Survivors of narcissistic abuse often carry clarity, grief, and strength at the same time. Adriana has built a powerful platform by telling the truth plainly, no sugarcoating, no appeasing. In this conversation, we talk about boundaries, energy, enablers, and what healing actually looks like when you stop performing for people who never showed up.

✨ In this episode, we cover:

1️⃣ What moment made Adriana realize this work was her calling, and why survivors often know long before they’re ready to name it 🧠💔

2️⃣ What it really means to stop feeding the narcissist your energy and how reclaiming your nervous system is the first step back to yourself 🔋✨

3️⃣ The role of enablers in narcissistic family systems, and why survivors are still expected to empathize with the very people who harmed them 🪞🚫

4️⃣ How Adriana chooses bold, unapologetic messaging, and what happens when clarity makes people uncomfortable 🎯🔥

5️⃣ The truth about no contact that outsiders often miss, and why it’s not about punishment, but protection 🛑🕊️

6️⃣ How increased visibility, including appearing on Dr. Phil, has shaped (and challenged) her mission 📺🌱

7️⃣ One simple boundary you can set today if you’re feeling stuck in a cycle with a narcissistic parent or partner 🧱💗

🎧 This episode is for anyone who’s done over-explaining, over-giving, and shrinking to survive. Healing starts when the performance ends.

Adriana Bucci is the founder of Let’s Get Your Shift Together, a coaching practice inspired by her own powerful healing journey. After nearly three decades of enduring narcissistic abuse and four years of severe chronic pain, Adriana made the choice to embark on deep inner work that transformed her life. Through this process, she not only overcame physical pain but also healed from the emotional wounds of toxic relationships and workplaces.

Her experience led her to become a certified coach dedicated to helping others reclaim their lives. Adriana holds certifications as a Professional Life Coach, Mind Body Fitness Coach, Stress Management Coach, and SafeSpace Trauma-Informed Facilitator. Today, she empowers survivors of narcissistic abuse to heal, set boundaries, and live life on their own terms.

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Betterhelp

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MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE:

📌 [Book] You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay - https://www.amazon.com/You-Can-Heal-Your-Life/dp/0937611018

📌 [Book] Healing Back Pain: The Mind-Body Connection by John E. Sarno MD - https://www.amazon.com/Healing-Back-Pain-Mind-Body-Connection/dp/0446557684

📌 [Book] Educated: A Memoir by Tara Westover - https://www.amazon.com/Educated-Memoir-Tara-Westover-ebook/dp/B072BLVM83

[Book] A Child Called It: One Child's Courage to Survive by Dave Pelzer - https://www.amazon.com/Child-Called-Childs-Courage-Survive/dp/1558743669

CONNECT WITH ADRIANA:

📌 Website: https://www.letsgetyourshifttogether.com/

📌 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/letsgetyourshifttogether

📌 Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/letsgetyourshifttogether

📌 Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@letsgetyourshifttogether

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NEW BOOK!

You Are Home: Heal from Family Trauma, Establish Boundaries, and Find a Place of Peace and Safety

Available For Pre-Order: https://amzn.to/4npkCPX

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MY TEDx TALK:

📌 TEDx Talk Not All Parents Are Good by Dr. Sherrie Campbell - https://youtu.be/deyHwDkG7oc

BOOKS BY DR....

When you separate from an abuser, the abuse doesn’t always end, it often shifts to the courtroom.

In this powerful episode, Dr. Sherrie sits down with Courtney Gilmartin, a Family Court Strategist and certified Trauma-Informed Coach, to expose how toxic individuals manipulate the legal system to continue their patterns of control, power, and psychological abuse.

We dive deep into DARVO: the tactic of Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender, and how it plays out in real-time during custody battles, hearings, and false accusations. This isn’t a legal discussion, it is a psychological and strategic one. If you’re a survivor navigating family court, this conversation is a lifeline.

🔍 What You’ll Learn:

🍏 What DARVO looks like in the courtroom

🍏 How toxic exes use false allegations, court manipulation, and smear campaigns to maintain control

🍏 Why staying calm is a strategic power move, not just emotional regulation

🍏The key to beating lies: emotionless, project-manager style documentation

🍏Practical trauma-informed tools to prepare for court, protect your kids, and preserve your peace

🍏How to reclaim agency and stop reacting to every legal threat thrown your way

Courtney Gilmartin is a leading Family Court Strategist, certified Trauma-Informed Coach, and a fierce advocate working to protect domestic abuse survivors and their children through systemic and legislative change. After experiencing a near decade-long custody battle and post-separation abuse, she turned her pain into purpose and founded Monarch Consulting Group. Her unique approach combines over 20 years of operations management in fast-paced tech startups with the critical learnings she identified while navigating the Family Court system. A tireless advocate, she lobbied extensively for New Jersey's coercive control bill, which was codified into law in 2024. After helping countless women, she has become a sought-after expert on how abusers weaponize the family court process and how to combat this abuse.

Her proprietary Monarch Method™ was built to fill a critical gap she identified in her own journey: the need for a sustainable system that empowers survivors by turning their lived experiences into compelling, evidence-based proof. This framework provides the foundation required to shift from a reactive to a proactive strategy, and the strategic advantage required to counter an abuser’s tactics and secure safer, more favorable outcomes in Family Court.

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Episode Sponsor:

Betterhelp

Going to therapy is a sign of strength, not weakness. My sponsor BetterHelp makes therapy simple, with 10% off your first month to help you get started:

https://betterhelp.com/drsherrie

BetterHelp, founded in 2013, is the world’s largest online therapy platform, offering accessible, affordable, and personalized mental health care.

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MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE:

📌 [Expert] Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola - https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/

📌 [Book] The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self by Alice Miller - https://www.amazon.com/Drama-Gifted-Child-Search-True/dp/0465012612

📌 [Book] Coercive Control: How Men Entrap Women in Personal Life (Interpersonal Violence) by Evan Stark - https://www.amazon.com/Coercive-Control-Personal-Interpersonal-Violence/dp/0195384040

📌 [Expert] Jennifer J. Freyd, PhD - https://www.jjfreyd.com/darvo

📌 [Non-profit] New Jersey Protective Moms (NJPM) - https://www.njprotectivemoms.org/

CONNECT WITH COURTNEY:

📌 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/courtney-gilmartin-780058176/

📌 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/courtney.gilmartin/

📌 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/courtneye.gilmartin/

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NEW BOOK!

You Are Home: Heal from Family Trauma,...

In this episode, singer-songwriter Nick Hames joins us to share the story behind one of his most vulnerable songs—a track that dives deep into betrayal, longing, and the painful realization that some people will never be who we hope they are.

We talk about the inspiration behind the lyrics, the power of repetition in “that’s just not who you are,” and how music becomes both a mirror and a release when writing about heartbreak. Nick opens up about balancing poetry and melody, the lessons he’s learned about love and trust, and how this song fits into the larger arc of his music career.

If you’ve ever waited for love that didn’t come, or trusted someone who didn’t deserve it, Nick’s story will resonate with you.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

🍎 The personal story that inspired Nick’s lyrics of betrayal and disappointment

🍎 Why the phrase “that’s just not who you are” became the emotional anchor of the song

🍎 How songwriting can be both cathartic and challenging when revisiting heartbreak

🍎 The role of imagery and poetry in Nick’s music

🍎 What Nick hopes listeners take away when they hear his songs

🍎 How his perspective on love and trust has shifted over time

🍎 Where this track fits into the bigger picture of his music

Growing up in Boston, MA Nick Hames was exposed to live rock and blues music at an early age – watching his uncle perform in the local club and bar scene around Boston. Since becoming a social media guitar star and performing all around New England, he has relocated to Los Angeles, CA to begin his new alt/pop/rock project “HAMES” combining pop, rock, and blues into a sound of his own.

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Episode Sponsors:

Betterhelp

Going to therapy is a sign of strength, not weakness. My sponsor BetterHelp makes therapy simple, with 10% off your first month to help you get started:

https://betterhelp.com/drsherrie

BetterHelp, founded in 2013, is the world’s largest online therapy platform, offering accessible, affordable, and personalized mental health care.

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MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE:

📌 [Song] Ghost of You (Live Performance) - https://youtu.be/gm4sXrj_58A

CONNECT WITH NICK:

📌 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@NickHames

📌 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/2mjG6ymZFW0n7VNjedCLG2

📌 Apple Music: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/nick-hames/1458244991

📌 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nickhames

📌 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nickhamesmusic/

📌 X: https://x.com/nickhamesmusic

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NEW BOOK!

You Are Home: Heal from Family Trauma, Establish Boundaries, and Find a Place of Peace and Safety

Available For Pre-Order: https://amzn.to/4npkCPX

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MY TEDx TALK:

📌 TEDx Talk Not All Parents Are Good by Dr. Sherrie Campbell - https://youtu.be/deyHwDkG7oc

BOOKS BY DR. SHERRIE:

⚉ Adult Survivors of Emotionally Abusive Parents: How to Heal, Cultivate Emotional Resilience, and Build the Life and Love You Deserve - https://amzn.to/3UhURWI

⚉ Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members: Tools to Maintain Boundaries, Deal with Criticism, and Heal...