Darla and Nadia's love story began after the soulmate myth had already been dismantled for one of them. In this episode, they reflect on growing up with a narrow idea of what love was "supposed" to look like, and how unlearning those beliefs reshaped what they thought was possible. What followed surprised them both: a relationship that formed quickly, demanded emotional presence from the start, and gently revealed that soulmates aren't found; perhaps they're built through care, communication, and shared vision.

More About Your Hosts:

Anna Socolofsky is a queer wedding officiant and ceremony designer serving soulmates in Portland, OR and beyond. There is nothing she loves more than cheering folks on. You can learn more about her work (and inquire about booking her for your wedding!) at www.ecstaticceremonies.com.

Grace Heerman is a journalist and podcast producer who tells stories that make people stop, listen, and care. You can find out more about Grace at www.graceheerman.com. If you've been waiting for the right moment to launch a podcast that moves people, reach out to Grace at www.longtailmedia.co.

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This episode's edit is by Grace Heerman (aka Long Tail Media).

The art for our show was created by Gay Ghost Design.

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Music for this episode by Epidemic Sound.

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First-born children, where you at? Today we're diving into what happens when the hyperindependent folks among us finally (begrudgingly?) let our loved ones help us. We're sharing the vulnerable, visceral moments when we interrupted our default patterns, stopped white-knuckling it, and actually let ourselves be supported in real moments of need. Being self-sufficient has its perks, but it can also be a barrier to closeness. In this episode, we talk about how some of our closest relationships have transformed once we admitted that we couldn't, in fact, do it all alone.

By the way, welcome to our first "Just Between Us" episode! These episodes are where we (Anna and Grace) sit down 1:1 to unpack whatever big themes, lessons, or emotional earthquakes recent episodes have stirred up in our own lives. More to come!

More About Your Hosts:

Anna Socolofsky is a queer wedding officiant and ceremony designer serving soulmates in Portland, OR and beyond. There is nothing she loves more than cheering folks on. You can learn more about her work (and inquire about booking her for your wedding!) at www.ecstaticceremonies.com.

Grace Heerman is a journalist and podcast producer who tells stories that make people stop, listen, and care. You can find out more about Grace at www.graceheerman.com. If you've been waiting for the right moment to launch a podcast that moves people, reach out to Grace at www.longtailmedia.co.

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This episode's edit is by Grace Heerman (aka Long Tail Media).

The art for our show was created by Gay Ghost Design.

Music for this episode by Epidemic Sound.

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In part two of our conversation with Chloe and Kiara, we are shocked to learn that long distance doesn't have to be a death knell! In fact, it can become one of a relationship's most surprising strengths. Chloe shares her honest take on soulmates (finally!), and she and Kiara talk about how living apart has actually created more freedom, more attraction, and deeper intention in how they show up for each other.

More About Your Hosts:

Anna Socolofsky is a queer wedding officiant and ceremony designer serving soulmates in Portland, OR and beyond. There is nothing she loves more than cheering folks on. You can learn more about her work (and inquire about booking her for your wedding!) at www.ecstaticceremonies.com.

Grace Heerman is a journalist and podcast producer who tells stories that make people stop, listen, and care. You can find out more about Grace at www.graceheerman.com. If you've been waiting for the right moment to launch a podcast that moves people, reach out to Grace at www.longtailmedia.co.

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This episode's edit is by Grace Heerman (aka Long Tail Media).

The art for our show was created by Gay Ghost Design.

Music for this episode by Epidemic Sound.

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Anna and Grace share why they created the show, what makes them so obsessed with love stories (and qualified to talk about them), and how their own decades-long friendship shapes the way they think about partnership. They talk about the kinds of relationships you'll hear on the show, from committed partnerships to soul-level friendships and even post-breakup couples. And they introduce the standing question at the heart of it all: What even is a soulmate?

More About Your Hosts:

Anna Socolofsky is a queer wedding officiant and ceremony designer serving soulmates in Portland, OR and beyond. There is nothing she loves more than cheering folks on. You can learn more about her work (and inquire about booking her for your wedding!) at www.ecstaticceremonies.com.

Grace Heerman is a journalist and podcast producer who tells stories that make people stop, listen, and care. You can find out more about Grace at www.graceheerman.com. If you've been waiting for the right moment to launch a podcast that moves people, reach out to Grace at www.longtailmedia.co.

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This episode's edit is by Grace Heerman (aka Long Tail Media).

The art for our show was created by Gay Ghost Design.

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CJ and Emily don't just believe in soulmates, they believe their lives are evidence. From the day they met in college, their connection always felt certain. Now, a decade and a marriage later, they join Grace and Anna to unpack what soulmate-ship feels like for them, and what has kept them convinced their relationship was something destined.

More About Your Hosts:

Anna Socolofsky is a queer wedding officiant and ceremony designer serving soulmates in Portland, OR and beyond. There is nothing she loves more than cheering folks on. You can learn more about her work (and inquire about booking her for your wedding!) at www.ecstaticceremonies.com.

Grace Heerman is a journalist and podcast producer who tells stories that make people stop, listen, and care. You can find out more about Grace at www.graceheerman.com. If you've been waiting for the right moment to launch a podcast that moves people, reach out to Grace at www.longtailmedia.co.

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This episode's edit is by the fabulous Katie Janner.

The art for our show was created by Gay Ghost Design.

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This relationship started with... a rejection. What does it take for a friendship to withstand a "no," hold steady, and eventually become something deeper? In part 1 of our interview with Chloe and Kiara, we learn about the high-stakes, tender and messy shift from platonic to romantic love. Their story is a study in vulnerability: testing boundaries, saying the hard thing that needs to be said, and learning what it means to trust someone with the parts of yourself you usually keep hidden.

>> Stay tuned for part 2, where Chloe and Kiara tell us their take on soulmates and explain how living long distance impacts their bond (we are obsessed with their answer!).

More About Your Hosts:

Anna Socolofsky is a queer wedding officiant and ceremony designer serving soulmates in Portland, OR and beyond. There is nothing she loves more than cheering folks on. You can learn more about her work (and inquire about booking her for your wedding!) at www.ecstaticceremonies.com.

Grace Heerman is a journalist and podcast producer who tells stories that make people stop, listen, and care. You can find out more about Grace at www.graceheerman.com. If you've been waiting for the right moment to launch a podcast that moves people, reach out to Grace at www.longtailmedia.co.

Additional Links:

Do you know a little something about soulmates? We'd love to host you on our show. Learn more and sign up.

This episode's edit is by Grace Heerman (aka Long Tail Media).

The art for our show was created by Gay Ghost Design.

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We're not here for "happily ever after." We're here for what comes next. Something About Soulmates is a podcast about love as practice, hosted by best friends Anna Socolofsky and Grace Heerman. Together, they interview couples to explore the tender, funny, and complex art of loving on purpose. And every episode ends with the same question: do you believe in soulmates?

Episodes 1-3 drop November 11th, 2025!

About your hosts:

Anna Socolofsky is a queer wedding officiant and ceremony designer serving soulmates in Portland, OR and beyond. There is nothing she loves more than cheering folks on. You can learn more about her work (and inquire about booking her for your wedding!) at www.ecstaticceremonies.com.

Grace Heerman is a journalist and podcast producer who tells stories that make people stop, listen, and care. You can find out more about Grace at www.graceheerman.com. If you've been waiting for the right moment to launch a podcast that moves people, reach out to Grace at www.longtailmedia.co.

The art for our show was created by Gay Ghost Design.

Find us on Substack.