Episode Summary:

In this episode, Rita breaks down one of the most common unconscious identities she sees in women - the Poverty Wound. If you’ve ever felt like no matter how hard you work, you still stay stuck in the same money loops… or you panic anytime things slow down… this one hits home.
You’ll learn what the Poverty Wound really is, where it comes from, how it shows up in adulthood, and how it creates codependent patterns like overworking, people-pleasing, and shrinking your worth.
Rita walks you through practical tools, nervous system steps, the exact questions to ask when you get triggered, and how to start healing this pattern with compassion, curiosity, and small intentional actions - not force.

Top 5 Takeaways:

1. The Poverty Wound is a survival identity.
   It forms in childhood from instability, fear, or lack - and becomes an unconscious pattern that runs your adult life.
   
   
2. Your body remembers even if your mind forgets.
   Anxiety, overworking, panic around money, and always bracing for impact are nervous-system responses, not “mindset issues.”
   
   
3. The core belief: “I am not safe.”
   This creates overwork, control, people-pleasing, shame, and the feeling of “not enough” (money, time, support, you name it).
   
   
4. Triggers are gold.
   Slow months, raising prices, success, investing in yourself - these reveal the wound, not your worth.
   
   
5. Healing starts with awareness + one opposite action.
   Name the wound when it shows up, breathe, regulate, ask the body questions, and take one small step that contradicts the old identity.

Timestamps:

[5:00] What the Poverty Wound Really Is
Definition, childhood imprinting, inherited scarcity patterns.

[11:00] How This Identity Forms + Real Examples
Your client story, your personal story, how the wound gets embedded in the nervous system.

[18:00] How the Poverty Wound Shows Up in Adult Life
Overworking, undercharging, panic, people-pleasing, codependent patterns.

[30:00] Triggers + The Core Belief: “I’m Not Safe.”
Raising prices, slow months, success, investing in yourself - and how the body reacts.

[40:00] The Healing Process: Awareness → Acceptance → Aligned Action
Regulating the nervous system, walking into discomfort, exact questions to ask.

Resources & Links:

Join the 30-Day Meditation Challenge - We start November 19th, 2025!
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Byron Katie’s “The Work”: https://thework.com

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Episode Summary:

In this powerful episode, Rita dives deep into the sneaky ways codependent behaviors infiltrate every area of life - from business and money to relationships and self-worth. She shares her own story of awakening to the drama and chaos that kept her stuck, unpacks how language patterns like “can’t,” “have to,” “always,” and “never” reinforce victim energy, and guides you toward awareness, empowerment, and freedom.
You’ll walk away with clarity, new awareness of hidden patterns, and practical exercises to reclaim your energy, boundaries, and voice.

Top 5 Takeaways:

1. Codependency is behavioral, not your identity. It’s a pattern you learned - and you can unlearn it.
2. Language reveals your programming. Words like “can’t” or “have to” signal victimhood and keep you disempowered.
3. The Drama Triangle runs unconsciously until you bring awareness to it - victim, rescuer, and persecutor roles all stem from the same root.
4. Rescuing ≠ helping. True support empowers others; rescuing depletes you and reinforces dependency.
5. Clarity is your superpower. Awareness + acceptance + aligned action = empowerment and freedom.
   
   

Timestamps:

[02:40] “How you do one thing is how you do everything” - the wake-up moment
[07:30] Codependency in business: rescuing clients & over-responsibility
[12:00] Money patterns: discounting yourself and overgiving
[16:30] The rescuer archetype & burnout
[21:00] The Drama Triangle explained: bully, victim, rescuer
[26:30] The power of language & Rita’s “no-fly words”
[33:40] Reflection questions & awareness practices

Resources & Links:

The Wealthy Woman Collective (8-Week Group Program ) → Learn More

Newsletter:The Art of Aligned Living → Subscribe Here

Book recommendation: Codependent No More by Melody Beattie

Affirmations:

• I choose language that empowers me.
• Clarity is my power.
• I release fear and scarcity thinking.
• I honor my needs and trust others to handle theirs.

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Episode Summary:

After a month-long pause, Rita returns with one of her most powerful episodes yet - centered on the Law of Attraction, Cause vs. Effect, and the power of receiving. She reads a heartfelt prayer for women stepping into new chapters, then dives deep into how beliefs shape reality, why “desire is divine,” and how to shift from waiting for life to change to actively co-creating with it. This episode is a reminder that you are not “too much,” your desires are sacred, and it’s okay to want more….even when life already feels good.

Top 5 Takeaways:

1. The Law of Attraction is exacting: you don’t attract what you want, you attract who you are being.
2. Cause vs. Effect: living “at effect” keeps you in blame, excuses, and the Drama Triangle. Living “at cause” means owning your energy, choices, and results.
3. Beliefs become limitations: most of us unconsciously run beliefs planted in childhood that block prosperity and joy. Question them.
4. Receiving is active: stop shooing away compliments, opportunities, and abundance. Being open is an at-cause state.
5. Desire is not greed, it’s Divine: your longings are your roadmap, proof that more is available to you.

Timestamps:

[00:00] Welcome back + prayer for women in new chapters

[05:40] Why the Law of Attraction is as real as gravity

[12:15] Cause vs. Effect: shifting out of the Drama Triangle

[20:30] Client stories of staying at effect vs. moving to cause

[28:45] Receiving as your divine feminine birthright

[36:00] Desire is not greed: it’s okay to want more

[42:15] Releasing the “I’m too much” belief + reclaiming worth

Resources & Links:

Join the FREE Wealthy Woman Deep Dive on September 25, 2025 → Register Here

The Wealthy Woman Collective (8-Week Group Program ) → Learn More

Join me on 9/17/2025 for a LIVE Workshop in Bothel, WA → More Info

Newsletter:The Art of Aligned Living → Subscribe Here

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