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That's Where I'm At

That's Where I'm At

By: Laura Richards
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 Welcome to "That's Where I'm At" with your host, Laura Richards! Join Laura Richards, a survivor of narcissistic abuse with 33 years experience, as she guides you through the journey of identifying, healing from, and thriving after emotional and psychological abuse. With a mission to raise awareness, foster emotional recovery, and empower you to love yourself, Laura brings honesty, compassion, and a touch of humor to every episode. Dive into deep, meaningful conversations, tackle tough topics, and uncover moments of hope and healing. Our supportive community is here for you, offering insights, support, and a shared path to recovery and empowerment. Subscribe now and be part of a transformative journey that's messy, real, and truly inspiring!2023 Hygiene & Healthy Living Personal Development Personal Success Psychology Psychology & Mental Health
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  • EP 74: Healing and Rebuilding Your Life After Narcissistic Abuse with Coach NiaRenee

    EP 74: Healing and Rebuilding Your Life After Narcissistic Abuse with Coach NiaRenee
    Mar 25 2026
    In this episode of That's Where I'm At, host Laura sits down with Coach NiaRenee, a certified narcissistic abuse recovery coach, author, and advocate dedicated to helping survivors rebuild their lives after emotional and psychological abuse. As the founder of How to Love a Battered Woman LLC and creator of the Battered Hearts Rising methodology, NiaRenee combines professional expertise with lived experience to guide survivors through deep healing, self-reconnection, and the restoration of self-trust after toxic relationships. Known as the Empathy Powerhouse, NiaRenee is passionate about amplifying the voices of survivors and creating spaces where healing, clarity, and empowerment are possible. Her work goes beyond leaving abusive dynamics—she helps individuals untangle trauma bonds, strengthen boundaries, and rebuild their identity so they can form relationships rooted in safety, respect, and emotional security. In this powerful conversation, NiaRenee shares her journey of surviving both childhood and adult abuse, and how those experiences shaped her mission today. She and Laura explore the challenges of recognizing abuse, breaking trauma bonds, and unlearning harmful patterns influenced by societal and media narratives. Together, they emphasize the importance of self-awareness, community, and support in the healing process. This episode offers hope, practical tools, and encouragement for anyone on the path to reclaiming their voice, identity, and power. Key Topics & Timestamps Coach NiaRenee's Background & Advocacy (00:02:20) NiaRenee discusses her advocacy work, credentials, and motivation for helping survivors. Personal Journey into Coaching (00:03:42) NiaRenee shares how her personal experiences with abuse led her to coaching and developing her methodology. Rebuilding Self-Relationship After Abuse (00:05:44) Discussion on the importance of repairing the relationship with oneself after abusive relationships. Leaving the Last Abusive Relationship (00:06:36) NiaRenee talks about leaving her last abusive relationship in 2019 and recognizing unhealthy patterns. Childhood Abuse & Family Dynamics (00:07:02) NiaRenee reveals her childhood sexual abuse and growing up with a narcissistic mother, and how it shaped her. Normalization & Glamourization of Abuse in Media (00:11:40) They discuss how media normalizes and glamorizes domestic violence, making it harder to recognize abuse. Love Bombing & Societal Conditioning (00:13:15) Exploration of love bombing, societal messages about romance, and the impact on boundaries. Learning Healthy Love & Setting Boundaries (00:15:01) NiaRenee describes learning what healthy love looks like through friendships and setting new standards. Unlearning Patterns & Trauma Bonding (00:16:38) The process of unlearning old patterns, trauma bonding, and the importance of self-awareness. Losing Friendships During Healing (00:19:32) NiaRenee and Laura discuss losing friendships that mirrored abusive patterns during their healing journeys. Individual Healing Journeys & Coping Strategies (00:22:04) They share personal healing methods, emphasizing that everyone's journey is unique. Finding and Using Your Voice (00:24:05) Both discuss how speaking out, crying, and sharing their stories helped reclaim their voices. Starting Social Media Advocacy (00:25:03) NiaRenee explains how she began sharing her story on TikTok and the impact of her skits. Balancing Content Creation with Heavy Topics (00:27:04) Challenges of creating content and supporting others during overwhelming world events. Coping with Triggers from Current Events (00:28:25) NiaRenee shares how she manages triggers from the Epstein files and the importance of self-care. Supporting Survivors & Using Your Platform (00:32:21) The importance of amplifying survivor voices and using platforms for advocacy. Calling Out Societal & Political Narcissistic Abuse (00:34:44) Discussion on recognizing narcissistic abuse in political and societal contexts. Recognizing Psychological Abuse (00:37:09) Highlighting the prevalence of psychological abuse and its portrayal in media. Upcoming Movie "My Narcissist" (00:37:41) NiaRenee talks about her role in the upcoming movie that depicts psychological and emotional abuse. Breaking the Cycle & Family Healing (00:43:03) Laura and NiaRenee discuss breaking generational cycles, family healing, and accountability. Powerful Quotes from the Episode NiaRenee, 'I just want to show other people that there is life after abuse.' NiaRenee, 'Those relationships felt familiar, so I thought I was supposed to stay in them because that's just how relationships are.' NiaRenee, 'I think it's deeper than us loving ourselves, because how do we love ourselves if we've never been shown how to be properly loved?' NiaRenee, 'The more you're self-aware, the more you pay attention to what your body is telling you, the more you realize that you trust yourself to make decisions.' NiaRenee, 'I cried for...
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    47 mins
  • EP 73: From Surviving to Thriving: Practical Steps for Women Rebuilding After Toxic Relationships with Trish Lynn

    EP 73: From Surviving to Thriving: Practical Steps for Women Rebuilding After Toxic Relationships with Trish Lynn
    Mar 18 2026
    In this episode of That's Where I'm At, host Laura welcomes Trish Lynn, a life coach and identity recalibration mentor who helps women rebuild their internal operating system after trauma, toxic dynamics, and years of self-silencing. After leaving a 16-year narcissistic relationship, Trish rebuilt her voice, regulated her nervous system, and redefined her identity from the inside out. Today, she guides women in healing their self-concept, reclaiming their voices, and becoming the version of themselves who can be seen, heard, and fully expressed without collapsing. In this powerful conversation, Laura and Trish discuss the journey from victimhood to empowerment, exploring the challenges of rebuilding self-esteem, setting boundaries, and rediscovering identity after leaving toxic relationships. As a single mom and survivor of narcissistic abuse, Trish shares personal insights about healing, parenting, and overcoming self-doubt, while offering practical guidance for women ready to reclaim their confidence and rebuild their lives. The episode highlights the importance of self-care, nervous system healing, community, and authenticity in the recovery process, offering hope and actionable insights for listeners on their own path to healing and empowerment. Key Topics & Timestamps Guest Introduction: Trish Lynn (00:01:23) Trish's background as a single mom, survivor, and content marketing strategist for women recovering from toxic relationships. Why Trish Chose Her Niche (00:02:20) Trish explains how her own experience with abuse influenced her business focus. Impact of Abuse on Business & Self-Esteem (00:02:58) Laura and Trish discuss how toxic relationships undermine confidence and business success. Regaining Voice & Authenticity Online (00:03:42) The struggle to express oneself authentically after abuse and the importance of self-trust in content creation. Dealing with Criticism & Perception (00:06:12) Handling negative feedback online and learning not to internalize others' perceptions. Teaching Self-Worth & Boundaries (00:08:47) Helping women rebuild self-worth, set boundaries, and value their work after toxic relationships. Overcoming Sabotage & Brain Fog (00:15:35) Trish shares how her ex sabotaged her business and the challenges of parenting and working during abuse. Holistic Healing: Nutrition & Self-Care (00:18:43) Trish's holistic approach, including nutrition and self-care, to support healing and business growth. Parenting & Breaking Generational Patterns (00:24:47) Teaching children healthy boundaries and breaking cycles of abuse for future generations. Reactive Abuse & Healing with Children (00:28:16) Discussing reactive rage, apologizing to children, and mutual healing after leaving abuse. Narcissists' Lack of Accountability (00:36:25) Red flags: abusers never take responsibility for problems in any area of life. Public vs. Private Persona of Abusers (00:37:19) How covert narcissists appear charming in public but are abusive at home. Rest, Self-Compassion, and Nervous System Healing (00:39:37) The importance of rest, self-compassion, and nervous system regulation after leaving abuse. Rediscovering Joy & Self-Care Rituals (00:41:02) Finding happiness, daily rituals, and self-care as part of rebuilding life and business. Overcoming Guilt & Building a Business Post-Abuse (00:42:14) Letting go of guilt, making bold moves, and growing a business as a single mom. Money Mindset & Leaving Despite Financial Fears (00:43:46) Shifting money mindset, setting intentions, and leaving toxic relationships even with little or no money. Knowing When You're Done & Taking the Leap (00:46:04) Recognizing the moment you're truly done and ready to leave, regardless of circumstances. Helping Complete Beginners Start Businesses (00:47:15) Trish supports women at all stages, including those starting from scratch. Powerful Quotes from the Episode Trish, 'For so long, I wasn't allowed to have an opinion. If I had an opinion that was my own, it was the wrong opinion for sure.' Trish, 'Energetically, I didn't have the capacity to be in that relationship and grow my business. I was walking on eggshells every day.' Trish, 'I sat for a moment and I'm like, I failed. My biggest thought was I failed my kids, and now I'm like, no, I didn't, because they are seeing something so much better and I am their safe space.' Trish, 'I am breaking these patterns so that my little girl does not grow up thinking this is how we are treated. And my boys, I do not want them to grow up thinking this is how we treat women.' Trish, 'Having the compassion for yourself to take the rest when you need the rest, because coming out of it, your body needs that time to heal.' RESOURCES: COACH WITH LAURA: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/coachwithlaura YOU'RE NOT CRAZY ebook: GET IT HERE MARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE JOIN THE NICE GUY RECOVERY COMMUNITY: https://www.skool.com/...
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    50 mins
  • EP 72: Navigating the Journey of Healing: Self-Love, Boundaries, and Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse with Tiffany K

    EP 72: Navigating the Journey of Healing: Self-Love, Boundaries, and Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse with Tiffany K
    Mar 4 2026
    In this episode of That's Where I'm At, host Laura sits down with Tiffany K—a school teacher, yoga instructor, hiking enthusiast, coffee lover, devoted mom to three adult children, proud grandmother, and narcissistic abuse survivor turned thriver. Tiffany brings both professional insight and deeply personal experience to this conversation, sharing her powerful journey from surviving toxic relationships to embracing healing, self-love, and authentic living. As the host of The Journey Within with Tiffany K., a show dedicated to helping women reconnect with themselves and cultivate personal growth, Tiffany is passionate about guiding others toward emotional freedom and empowerment. Together, Laura and Tiffany explore the realities of trauma, the courage it takes to leave abusive dynamics, and practical tools for recovery—including meditation, journaling, boundaries, and community support. Tiffany's story is a testament to resilience and serves as an inspiring reminder that healing is possible and thriving is within reach. Key Topics & Timestamps Tiffany's Background and Podcast Journey (00:02:10) Tiffany shares her diverse background and how she started her podcast focused on healing. Discovering the Healing Journey (00:02:54) Tiffany explains how her healing journey led to podcasting and the importance of addressing trauma stored in the body. Healing Modalities and Nervous System Regulation (00:03:55) Discussion about different healing methods, including journaling, meditation, and the impact of trauma on the nervous system. Recognizing Narcissistic Traits and Trauma Bonds (00:09:42) Tiffany details the common traits of narcissists and the addictive cycle of trauma bonding. Leaving Abusive Relationships and the Seven-Times Statistic (00:12:26) Discussion about why it takes multiple attempts to leave abusive relationships and the emotional manipulation involved. Tools for Breaking Trauma Bonds (00:19:22) Strategies like making lists or videos to remember the bad times and resist returning to abusers. Abusers Moving On Quickly and Self-Healing (00:20:08) Discussion about how abusers move on fast, while survivors focus on healing and self-growth. Learning and Setting Boundaries (00:24:40) Laura and Tiffany discuss the importance of boundaries as an act of self-love and protection. Boundaries in Practice and Societal Messages (00:25:09) Practical advice on setting boundaries and recognizing unhealthy relationship dynamics. Does the Label Matter? (00:29:06) Emphasis that the label "narcissist" is less important than how someone treats you. Conditional Gifts and Manipulation (00:29:49) Examples of manipulation through conditional gift-giving and emotional control. Self-Love and Rebuilding Identity (00:31:07) The journey of learning self-love, accepting compliments, and rebuilding identity after abuse. Journaling and Tracking Progress (00:37:22) The value of journaling to observe healing progress and rediscover personal interests. Discovering Self and Enjoying Solitude (00:39:15) Tiffany describes finding joy in her own company and exploring new hobbies. Trying New Things and Finding Peace (00:41:17) Encouragement to try new activities, focus on mental health, and find peace after leaving abuse. Guided Meditation and Healing the Mind (00:42:24) The benefits of guided meditation and mindfulness for healing trauma and regulating the nervous system. Rest, Fatigue, and the Body's Recovery (00:47:40) Discussion about post-abuse fatigue, the body's need for rest, and the transition to peace. Powerful Quotes from the Episode Tiffany, 'I remember moving out of my nice, fancy house into this little tiny apartment, and I thought, this is it. I'm free. I'm going to feel amazing now. But I had no clue about the healing journey I was about to begin.' Tiffany', 'Whenever I would go back to him, it was always those good times that would come up first, which is why I got towards the end, where I would start recording myself with tears running down my face, leaving his house, so I could go back and watch it every time I craved him.' Tiffany, 'I didn't love myself. I didn't respect myself, or I wouldn't have continued to put up with the shit for so long.' Tiffany, 'It does not matter if there's a label. It does not matter if they have NPD and it's stamped on something. The point is, do they show you love? And if you don't really know what love is, let me tell you something: when you're constantly walking on eggshells or your boundaries are constantly crossed, that is not love.' Tiffany, 'It really is so much better on the other side when you're living in peace, you know?' RESOURCES: COACH WITH LAURA: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/coachwithlauraYOU'RE NOT CRAZY ebook: GET IT HEREMARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HEREJOIN THE NICE GUY RECOVERY COMMUNITY: https://www.skool.com/nice-guy-recovery-community-1517 FOLLOW TIFFANY: Podcast: https://...
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    52 mins
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