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That's Where I'm At

That's Where I'm At

By: Laura Richards
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 Welcome to "That's Where I'm At" with your host, Laura Richards! Join Laura Richards, a survivor of narcissistic abuse with 33 years experience, as she guides you through the journey of identifying, healing from, and thriving after emotional and psychological abuse. With a mission to raise awareness, foster emotional recovery, and empower you to love yourself, Laura brings honesty, compassion, and a touch of humor to every episode. Dive into deep, meaningful conversations, tackle tough topics, and uncover moments of hope and healing. Our supportive community is here for you, offering insights, support, and a shared path to recovery and empowerment. Subscribe now and be part of a transformative journey that’s messy, real, and truly inspiring!2023 Hygiene & Healthy Living Personal Development Personal Success Psychology Psychology & Mental Health
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  • EP 60: Reclaiming Your Power After Narcissistic Abuse with Allison Dagney

    EP 60: Reclaiming Your Power After Narcissistic Abuse with Allison Dagney
    Sep 17 2025
    In this episode of That's Where I'm At, Laura and guest Allison K. Dagney share their experiences of healing after covert narcissistic relationships. They explore the challenges of recognizing emotional abuse, navigating divorce, and rebuilding self-worth through therapy, journaling, and supportive communities. Together, they offer hope and practical tools for women on their own healing journeys. Allison is a best-selling memoirist and emotional abuse recovery coach who helps women rise above toxic cycles and reclaim their strength. After nearly 20 years in a covertly abusive marriage, she transformed her trauma into triumph, later sharing her journey in her books When Tears Leave Scars and Radiate and Rise. Key Topics & Timestamps Laura’s Divorce & Realization (00:04:08) Laura recounts her divorce, discovering her ex’s infidelity, and the clarity that followed about narcissistic abuse. Leaving a Narcissist: Planning & Survival (00:12:29) They discuss the importance of secret planning, survival mode, and the challenges of leaving an abusive relationship. Financial Abuse & Legal Strategies (00:20:56) Alison explains legal strategies like “status quo” to maintain financial stability during divorce. Finding Peace & Adjusting to Freedom (00:28:06) They discuss the unfamiliar feeling of peace and freedom after leaving an abusive relationship. Writing & Healing: Books and Podcasts (00:33:10) Laura describes her book’s structure, the non-linear nature of healing, and the importance of sharing personal stories. Identity Loss & Rediscovery (00:40:23) They explore how abusive relationships cause loss of identity and the process of rediscovering personal interests. Quality Over Quantity in Relationships (00:58:11) They reflect on the value of having a smaller, higher-quality support network after leaving abuse. Powerful Quotes from the Episode “I didn’t know the depths of hell that a narcissist can do to you.” - Alison “I had to choose me. I’d never chosen me, so I had to choose me.' - Laura “I cried because I was good at something I was never allowed to try, and someone was saying something nice to me.” - Laura “I totally did not know what self-love was or how to love myself.” - Alison “You have to take the first step, even if you don’t see the whole staircase.” - Laura “The key to me is boundaries, but you’re not going to get there without self-love.” - Laura “I am changing in a very good way, but that causes people to walk themselves right out of my life. I don’t need those kinds of people anymore.” - Alison “People are out there. Your tribe is out there. Unfortunately, you have to let go of the rest to find them.” - Laura RESOURCES: COACH WITH LAURA: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/coachwithlauraYOU’RE NOT CRAZY, RECLAIMING YOUR SANITY AND SELF-WORTH AFTER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE ebook: GET IT HEREMARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HEREFOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.comPRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/ Connect with Allison WEBSITE: www.radiatenrise.comBOOKS: www.allisonkdagney.com Your past may shape you, but it does not define your future. Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support.
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    1 hr and 4 mins
  • From Surviving to Thriving: Reclaiming Your Power After Narcissistic Abuse with Dr. Tina

    From Surviving to Thriving: Reclaiming Your Power After Narcissistic Abuse with Dr. Tina
    Sep 3 2025
    In this episode of "That's Where I'm At," host Laura welcomes Dr. Tina, a holistic brain health practitioner and survivor-turned-guide specializing in recovery from narcissistic abuse. Dr. Tina received her Ph.D. in Neuroscience from the University of Rochester and completed postdoctoral fellowships in psychiatric and nutritional epidemiology at Johns Hopkins and Tufts University. Drawing on both neuroscience and medical intuition, she helps sensitive souls address root causes beyond relationships, surroundings, or symptoms. Together, Laura and Dr. Tina discuss the challenges of toxic relationships, the importance of boundaries, and the path toward self-love. Dr. Tina shares her personal journey of once feeling like a magnet for toxic people, the strategies she developed to reclaim her power, and how those discoveries shaped her 7-Step UPLIFTS Program—a powerful framework to help clients heal from narcissistic abuse and learn to love again. Throughout the conversation, she offers practical tools such as somatic practices, mindfulness, and energy protection techniques, while Laura reflects on her own healing journey and advocates for women to share their stories. Known as a dynamic speaker who inspires hope in those navigating chronic health challenges and toxic relationships, Dr. Tina brings wisdom, compassion, and encouragement to anyone ready to reclaim their voice and their power. Key Topics & Timestamps Dr. Tina’s Personal Journey & Becoming a Practitioner (00:02:33) Dr. Tina shares her experiences with toxic people and how it led her to specialize in this field. Understanding Boundaries and People-Pleasing (00:03:52) Discussion about the importance of boundaries, people-pleasing, and how these patterns attract toxic individuals. Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Trauma Release (00:07:14) The role of trauma responses and subconscious work in healing from abuse. Gray Rock Method & Emotional Detachment (00:10:16) Explanation of the gray rock method and its effectiveness in dealing with narcissists. Self-Love and Healing Journey (00:13:35) The importance of self-love, inner work, and the ripple effects of personal healing. Who Should Seek Dr. Tina’s Help (00:39:28) Description of ideal clients and readiness for healing or relationship change. Powerful Quotes from the Episode “Never too late. Why not live the life you want, right?” “People with a lot of trauma can have very, very thick heart walls. I had a lot.” “I grew up with narcissists and then I had a narcissist that destroyed my career.” “I like that idea of celebrating your personal best because I think that’s so important. It really makes me happy to think about where I was and now where I am.” “I like to tell people, don’t try hard. Try easy. Releasing subconscious barriers is the easiest and fastest way to get to where you want to go.” RESOURCES: COACH WITH LAURA: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/coachwithlauraYOU’RE NOT CRAZY, RECLAIMING YOUR SANITY AND SELF-WORTH AFTER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE ebook: GET IT HEREMARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HEREFOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.comPRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/ Connect with Tina https://tryholisticbrainhealth.comhttps://www.facebook.com/tryHolisticBrainHealthhttps://www.facebook.com/tina.huang.353https://www.linkedin.com/in/tinalhuangphdwww.youtube.com/@TinaHuangPhD5 Powerful Strategies to Quickly Get Grounded: https://tryholisticbrainhealth.com/grounded-and-safe/Listeners might find this useful: https://tryholisticbrainhealth.com/how-to-deal-with-bullies-trolls-and-haters/ Boundaries aren’t walls—they’re bridges back to yourself. Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support.
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    44 mins
  • From Silence to Strength: Laura’s Journey of Healing, Boundaries, and Finding Her Voice

    From Silence to Strength: Laura’s Journey of Healing, Boundaries, and Finding Her Voice
    Aug 20 2025
    In this episode of "That's Where I'm At," host Laura and her guest, Gabi Garland—her podcast producer and close friend—discuss Laura’s healing journey after divorcing a narcissistic ex-husband. They explore the challenges of setting boundaries, overcoming shame, and breaking generational cycles of trauma. Laura shares how creating the podcast has empowered her and built a supportive community for survivors. The conversation highlights the importance of vulnerability, self-love, and storytelling in healing, offering hope and practical advice to listeners navigating their own paths to recovery and self-discovery. Key Topics & Timestamps Celebrating Two Years & Laura’s Transformation (00:01:56) Producer reflects on Laura’s growth from fearful to empowered over the past three years. The Impact of Abuse on Self-Belief (00:09:53) How abuse rewires beliefs and the importance of doing deep inner work. Support Systems & Newfound Family (00:11:58) The importance of supportive friends and chosen family during healing. Celebrating Successes & Achievements (00:17:05) Laura’s milestones: media appearances, bestselling books, and learning to celebrate herself. Podcast Growth & External Recognition (00:22:58) Reaching top podcast rankings, media invitations, and the impact of authenticity. Accountability & Choosing to Heal (00:53:07) Encouragement to seek therapy, question inherited identities, and choose change. Generational Healing & Family Reconciliation (01:04:46) Changing generational patterns, healing with her children, and doing it for future generations. The Power of Telling Your Story (01:16:26) Encouragement to share your story, as it may be the key to someone else’s healing. The Worth of the Healing Journey (01:19:00) Reflecting on the value of the healing process and excitement for the future. Powerful Quotes from the Episode "If it feels hard, that doesn’t mean it’s wrong. The wrong people are leaving, and there’s room for the right ones." "Gaslighting isn’t just a buzzword—it’s the sick, spiraling feeling when they say, 'You’re too sensitive.'" "You’re never going to get to boundaries if you don’t love yourself." "The only person we’re protecting when we stay silent is the abuser." "There’s a woman who was me three years ago—if I don’t tell my story, she’s going to die." "It’s never too late. Please hear this—you can change." RESOURCES: COACH WITH LAURA: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/coachwithlauraYOU’RE NOT CRAZY, RECLAIMING YOUR SANITY AND SELF-WORTH AFTER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE ebook: GET IT HEREMARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HEREFOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.comPRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/ Connect with Gabi Garland WEBSITE: https://www.resilientvoicemedia.com/INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/gabi.garlandFACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/gabrielle.anaya.5?mibextid=LQQJ4dTIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@gabi.garland?_t=8qZEJ4HMlmY&_r=1 The moment I broke my silence, I found my strength. Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support.
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    1 hr and 21 mins
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