What if kids learned the moment they needed a skill, not months before it mattered? We sit down with Ben Somers, founder of Recess.gg, to unpack how problem-first projects, kid choice, and safe online communities can turn screens into tools and learners into builders.

Ben shares his journey from public school skeptic to education entrepreneur, influenced by first principles thinking and just‑in‑time instruction. We talk about why homeschoolers often thrive with this model, how small design choices—like letting kids switch classes—transform room energy, and what happens when a Minecraft trapdoor becomes the gateway to circuits, binary logic, and real coding. Along the way, Ben offers practical advice for parents who don’t feel “qualified” to teach: lean on adaptive tools, build daily habits, and protect your child from inherited math anxiety by modeling curiosity over fear.

We also break down “socialization” into three parts: connecting with people, navigating social norms, and maintaining a vibrant friend network. Ben explains how Recess.gg focuses on that third piece—matching kids by shared interests and giving them supervised spaces to collaborate on code, 3D worlds, and science simulations. Think of the computer as a modern wand: with the right guidance, kids can create, design, and solve problems that matter, gaining real agency in a world where nearly every job touches software.

If you’re curious how to start, Ben keeps it simple: begin with what fascinates your child, choose a safe space, and let projects pull learning forward. Explore Recess.gg, see what your kid wants to build, and watch enthusiasm do the heavy lifting. Enjoy the episode? Subscribe, share it with a parent friend, and leave a review to help more families find their path to purposeful learning.

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Hard conversations at home don’t have to turn into shouting matches. We brought in Joe Dillon, a pioneer in divorce mediation, to show how the same tools that settle high‑stakes disputes can make family life calmer, kinder, and more effective. Joe’s story starts in corporate publishing, where he learned to bridge the gap between sales, legal, and clients. That real‑world training led him to master negotiation psychology—and today he uses it to help families preserve dignity, protect kids, and reach agreements that actually stick.

We dig into practical scripts you can use tonight. Curfew on the table? Replace knee‑jerk no’s with four words that disarm: “Help me understand.” Ask for reasons, require a real trade, and agree on terms you both value. Joe explains why silence is a power move, not a punishment—giving teens the space to think, reveal the real issue, and choose better behavior. We break down conversational jujitsu, the art of stepping back, reading the emotion behind the demand, and lowering the temperature without giving up your standards.

You’ll also learn how to stop playing judge in sibling fights. Joe’s rule: don’t get in the box. Hand ownership back to the combatants with clear conditions and walk away, so they practice collaboration instead of outsourcing decisions. For friend drama, we coach I‑statements, empathy, and simple repairs that rebuild trust without blame. And for anyone edging toward divorce, Joe offers grounded guidance: tune out well‑meaning friends, seek quiet, and talk to a professional who can help you see options clearly.

If you want a home where people listen, solve problems, and keep their word, these tools will help you get there. Subscribe for more conversations with experts who make communication easier. If this episode helped, share it with a friend and leave a quick review—it helps others find the show.

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Find him on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube or LinkedIn. Or, check out his free resources for families contemplating divorce.

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What if the most powerful tool we have to reduce school violence isn’t a perfect policy, but a daily choice to truly see each other? That’s the heart of our conversation with educator and speaker Jesse Hansen, who has spent 21 years inside junior highs and high schools teaching the psychology of meanness—and how to break the hate cycle with sincere, strategic kindness.

We trace common motives behind school shootings—justice, revenge, and fame—and uncover the deeper driver connecting them: the desperate need to be seen. Jesse explains “grievance collecting,” the way small slights stack over years, and offers a practical, science-backed response teens can use when faced with cruelty. Instead of platitudes like “kill them with kindness,” she teaches a disarming script that creates cognitive dissonance: respond to active meanness with honest empathy and clear boundaries. It’s not weakness; it’s strength that rewrites the script and denies bullies the reaction they crave.

Jesse also shares the turning point that changed her own story, when a junior high principal combined firm accountability with genuine care and said, “I see you.” We talk about the power of one caring adult, how relational aggression weaponizes belonging, and why naming behaviors—exclusion, manipulation, isolation—helps kids stop taking cruelty personally. Then we dive into the Kindest Kid in America project, a nationwide effort that celebrates real acts of kindness by writing custom children’s books about the winners and surprising them at school assemblies. If violence can be contagious through notoriety, kindness can be even more contagious through recognition, storytelling, and community pride.

You’ll leave with practical language for hard moments, new ways to model strength with compassion online and off, and a simple invitation: be the adult who sees a child. If this resonates, subscribe, share with a friend, and nominate a student for Kindest Kid in America at kindestkidinamerica.com. Your story might be the one that changes theirs.

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