Are you the person who flips someone off in traffic, or do you feel like your partner "should just know" what you need without being asked?,. In this episode of The Framework, licensed therapist David Waselkow and entrepreneur Tyler dive into the "blind arena" of entitlement, a hidden psychological force that might be the root of your anger, road rage, and relationship conflicts

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What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Entitlement isn’t just for "snowflakes" or a specific generation; it is a universal human dilemma that affects how we drive, lead, and love. We break down:
• The Operational Definition: Understanding entitlement as the belief that you are inherently deserving of special treatment or privileges simply because of who you are.
• The "Blind Arena": Why most people are completely unaware of their own entitlements until they result in affective distress (negative feelings like rage or frustration).
• The Rules of the Road (and Home): How road rage and relationship "decrees" are actually emotional protests against the world not following your unwritten rules.
• The Workplace & Parenting Trap: Why "bossing" isn’t leadership and why parents must earn a relationship with their children rather than demanding it by title alone.
• Humility vs. Ego: Why the path to success is littered with fuckups and how to use humility to turn mistakes into growth.

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Stop the Conflict. Start the Work. Most relationship disputes are actually disputes regarding the rules,. If you find yourself constantly angry, feeling victimized by others' behavior, or struggling to maintain a high-functioning relationship, it’s time to look at the rules in your blind arena.

Relationships are work, and you don’t "deserve" a great one, you earn it through honesty, needs advocacy, and rule negotiation. Ready to unpack your rules? If you are tired of the cycle of frustration and want to develop the self-awareness necessary for a sustainable, satisfying life, let's get to work.

Schedule a consultation or therapy appointment with David Waselkow to start applying The Framework to your own life and relationships.

Are you tired of making the same New Year’s resolutions every year only to give up four to six weeks later? In this episode, we break down why the traditional approach to change is a "maladaptive coping skill" for guilt rather than a roadmap for success. We explore the psychological shift from "have-to" to "want-to" and explain why your environment, your "tribe," and your mindset are more important than any date on a calendar.

Key Takeaways from the Episode:

1. The Trap of Prohibitive Thinking: Why starting a journey from a place of self-hatred or avoidance (e.g., "I don't want to be fat") sets you up for failure from the beginning.
2. Rewriting the Rules: How to view yourself as the architect of your own relational system and why you must be willing to return to the "negotiation table" daily to refine your progress.
3. Acceptance vs. Endorsement: Learning that acknowledging your current reality is the first step toward changing it, without the need for shame or judgment.
4. Performance Over Aesthetics: Why focusing on measurable performance gains leads to faster results and long-term sustainability compared to focusing on body composition alone.
5. Ending the Isolation: The critical role of support and accountability and why working with a professional to design a custom plan is the "difference maker" for success.

Stop Wasting Time Stop waiting for "Monday" or the "New Year" to mortgage your happiness for the future. Change happens in real-time through the cumulative effect of small, daily decisions.

Ready to stop wishing and start winning? If you are ready to assemble your "news team," negotiate new rules for your life, and finally see the results your effort deserves, it's time to stop lying to yourself and take action.

Are the holidays leaving you feeling overwhelmed, depressed, or stuck in a loop of "here we go again"?

In this episode of The Framework, we strip away the marketing and the "fat guy in a red suit" to explore why Christmas is often the most difficult time of year for so many. We dive deep into a core psychological truth: It is not the event itself that causes disturbance, but rather the meaning we assign to that event. Whether you are a parent trying to "replicate the magic," someone navigating the holidays after a divorce, or a professional feeling the weight of social obligations, you might be suffering because you are playing by rules written by someone else.

In this episode, you will learn how to:

• Scrutinize the "rules" and "shoulds": Understand how family traditions and social expectations can disempower you and lead to intense stress.
• Identify your "Affirmative Why": Discover how to become the "author and architect" of your own reasons for celebrating, ensuring they align with your authentic values.
• Step out of the Victim Mentality: Learn to take a step back, breathe, and realize you have the power to change your perspective and your response in a single moment.
• Manage "Activations" in Real-Time: Use the tools of The Framework to identify when you are being triggered and take responsibility for your reactions instead of projecting them onto others.
• The "Fail Fast" Mentality: Learn why recognizing a mistake or a negative thought in the moment allows you to make a slight adjustment and move forward without guilt.

The holidays don’t have to be a recipe for depression or negative self-talk. By choosing to focus on your highest order values—whether that is family, service, or simply creating new traditions—you can navigate this season with peace and intentionality.

Take the next step in your mental health journey. If you find yourself struggling to bridge the gap between your values and your daily experience, it’s time to build a personal framework that works for you.

Stop operating under someone else's "why" and start standing in your own truth. Let’s work together to identify your triggers, scrutinize your assigned meanings, and help you gain the faith in yourself needed to navigate any season of life..

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Analogy for Understanding: Think of your mental health like a GPS system during the holidays. Most people are driving with "factory settings"—the rules and meanings installed by their parents or society.

When you hit the "traffic" of holiday stress, the GPS starts shouting "shoulds" and "oughts," leading you into a loop of frustration. Scheduling an appointment is like reprogramming your own coordinates; it allows you to set a destination based on your own values so that even when you hit a detour, you know exactly why you’re on the road and how to get where you want to go.