In this compelling talk, @Joli.artist explores why modern life often feels like a constant state of siege and how we can consciously reverse the decay of our mental and physical health.

Drawing from recent experiences with a digital detox, stoic philosophy, and ancestral history, Joli challenges the traditional "pursuit of happiness," arguing instead for the strategic eradication of the things that cause us pain.

From the biological impact of "heart spikes" and cortisol to the inherited generational trauma of survivors, Joli examines how our environments and relationships physically reshape our brains and bodies.

She introduces a powerful perspective on the Second Law of Thermodynamics, suggesting that human conscious awareness is the only force capable of reversing "emotional entropy" and building order out of chaos.

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Key Insights from this Talk:

• The Biology of Attention: Joli discusses how constant attention-shifting on social media prevents the brain from forming the "deep, juicy grooves" required for memory and recall.

• The "One Strike" Pattern: She introduces a heuristic for identifying toxic dynamics early: if a disturbing behavior happens once, it is a pattern, and you are not obligated to wait years for it to worsen.

• Energetic Autonomy: Joli explores why being alone is often a healthier biological state than being in a "wrong" relationship that keeps the nervous system in a constant state of fight or flight.

• Mining Happiness: The talk describes the art of finding tangible, present moment joy like the color of hibiscus tea by becoming the organizing force in your own life.

• As Joli reminds us, nothing is life or death unless it is actually life or death. It is time to stop paying for problems with your time and health, and start prioritizing your peace.

Artists have been sold a lie: that you can’t create real work unless you’re broken.

Pain sells. Trauma gets streams. Heartbreak goes viral. So the industry rewards artists who only create when they’re suffering, and punishes those who make art from healing, joy, or stability.

But here’s what nobody talks about: when artists only document pain without pairing it with resolution, they’re not just expressing themselves. They’re programming audiences to expect relationships to fail, success to be traumatic, and healing to be impossible.

Art isn’t neutral. It shapes how people see the world. And right now, most of what we’re creating is making the world uglier, not more bearable.

This episode is a call to artists: You have more power than you realize. Your work reflect reality and also constructs it. So what are you building?

Topics covered:

• Why the music industry conditions artists to create only from pain

• How gangster rap was weaponized against Black communities

• The difference between processing pain and weaponizing it

• Why creating beauty is rebellion, not escapism

• How to turn lived experience into masterpieces, not just content

This isn’t about toxic positivity or pretending pain doesn’t exist. It’s about refusing to let pain be the only thing worth creating from.

Leave this world more beautiful than you found it.

Full episode: So You’re Living in a Simulation podcast.

https://joliartist.com/portal

We’ve been taught that pain requires a target. Someone hurt you, so you hurt them back. Someone triggers you, so you defend yourself. The cycle repeats until you’re chronically inflamed and physiologically worn down.

But what if the problem is that you’re treating your nervous system like it has to fight every battle you’re invited to?

Pain is information. Inflammation is a signal. That tightness in your chest when you get a certain kind of text message is your body reporting that something needs attention. Not retaliation. Attention.

The culture trains you to look outward for resolution. Closure from the person who hurt you. Validation from the person who triggered you. Apologies, explanations, admissions of guilt. But none of that actually heals the physiological response you’re having in real time. None of it stops the cortisol. None of it regulates your nervous system.

Self regulation means recognizing that lashing out when you’re in pain just adds another layer of damage. Knowing this, healing yourself first becomes structurally necessary.

This episode covers why modern serial dating creates repeated chemical bereavement, how to redirect attack energy into healing energy, and why the “little you” inside deserves protection even when no one else is listening.

Full episode: So You’re Living in a Simulation podcast. Available everywhere.

https://www.joliartist.com/portal

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