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That's Where I'm At

By: Laura Richards
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  • Welcome to "That's Where I'm At" with your host, Laura Richards! Get ready for a podcast that takes you on a rollercoaster of emotions. While we may share some laughs, we dive into serious topics with honesty and compassion. Together, we'll explore life's ups and downs, navigate tough discussions, and find moments of hope. Join our supportive community and be part of meaningful conversations. Subscribe now for a journey that's messy, real, and transformative!
    2023
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  • The Trauma Bond: Understanding the Cycle of Abuse in Narcissistic Relationships

    The Trauma Bond: Understanding the Cycle of Abuse in Narcissistic Relationships
    May 1 2024
    Today Laura is joined by Paris Turner, a beauty, business, and relationship coach who delivers entertaining talks and speeches that challenge audiences to level up and focus on what matters most in life. Audiences love her practical strategies, witty humor, and life wisdom, which they can apply personally and professionally. Paris earned her BA in business management from Northwest University and a UI/UX design certification from Bethel School of Technology. She has received numerous awards for her work in social justice causes and advocacy. Her strong background in leading, and speaking and her life experience make her uniquely qualified to discuss various topics. Organizations love working with Paris because of her unique perspective and ability to help people create solutions to complex problems. In this episode, Paris shares her expertise as a beauty, business, and relationship coach specializing in narcissistic relationships. She talks about the manipulative tactics used by narcissists, such as love bombing, boundary violations, and excessive attention, and emphasizes the importance of recognizing red flags and trusting one's intuition. Paris discusses the aftermath of leaving a narcissistic relationship, including post-separation abuse, smear campaigns, and the struggle to rebuild self-worth. She shares her personal journey of healing and self-discovery, highlighting the need for setting boundaries, seeking support, and prioritizing self-care. Paris provides valuable insights into navigating and overcoming the complexities of abusive relationships, empowering listeners to address manipulative behaviors, set healthy boundaries, and prioritize their emotional well-being. Join now! Timestamps [00:02:12] Paris’s biography and shared experiences with narcissistic relationships [00:04:38 ] Recognizing narcissistic traits in relationships [00:06:07] Overdramatizing red flags and signs of narcissism [00:09:20] Post-separation abuse and tactics used by narcissists [00:10:32] Long-term effects of narcissistic relationships [00:14:34] The importance of sharing experiences and seeking support [00:22:12] Feeling alone and overcoming shame in abusive relationships [00:25:42] The importance of seeking outside opinions and validation [00:28:26] Escaping from narcissistic relationships and post-separation abuse [00:31:22] Charismatic nature of narcissists and smear campaigns [00:33:34] Recognizing love bombing and red flags in new relationships [00:45:11] Trusting Intuition and Self-Validation [00:51:33] Dating After Abuse [00:59:21] How Paris lost everything due to an abusive partner [01:12:11] Being poised through the healing process while still allowing emotions [01:19:32] The importance of prioritizing healing and self-love after abuse Quotes Once you find what you're worth more than then that's when you begin to go, you know what? I'm worth a lot more than this.I treated myself the way I learned. Now, what I want in a relationship is how I treat myself. The most important thing for me, just in my life in general, has been self-love and understanding my weaknesses.They need supply because that's how they feel good about themselves. So they gotta have someone who's kissing their butt, blowing their head up, inflating ego.It's love bombing. That's it. You know, just saying those words makes you feel like, really, you've never been this happy, I've never been this in love, or whatever. It's like, really ever.A lot of times, they control the narrative for so long, and you know, when you trust someone. When you think of those things like you, you don't think twice. But a lot of times in those situations, it's almost like, you know, like we were saying, Hmm. Something, it just doesn't seem right. RESOURCES: FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards CONNECT WITH PARIS: www.paristurner.com enjoyingyourjourney.org THERAPY JEFF: https://www.therapyjeff.com
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    1 hr and 24 mins
  • Making Friends After 40 with Paige Dempsey

    Making Friends After 40 with Paige Dempsey
    Apr 26 2024

    Today Laura is joined by Paige Dempsey, a feminist dating and relationship coach, to discuss the challenges many women face in making new friends as adults, especially after significant life transitions like divorce. They share vulnerably about their experiences putting themselves out there to find connection, whether showing up for meetup groups, joining social media communities, or simply striking up conversations at local events. Paige offers practical advice for taking it slow when getting to know new people, asking questions, and being open even when feeling uncomfortable or fearing rejection.

    Are you looking to grow your circle of friends in this season of life? Join the conversation now to get tangible tips and an empathetic perspective!

    Timestamps

    [2:02] The difficulty of making friends as an adult

    [6:54] Advice for being okay with discomfort when meeting new people

    [12:04] Where to find potential new friends (social media, local groups, events)

    [15:43] Laura's experience trying to make new friends

    [18:05] Importance of asking questions, being open, and not rushing into friendships

    [19:35] Importance of being participatory at events

    [21:54] The opening line Paige uses to start conversations

    [21:12] Extending invitations and not taking rejection personally

    [22:41] Recommendation for the book "Platonic" on making friends as an adult

    Quotes
    • We don't have to go off the high board into like the 12-foot area, you know, in the beginning. We just have to start with the beginning, which is like, let's have coffee and chat for an hour and see how that goes.
    • If you are having trouble meeting people in 2024, that is on you. It's never hard in the history of ever, has it been easier to find humans to connect with, with this little portable device that is always in your hand or on the or in front of you.
    • We as women are good at having conversations. We're good at connecting with people. There are people in your life that you know how to connect with and those skills don't go away.
    • If you go to events, you have to be participatory in meeting the people saying hello, and having conversations.
    • The best opening line, I mean the one that I always use if I walk into a room or a group or a table or a fundraiser and stick out my hand and say, hi, I'm Paige.
    • Let's get back to that energy of being kids and not worrying about, you know, what they will think, what I am wearing, what they are wearing, and all that stuff.
    RESOURCES:

    FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com

    BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards

    FOLLOW PAIGE:

    www.paigedempseycoaching.com

    https://www.instagram.com/datingcoachpaige

    https://www.tiktok.com/@datingcoachpaige

    https://www.facebook.com/paigedempseycoaching/

    "Platonic" by Marisa G. Franco (on making friends as an adult): https://drmarisagfranco.com/secrets-to-making-friends-as-an-adult/
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    24 mins
  • From Shadows to Light: Susan's Journey of Faith and Redemption

    From Shadows to Light: Susan's Journey of Faith and Redemption
    Apr 17 2024

    In this episode, I'm joined by Susan, a 45-year-old widow with four adult children and one grandson. In her home during the 20+ years of marriage, she experienced verbal and emotional abuse as well as physical abuse from time to time. The insecurities in her life left her feeling ugly and worthless, and she was convinced she may never be happy again in life. During a rebellious season, she made terrible choices, but now she can say the Lord has forgiven and redeemed her. She now leads women in bible study as she knows her purpose in life is to help married women avoid falling into the same patterns she fell into, which led to a very dark and wicked road leading to eternal separation from God.

    Today, Susan shares the raw and vulnerable details of her over 20-year marriage. Despite the turmoil, she remained committed until the mistreatment caused her to become numb and seek companionship elsewhere, having an affair that ate her up with guilt. She provides a firsthand account of the challenging dynamics, including her husband's initial attempts to change through counselling and her decision to ultimately leave him for another man before the Holy Spirit convinced her to return and try rebuilding her marriage. She painfully recounts the process of confessing her infidelity, her husband's shocking forgiveness, and their journey to finally restore the relationship before his tragic passing, leaving her to find purpose in leading other women through the patterns that once entrapped her.

    Join the show now and learn!

    Timestamps:

    [00:54] Susan's background

    [02:21] How Susan met her husband and the early years of their marriage

    [08:51] Dealing with her husband's childhood trauma and negativity

    [13:19] Susan’s recognition of the different forms of abuse in her marriage

    [24:40] Why Susan decided to separate from her husband

    [27:32] The complexity of moral dilemmas and personal choices within relationships

    [31:36] The internal conflict of desire, deception, and moral conscience in infidelity

    [33:00] Susan's initial decision to work on her marriage after separating

    [44:28] Susan's husband's reaction after confessing her infidelity

    [53:40] Susan's journey to restore her marriage after infidelity

    [54:55] Finding love again after her husband's passing

    [01:01:50] The importance of healing before entering a new relationship

    Quotes:
    • I know the devil is real. I know that I know we live in a very evil world, but I know just how deceiving the devil can be because the man I met was exactly the man I wanted my husband to be.
    • I never felt so much love and quickly fell in love with him. Yeah. Because I never, I don't wanna say I never felt it. 'cause I know my husband loved me, but it didn't, it wasn't tainted.
    • You need to do what you need to do to restore your marriage and allow God to restore it.
    • I guess just that voice that you hear inside Yeah. Is the Holy Spirit. You know, and don't quench the Holy Spirit.
    RESOURCES:

    FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com

    BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards

    Mending the Soul workbook/class by Author: Celestia G. Tracy https://a.co/d/8NS00IH
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    1 hr and 6 mins
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