Tony shares a moment that restored his faith in humanity: a vaccine discussion in a parents’ group chat that didn’t implode.

From there, he and Frances Mei unpack why rational health conversations feel so hard to come by, especially in the U.S.—and why community matters more than ever. The episode winds down with real-life holiday talk: family traditions, work-life tension, vision boards, and how people actually reset for the year ahead.

In this episode of Social Rounds, Frances Mei and Tony take on a dynamic that almost every woman doctor has felt but few talk about openly: dating while out-earning your partner. They dig into the cultural scripts that still tell women to downplay ambition, the discomfort some men feel around female success, and the quiet identity negotiations that happen inside modern relationships.

Instead of offering tidy answers, they share real stories, ask better questions, and explore what it means to build relationships that can hold two full, complex people. It’s a sharp, honest conversation about money, ego, partnership, and the freedom that comes from refusing to shrink.

In this week’s Social Rounds, Tony & Frances Mei pull back the curtain on one of medicine’s worst-kept secrets: sycophancy. Why do so many trainees learn to smile, nod, and swallow their opinions? And how did we get to a place where disagreeing with an attending feels riskier than doing the wrong thing?

They unpack the unwritten rules of hierarchy — the quiet calculations trainees make to stay safe, the way questionable comments get brushed aside, and how all of this chips away at psychological safety and moral clarity. Along the way, they swap stories, compare notes, and even draw parallels between medical trainees and AI: two systems trained to please instead of push back.

It’s honest, a little uncomfortable, and very on-brand for Social Rounds — a conversation about power, integrity, and whether medicine is finally ready for a culture where people can say the quiet truth out loud.

Hosted by:

Tony Chin-Quee: @wheyouat

Frances Mei Hardin: @francesmeimd

Produced by: The Hippocratic Collective