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The Anti-Awkward Self Promotion Episode: How to Do it with RESPECT

The Anti-Awkward Self Promotion Episode: How to Do it with RESPECT

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 Tired of the cringe and discomfort that comes with self-promotion, asking for a raise, or tackling your annual performance review? Hosts David Morelli and William Oakley dive deep into the often-awkward process of self-evaluation and advocacy. This isn't just about tactics; it starts with a foundational look at self-worth and the "unwinnable game" of seeking external validation. They introduce the powerful RESPECT framework (Rallier, Educator, Strategist, Provocateur, Explorer, Confidant, and Transformer) to help you build a comprehensive, authentic, and "anti-awkward" case for your performance, growth, and potential. This episode provides a profound shift in perspective, moving the focus from desperate external validation to grounded, authentic self-reflection and presentation. Learn how to present your value with integrity, poise, and genuine self-awareness.

Key Topics:

· Self-Worth is the Starting Point: Awkward self-promotion often stems from a fear of "not being good enough" (fragile self-worth), which leads to either overworking for approval or over-blustering. True self-promotion begins when your thoughts about yourself are independent of others' opinions.

· External Validation is a Trap: "No amount of external validation can replace how you feel about yourself." Your performance review does not define your intrinsic worth as a person.

· Acknowledge Your Flaws: Being honest about areas for improvement (the Provocateur aspect) shows intellectual honesty, humility, and self-awareness to leaders. This prevents others from having to bring up your shortcomings, proving you are teachable and committed to growth.

· Use the RESPECT Framework to Build Your Case: Moving beyond just a list of accomplishments, a well-rounded self-promotion case addresses seven key dimensions:

· Rallier: Tangible, measurable achievements and progress (e.g., sales, case closures, project delivery). · Educator: What you learned this year, especially beyond expectations (self-development, new skills).

· Strategist: The key problems you solved and the value (e.g., cost savings) those solutions generated.

· Provocateur: Where you applied critical thinking, caught errors, and questioned assumptions.

· Explorer: Innovations, creativity, and new ideas brought to the team or process improvements.

· Confidant: Your cultural contribution to the team (support, cohesion, being a team player) and taking time to appreciate your own efforts.

· Transformer: Who you are becoming—your personal and professional growth, sense of purpose/passion, and aspirations for the future.

· Performance Reviews are for Growth, Not Worth: Use the review as an opportunity for honest self-reflection on your growth, progress, and areas for course correction, not as a moment to justify your value as a human being.
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