, we started noticing something uncomfortable.

We talk about grief every week.
But is talking the same as processing?

In this episode, we sit with that question. The point where the shock has faded, but you’re still learning how to live in a world that feels different.

We explore the difference between a bad day and a grief wave.
When reflection quietly becomes a loop.
Why small daily habits can feel like survival.
And what it actually means to live with loss instead of trying to get over it.

Trigger warning: This episode contains honest discussions regarding grief, bereavement, and mental health.

This isn’t a clinical conversation.
It’s two men trying to work out what’s helping and what might be keeping us stuck.

If this episode resonates, you’re not alone.

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How does grief change your identity? It doesn’t happen loudly or all at once. It happens quietly, stripping away pieces of who you used to be until you realise you’re no longer just "healing" - you’re trying to figure out who you are now.

Trigger warning: This episode contains honest discussions regarding grief, bereavement, and mental health.

In this week's podcast, we dive deep into identity grief and the "life audit" that follows a major loss.

We explore the internal shift that happens when the roles we once held - like being a sibling or a best friend - suddenly disappear.

In this episode, we discuss:

- Identity after loss: Why we feel like different people after a bereavement

- The Life Audit: Practical habits (walking, mindset, and health) to help process the "fog."

- Reinvention vs. Distillation: Why grief doesn't "change" you, it strips you back to your core.

- The Lone Sibling: Coping with the changing family roles after losing a brother or sister.

- Living in the Present: How to carry a legacy forward without staying "frozen in time.

"This isn’t a conversation about "getting over it" or rebuilding a new you. It’s about distillation, finding clarity in what remains when everything has been stripped back.

If you are struggling with your mental health after loss or wondering why you don't feel like "yourself" anymore, this conversation is for you.

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Trigger warning: this episode discusses grief and loss.

We are often told to "stay strong" and "hold it together" after a loss, but what happens when the adrenaline finally runs out?

In this episode, we explore the Adrenaline Hangover - that physical and mental crash that often hits months after a tragedy. We discuss why the traditional definition of male strength often leads to burnout, and why "out-disciplining" your grief is an impossible task.

From synchronised migraines to the reality of the 100-day wall, we’re breaking down why the hardest part of the journey often starts long after the funeral ends.

In this conversation:

• The physical toll of "performing" as if you're fine.

• Why your body crashes when the initial survival mode ends.

• Redefining strength as communication rather than silence.

• The legacy of "Mike’s Fence" and returning to our childhood roots.

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