Attachment styles shape how people connect in friendships, dating, marriage, and even at work. Formed in childhood, these patterns often follow into adulthood, influencing how we handle closeness, conflict, and trust.

This week’s conversation explores the four main attachment styles—secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized—and the ways they show up in everyday relationships. From the reliable friend to the clingy partner, from the ghoster to the self-sabotager, each style carries its own strengths and struggles.

The discussion also highlights the real-life wahala these patterns can cause, from over-texting to pulling away from good partners, and offers practical steps for moving toward healthier, more secure connections. The reminder is clear: attachment style is not a life sentence, but a map that can guide growth and change.

Also in this episode: a Praise Report honoring Ekpenyong Brown Otu, also known as Mixmaster Brown, for his courage in running for Fulshear City Council; and a spotlight on why ChatGPT is this week’s “What We’re Digging.”

Is courtesy really common—or is it cultural? This week’s Wednesday Wahala dives into the everyday rules of respect that can turn into big debates. From whether you should answer the door when someone knocks, to the “shoes off” policy in your home, to how greetings shape relationships—Abby and Uchenna unpack how culture defines courtesy.We share personal stories, global traditions, and the hilarious (and sometimes tense) ways these expectations play out in Nigerian households, American living rooms, and multicultural marriages. Whether it’s being side-eyed for not greeting every elder at a party, or being labeled “unwelcoming” for asking guests to remove their shoes, this episode asks: Who really gets to decide what’s respectful?Plus, in this week’s Praise Report, we celebrate Damola Adamolekun—the Nigerian-American executive blazing trails as the youngest CEO of Red Lobster Investor Holdings. And in What We’re Digging, we spotlight Nigeria’s brand-new eVisa system—a surprisingly smooth update that just might change how you travel back home.✨ Tune in for laughter, real talk, and some cultural “aha” moments that will have you rethinking the little things we all call manners.

Episode 12 -- This week’s Wednesday Wahala unpacks a saying many women—especially Nigerian women and those in the diaspora—know all too well: “Men will spoil your white.” We’re flipping the script and focusing on a bigger truth—white doesn’t spoil itself. No matter how polished, faithful, or graceful you are, someone else’s recklessness can stain your reputation. And too often, the shame lands on you instead of the person who caused the mess.We dig into what “spoiling your white” really means—from public cheating and social media antics to reckless public comments, secret lives exposed, and shady dealings that suddenly have your name in the mix. We ask why the embarrassment so often sticks to the woman—and how to shake it off.For anyone already living through it, we share practical, quiet strategies for protecting your peace and reclaiming your dignity. From setting your own PR plan to separating your identity from someone else’s mistakes, this episode is about refusing to carry stains that aren’t yours and remembering that wahala is optional—peace is not.Plus—Praise Report: We celebrate Nigerian-American designer Niyi Okuboyejo, founder of Post-Imperial, whose blend of Yoruba Adire dyeing techniques and modern menswear has earned global acclaim. His recent collaboration for Taraji P. Henson’s 2025 Met Gala look was another proud moment for African artistry on the world stage.What We’re Digging: Crawfish season calls for a trip to Crawfish Shack in Crosby, Texas—serving up Cajun-style crawfish favorites in a family-friendly atmosphere since 2004. Open January through late May—mark your calendars!