Why do people go back to toxic relationships—even after the breakup brings instant relief? In this episode, Jay and Antoine dig into the psychology behind why toxic love feels so hard to walk away from. From trauma bonds and emotional addiction to fear of loneliness and old childhood patterns, They break down the real reasons people get stuck in unhealthy cycles with partners who drain them.

They talk about the back-and-forth, the late-night “I miss you” moments, the confusion between love and attachment, and the belief that someone toxic will finally change. If you’ve ever found yourself returning to someone you know isn’t good for you, or if you’re trying to understand why it’s so hard to leave for good, this episode gives you clarity, language, and real-life insight.

What you’ll learn:

• Why toxic relationships create emotional addiction

• How trauma bonds keep you emotionally hooked

• Why familiarity feels safer than starting over

• How self-worth, validation, and fear play a role

• The difference between chemistry, chaos, and real connection

• How to break the cycle and choose healthier love

Whether you’re healing, reflecting, or supporting someone who keeps going back, this conversation will help you make sense of the patterns that keep people stuck. Honest, relatable, and just messy enough—this is one of those episodes you’ll want to share.

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp

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People love to say “protect your peace,” but lately that’s just become code for abandoning friends who are going through it. In this episode, Jay and Petra talk about why real friendship means showing up — even when it’s messy — and why disapproval shouldn’t equal disappearance.

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In this episode, Jay and Petra dive into one of the most important relationship questions of our time: Do people still value marriage? Together, they explore whether marriage is still seen as a lifelong commitment or if modern relationships are redefining what partnership looks like.

If you’ve ever wondered why marriage rates are declining, what marriage really means in today’s world, or if marriage still holds the same weight it once did, this episode will give you new insights.

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In this episode, Jay and Petra dig into the idea of “no strings attached” sex and whether it truly exists. Can two people really keep it casual without emotions, expectations, or complications creeping in? They break down the myths, realities, and hidden dynamics behind so-called no-strings relationships.

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Jay and Petra unpack a real-life relationship dilemma submitted by a listener. A man is now in a new relationship, but his girlfriend believes he should cut ties with his former stepchildren now that his relationship with their mother has ended—even though he helped raise them, and they are considered siblings to his biological son.

This emotionally complex episode explores the blurred lines of modern family dynamics, the role of step-parents after breakups, and the tension that arises when new partners feel threatened by past attachments.

Should love for stepchildren end when the romantic relationship does? What’s fair, and what’s crossing the line?

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In this episode, we explore the awkward side of co-parenting—when your ex gets into a new relationship and you’re suddenly forced to share parenting space with their new partner. From drop-off tension to boundary-setting and emotional triggers, Jay, Styles, and Cid break down how to handle these uncomfortable moments with maturity, grace, and clarity. If you’re navigating co-parenting with someone new in the picture, this episode is for you.

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In this thought-provoking episode, J and Petra dive deep into the topic of irrevocable damage in relationships—what it looks like, how it manifests, and why some wounds feel impossible to heal. They explore the different types of damage that can leave lasting scars, from betrayal and broken trust to emotional neglect and repeated patterns of harm. Most importantly, they unpack how couples can begin the difficult journey of repair when it seems all hope is lost—and how to recognize and avoid the behaviors that lead to such damage in the first place. Whether you’re in the middle of rebuilding or want to safeguard your relationship for the future, this episode offers powerful insights and practical tools for moving forward with honesty, empathy, and accountability.

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp

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In this episode, Jay and Petra kick things off with the Question of the Day: “Why do men with multiple women struggle with the thought of those women sleeping with someone else?” It’s a juicy one, and the duo doesn’t hold back.

Then, they jump into the main topic, inspired by a listener’s write-in. He shares that the woman he’s seeing only wants sex when she’s in the mood — leaving him feeling confused and disconnected. Jay and Petra break it all down, offering practical advice all while keeping things light, honest, and hilariously real.

Sponsored by BetterHelp — because mental health matters, especially when relationships get complicated.

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